You Know

Hello! There is a voice inside of all of us… a knowing that we either are aware of and ignore or listen to… or it is so muffled we have a hard time believing that it exists at all.  Our lives are filled with rules.  Societal and personal, moral and random.  We have stuffed our own free will and instinct in a box and have allowed what goes on outside to lead the way for us.  We have spent so much time taking direction from outside, being told what is or isn't true.  If we were tapped into our knowing as a child we were quickly pushed out of it.  If we saw something that the grown-ups didn't see then it didn't exist.  We knew that fairies were in the back yard and for a while the adults may have humored us, but at some point we were told to grow up.  In this society growing up means ignoring what happens internally in order to fit into the external world in a way that isn't distracting, creative, disruptive, abnormal, extraordinary or outside of the box.  The idea of believing something that hasn't been proven by some guys in white coats means you are weird, or different or "woo woo."   By the way, those guys in the white coats don't know shit usually (or anymore than anyone else)… it's true.  They are usually taking direction.

How is anything understood?  How do we recognize the world?  Who says one person sees it better than another or can understand it more?  We may not see it in the same way but it doesn't mean that we don't see it, or understand it.  When we let go of a right or wrong, should or shouldn't, yes or no and allow all things to be we are better able to see.  When we let go of the hierarchy or who has the connection to the source of all, who is tapped into the universe and who isn't we find our own direct line.  When we decide that we know, we know.  When we practice trusting ourselves we take all of the life that we have as purposeful and personal.  When we stop comparing our footsteps on the path with others, we are better able to see the road signs and the flowers and the scenery along the way on our own journey.  When we stop forcing our attention and begin paying attention our voice has more of a chance to speak up and be heard.

The journey to knowing is different for everyone, however, discipline is indeed called upon in just about every case.  Discipline over your thoughts, allowing what you want to hold truth as being and being diligent about nothing else permeating, for a period of time.  When a thought that takes you away from your goal (knowing) comes up, having a way to pull yourself out of going into that thought and back into your knowing is necessary.  For example, when a thought comes up for me that isn't my truth (that I am where I am supposed to be) I begin to sing.  I don't have time to allow thoughts in that undermine my knowing.  In my quiet moments, in the moments where the only focus is on me by myself, nothing is "wrong" or out of balance.  So if I perceive things being out of balance I can quickly balance them by thinking differently.  Those thoughts and those feelings around those thoughts change what I see and experience internally and externally.

So, start with you.  Your thoughts.  Your knowing is there, waiting for you to turn the volume up and listen to it speak… teach… love.



You Want It You Got It

Hello there :) Are you afraid to get what you want?  Seriously?  Are you freaked out to actually see that what you want is possible?  If not then why aren't you asking for it without reservation?  If it isn't fear that is holding you back is it because you don't believe what you want exists?

Someone at some point wanted to fly.  They thought, I want to fly like those squirrels or those lizards that have winged arms.  I want to be able to jump off of a cliff and not die.  When they owned that dream the dream was then able to come to fruition.  Somewhere, someone wanted to talk to someone who couldn't hear…  someone wanted to dance that didn't have legs, someone wanted to read a book without having to carry the book with them and an e-reader was born.  It would seem, then, that what you dream can come true.  Not dreaming would seem to be a sure way to not get what you want.  Resisting a dream before you let it be born seems unproductive, in my opinion.

I always coach my clients to dream, just dream.  You like salt and tasting different salts, cool.  Wanna do that for a living?  You can.  You want to find a way to work bicoastally and work with people, ok, in what industry do you see yourself?  Until you throw it out there the universe cannot get going making it happen!  Everything is conspiring to support you!  Until you put yourself out there how do you know what you are capable of?  If you don't risk, if you don't jump you will never know what you are able to receive in return.  If you never try how will you ever fly?

Look, if your issue isn't fear (even if you think it isn't it probably is) and it isn't doubt maybe you just don't know (which is fear).  That is cool, no worries, you can not know for now.  Sit, be, and open yourself up to your dreams, without judgement, without filtering.  See what falls out of your heart.  You may find your destiny.  You may find yourself.



