discipline

Don't Stop, Get It, Get It

Howdy, Whatever it is that you are doing in order to reach some goal or another you will need one thing: discipline.  You will need to keep doing whatever it is that you are doing and not stop when you feel like the results aren't coming.  My favorite line from anyone is, "I have tried everything."  I want to complete the sentence with, "and stuck with nothing."  How can you wonder why you haven't gotten where you wanted when you give up on everything?

Getting somewhere you haven't been isn't some glamorous event.  At the end of your journey, when you have reached your goal, others may see it as some overnight transformation.  You are the only one that really knows (besides your partner, therapist and maybe a friend or two) what you went through to get to where you are, starting from where you were.  Reaching your dreams is a lot of work, a lot of struggle, a lot of letting go and a whole lot of holding on.

People ask me on a regular basis if I get sleep.  I do get sleep, but it comes around my getting my dreams accomplished.  I know what I want and where I am going and sleep sometimes gets in the way if it is hours long.  So two hours here, 3 or 4 there sprinkled with the 20-45 minute snoozes I do while waiting to do something else.  I get my rest, just not in the way most do.  I have a goal, several, and that requires me to do things differently than others may want me to do… or understand.  My goals aren't about others so why would how I reach them be about anyone else's idea either?  I also have to remind myself that I set this goal and why (especially when I am exhausted).  Discipline.  Doing it.  Making it happen.  Even when I don't want to.  In all honesty, I always want to do what works for my goals.  Do I always?  No.  But 98% of the time I am working in a way that will and is fostering my reaching my goals.

What goals are you currently wanting to reach?  How have you sabotaged, if at all, your goals?  What scares you about reaching your dreams?  How long have  you had them and how many times have you given up on your dreams?  Sticking with something is hard when you don't know the outcome.  Well, you never know the outcome of anything, save for life.  Death is always the outcome.  So what we do between the birth and the death is always the unknown.  You aren't actually sure of anything and risk things on a daily basis regardless.  So what exactly is the issue with doing something and not letting it go just because your goals haven't been reached in a month.  You will need to take steps.  We are, all of us, trying to be somewhere we aren't instead of embracing where we are and looking forward to the inevitable change that we are heading towards.  So maybe the first step is small and seemingly insignificant.  Do it anyway.  Who cares what and how you judge it, just do it.  Then do it again.  Then again.  Until it is just what you do, you see change, and then it will be off to the next dream.

xo

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What's Good???

Good morning! It is Tuesday!!  :) This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

Beauty.

Naps.

Discipline.

Sweat.

Pushing Past Limits.  

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

We spend a lot of time making excuses for why we do not do what we know we need to in order to reach our goals, to take care of ourselves, to live an awesome life.  We allow ourselves to do less than our best because we feel it is too hard to always make the effort to do better.  We cheat ourselves when we turn a blind eye to our less than ideal behavior.  Pay attention and hold yourself accountable.  Own your choices fully so you can fully choose what is best for you.     

"We are what we repeatedly do.  Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit." ~Aristotle

"If you do not conquer self, you will be conquered by self."  ~Napoleon Hill

Have you made any excuses today?

xo

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Be Your Own Master

Good Thursday to you! What if the only thing you were supposed to be great at was being you? My sister has said many times, "the only work you have here in this life is you… you are your work." I have found this to be sooo true in sooo many ways (in every way actually). However, I have seen this concept totally and completely irritate, confound and simply piss others off. Most people have no desire to master themselves. It is "too hard" to pay attention to everything that we do, some have said. I have also heard, "It is impossible to be aware of everything we do." To that I say, well, if that is what you believe then that will be your reality. However, have you ever tried? Do you know what it is like to spend most of your time mastering your thoughts, your behaviors, yourself? True power comes when you are your own master.

You are born into this world knowing what you want immediately and not doubting that it is yours to be had. You are connected to the world you prefer in a way that is somewhat unshakeable at first.  You spend an amazing amount of time working on shaping your world.  Learning how to talk so that you can get more of what you would like.  We have all heard children talk about how they see the world and we sometimes consider their viewpoints "magical" due to the fact that they don't always correspond to the views we have of the world. We also have felt a sense of loss at the fact that we don't seem to have that "magical" thinking anymore. Well we do have magical thinking, it is our birthright and all it takes is being your own master mind.

We spend years working on mastering this or that or the other… but balk at the idea of mastering ourselves. Most people will spend 