Magical You Magical Me

Good day! Where have you seen magic in your life recently?  Or better yet, where have you ignored it recently, because we all have it happen we just don't always acknowledge it.  We have gotten so used to being cynical, not impressed, taking the  amazing things that happen for granted that we don't even consider magic real.  It is real and it happens on a regular basis.  We have been taught that magic is fake and words like coincidence and random have taken the place so that we don't get excited, work on creating or controlling it and enjoy how divine everything truly is, how special.

Magic is feeling.  We bring all things of similar vibration to us when we vibrate or feel anything.  Think about it.  When you are in love you radiate that energy and in turn love pours in.  When you are angry or vibrating on the level of hate you see things that vibrate on that level.  When you have feelings you find that the world shifts, magically, to match the vibration you are sending out.  You meet people who are feeling how you feel, situations match your feelings and the world, your world, falls into place accordingly.

Magic is meeting someone, in this great big world, who, after talking to them, knows someone in another state that you know.  You find out that you have lived in the same state with them 3 different times.  You also find out that you worked for the same company at one point but in different branches of it.  When you meet, you seem to know one another and things feel easy and relaxed, like you have known one another for years.  It just flows like magic.

Magic is being down, out, hopeless, defeated, bruised and battered only to have a series of events keep push you forward in ways you would never have done for yourself.  Someone comes along and says the thing you need said, gives you an opportunity you needed to get and you are in the right place at the right time.  Synchronicity it can be called.  Synchronicity is also magic.

Magic is when a weight is lifted off of you and sunlight is brought deep inside to remind you that you are lit from within.  Magic is being able to connect with what we cannot see but know is there and all there is.  Magic is energy.  Magic is you and me.  That we exist is an act of magic.

See where you find magic happening in your world.  Maybe getting this blog post was what you asked for and here it is.  You are magic and can call to you what you need at any point.  Be open to receiving it because it will surely come.  We are so often not prepared for what we ask for because we do not believe that we will actually get it.  So, know that magic is real and is demonstrated on a daily basis for everyone.



Shine Your Light!

Hi there, Shine shine shine!  We all have the ability to touch someone's life today and make them smile.  Do you find yourself holding back your love?  Why?  From who?  You have been on the receiving end of someone having a great day before.  You know what that is like?  Maybe you were in line at the grocery store, maybe you were at a gas station or standing at a bus stop.  Someone said something lovely to you and you felt it.  You felt it in your soul.  Your day was a bit sweeter after that.  Maybe you can still picture the person who told you that sweet thing.  Maybe you can do the same for someone else today.

We have so much power and we use it so rarely to really elevate the masses.  So often we believe that doing something means working tirelessly for the rights of others.  Doing something includes working tirelessly but is not, by any means the only way to do something.  Smiling at others, saying something loving, paying for a toll of the person behind you, hanging up your clothes after you try them on in a store, giving someone the ok to pass on the road, asking (and meaning it) how someone is feeling or how their day is going, and on and on and on.  When you bombard the world with kindness and love the world throws it right back at you.

What are you going to chuck at the world today?  How will you use your power to brighten someone else's day?  Maybe you can start with yourself.  By imagining you are speaking to someone else you can have quite the interaction with your selves :)  You, my sweet, are certainly the place to start sharing random acts of kindness with.

I love you.



Imagine That!

Howdy! How often do you use your imagination?  What for and when?  Do you remember when you lived in a world that was designed by your imagination.  If you do, how did it make you feel?

As children we were able to quickly get to one feeling or another by using our imagination.  Our imaginations were the highest quality, like a brand new car.  Over time the imagination gets gunked up with "reality" and "shoulds" just as a car gets gunked up with wear and tear.  At some point the ability to imagine things becomes limited, with restraints put on our thoughts by well-meaning individuals that had the same thing happen to them at some point in their lives as well.  The thing is our imaginations weren't only to produce fun and endless hours of playtime.  Just as a baby tiger plays with its siblings and then, when an adult, uses the skills learned while playing as a cub to hunt, we have an imagination as a child to learn how to use our imaginations as adults to create our world.

If you aren't a daydreaming type of person anymore (because we all were on some level) why not take some time each day to imagine your ideal world.  As you begin to wake up your imagination you may find that your world begins to shift.  You may find more reasons to smile.  Imagination, like anything else, can be made stronger, like anything else.  Encourage others to use their imagination as well.  You may find that the way you solve problems changes.  You may find that the way you see yourself shifts as well.

Happy Imagining!



What's Good???

Good morning! It is Tuesday!!  :)  Try it!!  Seriously.  Your world changes when you see what is GOOD in it. This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:




Fresh Fruit.


There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

I said goodbye to one part of my life today… and hello to the next step.  I have always had a hard time moving on from one thing to the next despite the number of times I have done so.  There is always the feeling of letting someone down that I have wanted to avoid.  The truth is we all benefit from change.  Change is growth and we all need to stimulate movement.  I have never gone backward, I have never slowed down, I have never regretted moving forward.  I love where I am and am happy to be steadily getting better.  Contentment and Ambition work well together when both are supported by and originate from love.    

See love, feel love, be love.



Work And Wait For It

Hello, How long have you abused you?  How long have you taken drugs, eaten like sh*t, lived a sedentary (or close to it) life, thought jacked up thoughts about yourself and everyone else, judged everything, allowed others to take advantage or taken advantage of others?  Are your firm, muscular.  Do you have quick reflexes?  Are you alert?  Do you sweat daily?  Do you have any addictions?  If you can say yes to any of the above questions you have work to do.  The work isn't temporary; it will take some time to undo what you have done so well and so consistently.

I have to remind many of my clients that it took them many years to get where they are and it will take 'some' time to get to a place that they have possibly never been or haven't been to in a long time.  In all honesty, it is amazing how quick our bodies, hearts and minds are when it comes to recovery.  A smoker can smoke for 20 years and undo a huge portion of the damage by quitting for less than a year.  Our bodies want desperately to be healthy, feel great and carry us to and fro.  As soon as we show a sign of wanting to actually care for them (our bodies), they work overtime trying to rid themselves, you, of the mess that had been compounded for years.  Think about it like a neighborhood that just keeps getting dumped on.  After years of neglect all sorts of mayhem sets in.  Critter infestations, rot, mold, mildew.  To clean up a neighborhood would take a lot more time than a week, or two.  The manpower and patience alone would be intense.  Cranes may be needed, teams of folks might volunteer to assist.  All in all it would not be an overnight fix.  It could be months before the smell of old, mildewed materials is lifted.

Our bodies are the same way.  We need to give more than two weeks, one month, 6 months to heal the damage we have done.  We have to get it out of our heads that we should feel better after a few days of ridding our daily intake of allergy causing, inflammatory substances.  You have to understand that we are a very complex system.  Our bodies cannot always get rid of the "poison" we ingest in the form of 'food, medicine and libation.  It may be a long process to get ourselves back to a point before we began the slow and methodical destruction of our bodies.  So next time you want to see immediate results from a quickie cleanse/diet/exercise routine ask yourself those same questions I asked you.  How long have you abuse you?  How long?  How long?




"Imagination is more important than knowledge."  ~Albert Einstein I loved Barbie Dolls when I was growing up.  I especially loved my sister's Barbie dolls because they were always in better condition than mine.  She always took better care of her toys than I did, and when she wasn't around, I would play with them!  :)  I was really diligent about being careful so she wouldn't find out, she is older than me, and at the time I was smaller than her!

I always wished that my dolls were actually real.  I would imagine that they had these intricate lives.  I would try to catch them coming alive when I wasn't looking.  I never caught them directly which doesn't mean that they didn't come alive, it just means that I never caught them.  I would tie a rope around my Barbie's and throw them out the window to pretend like they were mountain climbers or trying to escape.  There were a lot of various scenarios, all of them very realistic.  I spent a lot of time having them do things that were decidedly athletic.  Basically a prelude to my present life.

One day I was ironing.  I am sure it was something cotton which meant that I had the setting on high and with steam.  I, of course, had one of my dolls helping me out.  She was near enough to the iron that the steam hit her face.  I didn't realize how close she was until I checked in with her (believe me, they were alive) and saw that the steam created beads of water on her face that made it look like she was sweating!  Yes!!!  Sweat… how much more human can you get?  So I stopped ironing and commenced to create a scene where she was running and very out of breath, then (after putting her close to the steam from the iron) she would have to wipe her face off.  It was a blast.  I don't remember how long she ran, but I do know that she was rather sweaty.

After enough time (in my mind) I shut the scene down, finished my ironing and took my doll to her next adventure, which was, if I recall correctly, to do her hair.  Well, if you never played with dolls I will explain what the hair is made of.  Plastic.  If you don't know what plastic does near heat, I will tell you.  It melts.  And melt it did.  Her hair was stuck together like bad Phad Thai noodles.  It sucked.  I remember feeling frustrated after the surprise wore off.  That went away pretty quick as a solution rose up in me.  CUT. IT. OFF.  So I did.  She became my bald-ish doll who liked to work out.  I kept her an played with her and invariably came up with all of these scenarios where she had lost her hair or just liked it short.  She wasn't neglected that is for sure.  I rolled with it.  Being open was/is the key.

Imaginations are precious and they are what makes your reality real.  Have you had an opportunity to foster your imagination and decided that it wasn't a worth pursuit?  Maybe you could use time alone, no phone, no computer, no TV where you just play.  You create ideas, you imagine situations, you play.  You have all you need to enjoy your life right where you are.  It is all in your head, literally.  The next time you have the chance to create something magical or fantastical, DO IT.  Enjoy how that opens you up to so many other things you didn't realize you were closed to.  Just be careful of plastic and heat… they don't mix.

"Imagination is the eye of the soul."  ~Joseph Joubert




"I'm not the greatest; I'm the double greatest.  Not only do I knock 'em out, I pick the round."  ~Muhammad Ali Howdy!

I am my favorite subject.  I am also my favorite person to be with and look at.  The definition of vanity is "excessive pride in or admiration of one's own appearance or achievements."   My favorite part of the definition is the word excessive which means:  More than is necessary, normal, or desirable; immoderate.  So basically vanity is more than normal pride in or admiration of one's own appearance or achievements (it is also totally subjective).  By definition I am vain.

When I was a child, much like you, I was in awe of myself.  Mirrors were magic.  I saw my own reflection and was amazed.  I discovered my hands, my toes, my tongue, my legs.  It was all miraculous.  I discovered everyone else too and was equally astounded.  Everything was beautiful and delightful and fantastic.  I was encouraged to continue to feel this way about myself and others if I wanted.  I was told on a regular basis that I was beautiful and perfect and wonderful.  I was given the support to continue to be amazed well beyond the time when most others are feeling uncomfortable about their bodies and being.

When I lived with my father in NYC my sister and I would struggle to get to be the one to sit in front of the full length mirror.  He had a few but one was positioned to the left of the TV, in front of it was a stool.  We loved sitting on this whist admiring the view and watching the tube.  One day my dad came home with a beautiful mirror, framed, free-standing, pivoting mirror.  He told us that if we are going to look at one all day it may as well be beautiful, reflecting that which we are.  I remember that mirror and appreciated the love he brought with it when he bought it for our home.

I believe that vanity could save most people's lives.  I believe being a bit more vain would get people up and moving.  For me, vanity or pride is what keeps me from believing that I deserve less than looking and feeling great.  It motivates me to seek out answers to health issues.  It helps me rebound from devastation.  My vanity refused to let me believe that I am anything less than AWESOME!  It also allows me to support other people in their journey towards beauty, inner and outer.  I am not jealous of anyone because I am so proud of myself, I don't have the desire to ever be anyone else.  I am not envious of anyone because I am in awe of me.  I feel strongly that I am doing what I am supposed to be doing, am where I am supposed to be, and going where I need to, because I couldn't do anything less.  Vanity is one of the best things about me :) and I will say so myself.

I am not the only one that believes that vanity is amazing, you do too.  Look at who we admire: people who have strong work ethic, look great, do great, and feel great.  We all know, inside ourselves, that vanity is pretty cool.  Many of us spend a lot of time putting others down who are vain because it is what we admire… and that which society has told us to squash.  That it is somehow against spirituality.  We were given this body, this mind, this soul to do what with???  Ignore?  Neglect?  Put down?  Disrespect?  If we truly understood how miraculous we were as babies why would we stop as teenagers and adults?  Why do we suddenly tell children, after being so impressed by their amazement with themselves, to stop being so into themselves, that it is 'bad' to enjoy all that you are.  At some point we beat the love and the vanity out of each other…  Where does it get us?  Working jobs we hate because we don't feel like we deserve better… staying in situations that don't work but who are we to want more for ourselves?  Vanity can be the catalyst to make changes and reach new heights of joy and fulfillment.

Someone who isn't vain on some level isn't going to care how they look, what people think or how others feel… because they take no pride in themselves they have a hard time being proud of others.  If you want to build others up you must first start with yourself!

Now back to the definition.  I am excessive in just about everything that I do, by definition.  I work out more than normal, I am fitter than most people, I eat better than most, I laugh more, I talk a hell of a lot more and I try my damnedest to love as many folks as I can… excessively if you will.  Personally, I don't have an issue with someone feeling better about themselves than most.  Look around at how many people neglect their physical, psychological, spiritual and emotional health.  A little vanity could go a long way.

Just sayin'.

"Vanity is so secure in the heart of man that everyone wants to be admired:  even I who write this, and you who read this."  ~Blaise Pascal



No Clouds

Howdy, I am safely in the Big Apple and ready to see folks and hear folks and do 'thangs' and what not.  I have to say that it is HOTTTT.  Like too hot.  90-100's hot.  I don't miss the heat living in Seattle.  I enjoy sleeping soundly in the cool temperatures we have there.  Waking up to this heat is sort of stressful.  You wake up knowing right away that you have to move according to the heat.  You are drained a bit before you begin anything and you (or at least me) try to find somewhere that has some air conditioning… because my brother's place doesn't have any.

I spent last night with my father, brothers (two of them), sister-in-law, two of my nephews and a groovy poet named Neiel.  My father's place is a creative person magnet.  On any given day you will find poets, dancers, singers, painters, writers, etc.  In all honesty, that also makes up my family (except for the dancers, we don't have any dancers in the immediate family).  The evening began with a listen to my father's new album, produced by my brother Pharoah (an amazing singer, writer and producer), with vocals by my sister-in-law & brother-in-law.  We danced, we sang, we had a blast.  My nephews got in on the action after they played a game of chess (the 11 year old beating the 14 year old and letting us all know about it).

What follows is a little over 5 minutes of a hilarious evening of acting/improv and just adorableness.  The poem is called "No Clouds" and as his father said, I would bet that it wasn't written down!  Ha…

Here it is: No Clouds



It's A Bird, It's A Plane, It's Aina

HiHo! Recently I had a dream that I was flying.  It was more like levitation than actual flying.  I lifted off of the ground after seeing other people do it.  It wasn't a dream that felt like I was asleep.  It was more like an experience and it felt amazing.  I was able to lift off once without much effort.  It was like a switch just flipped and I was able to push away from the earth.  The next time I tried it was harder.  I had begun to question my ability…

Isn't that funny?  I had already done it and yet I was afraid that it was a fluke and my doubt created the difficulty in realizing my ability to fly.  Have you ever  been in that situation before, questioning something you had already done?  I imagine so, otherwise we wouldn't have a saying called beginner's luck.  When we do something for the first time, there is no luck involved.  There is openness, lack of judgement, belief, possibility, and faith.  When we do it for the second time all of the previous ways of being are now strained a bit.  We begin to judge if we can repeat or actually do it if we failed the 1st time.  We aren't as open because we have a history and we are trying to do what we did instead of just doing it without pressure.  We lack faith because we have, in our past somewhere, failed to do something consistently.  Basically, we take away the things that make it possible and then decide that the only reason it happened was luck.  The first time is always the greatest because we create obstacles to repeating it.  It is no longer new and our curiosity turns to hope and expectation.  How can we hold onto the curiosity with each attempt?  How can we let go of the expectation so we can give rise to the exploration?

I believe that we have to work on how we think about EVERYTHING.  Paying close attention to the number of times we question, doubt, or simply refuse to entertain something as a possibility.  Being open isn't something that we automatically get back, there is effort involved.  When we were children, most of us were open to learning things without reservation.  We have had years and years of being told 'no' or 'you can't' or 'it won't work' by parents, friends, teachers, and the like. In turn we are where we are, with beginners luck as a truth and success as a 'hard to come by' experience.  We have a lot of unlearning to do before we are open to each moment being new again.  However, it is possible; it's possible quickly if you want it to be, and more importantly if you believe it to be.

So go on, believe that you can fly… you just might take off.



Sweet Dreams

"All human beings are also dream beings.  Dreaming ties all mankind together."  ~Jack Kerouac Howdy!

I was recently asked to talk a bit about dreams.  One of my friends has been having recurring dreams and wanted to know what I thought about them.  I loved that she asked me to discuss it because I LOVE talking about dreams.

When I was a little girl I had a recurring dream/nightmare.  There was a monster that was built out of colored, translucent blocks.  I dreamt about this monster quite a bit and would talk with my mother about it.  I also had dreams (and sometimes still do) where I am walking along and the floor begins to open up, or rather, the strips of wood begin to fall away revealing an abyss.  I have to strategically walk along the parts of the floor that are left in order to not fall.  This is a dream that has morphed into stairs becoming too narrow to walk down safely and/or too steep.  I also have dreams that predict something (usually completely benign) or happy, fantastical dreams that are recurring.

One dream I have had over the years was about my ex-boyfriend, let's call him Doug.  Doug and I were college sweethearts, enemies and then post college sweethearts.  He was what I basically used as the standard for every relationship after we ended. Our relationship had been healthy: he did his thing, I did mine and then we had our shared life.  My relationship with him was the first time I knew I could be faithful.  Up until that point monogamy was just some idea that existed for others :)  He was the love of my young life at that point.

So after we finally called it dunzo for real I went on loving and losing and dreaming.  Yep, dreaming about a future that never existed and wouldn't.  Usually the dreams would come when I was in a relationship that wasn't going well.  After a while I began to see the dream as a death knoll for the relationship I was currently in.  I would sometimes have to be talked out of calling Doug after one of these dreams by a dear friend who gave me great advice.  She said,  "We always have one, the one that got away.  The one that affects you in a way that no one else will.  It is normal for you to long for those times, those feelings especially when you aren't feeling good things now."  (or something like that, you get the gist).  After he was married I really had to chill out on the desire to call and go over the dreams I had just had (usually we had fallen in love all over again and things were rosy and sunny, of course).

I know that my Doug dreams were information.  They gave me the feeling I wasn't getting in my waking world.  They helped me remember what it was like when I knew how I felt, instead of the feelings I was having in the current relationships where I was forcing feelings.  The dreams reminded me that I wasn't dead inside, which I would sometimes believe when I was in a relationship that wasn't passionate.  The dreams stirred in me a desire for things to change.  These dreams have always been gifts.

Dreams can be a place for growth and healing.  They can be a place where we work out something that we cannot in the waking/astral world.  Both places are reality, just different dimensions, but both are real.  The best thing about the astral or dream dimension is the rules.  There really aren't any!  You are able to fly, rewind, go into the future or the past, be different people (or simply you in different bodies), you can do anything.  Time doesn't exist the way it does here.  Things happen in an instant in the dream/astral world which is very different from the waking/material world.

Interpreting dreams is something that I don't feel is necessary, in other words, I don't read the books that say when you dream about birth someone is going to die, or when you dream about a crow someone will crap on your head.  I believe that you aren't going to actually recall enough of a dream to be able to interpret it clearly anyway.  I counsel people on going with their gut and their emotions when they wake.  How did the dream make you feel.  What were some of the first thoughts about your dream when you woke?  Recurring dreams however are different.  I believe there is something your subconscious/astral self is trying to get across to you.  It took me years to realize why I would dream about Doug.  Once I came to the aforementioned conclusion about those dreams I had an "a-ha" moment.  I think you will know what the recurring dreams are about when you are ready.  Truthfully, you may already know and probably do.  Be open to receiving the information you are seeking and it will come.

If you want some help remembering some of your dreams or working on getting better at manipulating things in the astral dimension there are a few great books out there.  One that I super is called, Dreaming Your Problems Away by Dr. Bruce Goldberg.

Until later, keep dreaming!  Please reply if you have more lucid dreams after reading this post :)



"I dreamed I was a butterfly, flitting around in the sky;  then I awoke.  Now I wonder:  Am I a man who dreamt of being a butterfly, or am I a butterfly dreaming that I am a man?"  ~Zhuangzi


Why hello there! "Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you.  Never excuse yourself."  ~Henry Ward Beecher

How many times have you said any or all of the following:

I can't because I am tired.

I don't have any time.

I am too busy.

I am not thin enough.

I am not strong enough.

I don't have enough money.

I don't have enough friends.

I don't feel like it.

I can't.

That is impossible.

There isn't enough _______.

"I attribute my success to this:  I never gave or took an excuse.  ~Florence Nightingale

We make excuses for ourselves because it is more comfortable than risking, than coming out of our safe little jacked up cocoon and actually seeing what we are capable of.  We say that we are too busy, too tired, not skilled, not rich etc. when the real situation is we have all the tools we need to do whatever we want.  First, we have to stop making excuses.  We have to stop allowing ourselves to get out of something because we may have to work at it.  When you allow yourself to be responsible for what you do and what you decide not to do you realize just how truly capable you are.

We choose to live where it is comfortable, even if we are unhappy.  The unhappy place may be safer than pushing the edges of the box you've constructive to live in.

What can you choose to own right now?  What will you stop making excuses around?

It is easier than you think.  When you hear yourself giving a reason around your behavior simply stop and do what your highest self would do.  Period.  No excuses.



"Pessimism is an excuse for not trying and a guarantee for personal failure."  Bill Clinton

ps, I LOVE music, as you must know and I LOVE Alanis Morissette.  Here are the lyrics to a fantastic and appropriately titled (for this post) song.


Why no one will help me 

I am too dumb I am too smart 

They'll not understand me 

I am lonely 

They'll hate me 

And there is not enough time 

It's too hard to help me 

And god wants me to work 

No resting no lazy 


These excuses how they served me so well 

They've kept me safe 

They've kept me stuck 

They've kept me locked in my own cell 


I'm too far from home 

It takes far too much energy 

And I cannot afford to 

No one will ever see me 


These excuses how they served me so well 

They've kept me safe 

They've kept me stuck

They've kept me locked in my own cell 


These excuses how they're so familiar 

They've kept me blocked 

They've kept me small 

They've kept me safe inside my shell 


Bringing this into the light 

Shakes their foundation 

And it clears my sight 

Now my imagination 

Is the only thing that limits 

The bar and its rise to the heights 


No one can have it all see 

I have to they want me to 

And I can't let them down 

I'll never be happy 


These excuses how they served me so well 

They've kept me safe 

They’ve kept me stuck

They’ve kept me locked in my own cell 


These excuses how they're so familiar 

They've kept me blocked

They've kept me small 

They've kept me safe inside my shell


"To Teach is To Learn Twice Over" ~Joseph Joubert

"By learning you will teach; by teaching you will understand."  ~Latin Proverb Happy Weekend!!!  It is Friday and I wanted to wish you well for the weekend.  I also wanted to tell you a brief story about someone I adore.  He is a man who I met at the YMCA over 2 years ago.  He was sitting on a bench outside of a group x room waiting for someone.  I sat down next to him and asked him how he was.  We struck up a conversation right away.  He told me how he spent the summers in Idaho studying Wolves.  I called him a renaissance man.  His wife was an instructor there and they would both soon become two of my dearest friends.

In the fall of 2011 he found out that he was going to be moving for grad school and then leaving the country for a few months to research Snow Leopards (there is a lot more to this story than I am giving you… I will save it for another time).  He decided that it was time to really get in shape and wanted to work with me.

I have been working people out, training their minds and bodies since 1996.  Some people are open to doing what I need them to in order to reach their goals and others, well, let's just say that I earn my living.  Now my friend was a completely different story.  He was ready to make some big changes.  He was open to digging into himself.  He was so articulate around his journey to fitness.  He communicated every nuance of his change to me during our stair workouts or HIIT sessions.  He did everything I asked without hesitation.  Watching his mind and body grow and change was like watching magic before my eyes.

I am blessed with doing what I love every single day and I never take it for granted.  I have been successful over the years and am steadily moving forward in my own personal growth and career.  Along the way I have had help with my forward progress.  Mr. WolfSnowLeopard propelled me forward in ways that I can barely express.  The teacher/student relationship is fluid, with each person playing both roles.  Through him being an amazingly open and ready pupil I became the best teacher that I believe I ever had up to that point.  I have always learned from those who have allowed me to teach but he was an exception; we were both ready to rise to another level of self understanding, dedication, growth and awesomeness.

So I want to thank Mr. WolfSnowLeopard for brightening my light.  I also want to thank all of my other students, clients, riders, and athletes for allowing me to be a part of their journey.  Let's keep shining!

"We cannot hold a torch to light another's path without brightening our own."  ~Ben Sweetland

"The true aim of every one who aspires to be a teacher should be, not to impart his own opinions, but to kindle minds."  ~F.W. Robertson

(Good Luck Mr. WSLMan!  Rock on in Tajikistan!!!)



Be Your Own Master

Good Thursday to you! What if the only thing you were supposed to be great at was being you? My sister has said many times, "the only work you have here in this life is you… you are your work." I have found this to be sooo true in sooo many ways (in every way actually). However, I have seen this concept totally and completely irritate, confound and simply piss others off. Most people have no desire to master themselves. It is "too hard" to pay attention to everything that we do, some have said. I have also heard, "It is impossible to be aware of everything we do." To that I say, well, if that is what you believe then that will be your reality. However, have you ever tried? Do you know what it is like to spend most of your time mastering your thoughts, your behaviors, yourself? True power comes when you are your own master.

You are born into this world knowing what you want immediately and not doubting that it is yours to be had. You are connected to the world you prefer in a way that is somewhat unshakeable at first.  You spend an amazing amount of time working on shaping your world.  Learning how to talk so that you can get more of what you would like.  We have all heard children talk about how they see the world and we sometimes consider their viewpoints "magical" due to the fact that they don't always correspond to the views we have of the world. We also have felt a sense of loss at the fact that we don't seem to have that "magical" thinking anymore. Well we do have magical thinking, it is our birthright and all it takes is being your own master mind.

We spend years working on mastering this or that or the other… but balk at the idea of mastering ourselves. Most people will spend 8 or 9 hours straight working for someone, typing on the computer, watching TV or talking to friends/family; yet spending the same amount of time practicing how to make what we believe in a reality is "too hard." The reality of being intentional about our thoughts, shaping them around our ideals and not letting them go despite the appearance of things on the outside is not something that most people are waking up at 7am to do. When we were young we saw what we wanted to see and our worlds conformed for us. I am always amazed at the saying of "God takes care of fools and babies." I think I understand that the fools and the babies have magical thinking in common… they believe that the world is their to support them and so it does. I don't see anything foolish about that.

What if you spent a period of time daily where you were intentional with your thoughts. See what it is like to be relentless in your discipline around only allowing thoughts that supported your ideals about everything. For example, I have what some say is 'parking karma.' This means that I always get the best, or nearly the best, parking spot when I am out and about. I see the world in this way (around this subject): There is a spot for me when I need it. It is the only thought I allow in when it comes to parking.

"Every appearance in the visible world tends to produce a corresponding form in the mind which observes it, and this can only be prevented by holding the thought of TRUTH."  (Truth being what you would prefer to be such as parking spots, health, abundance). ~Wallace Wattles

Have fun playing with your own personal magic!!!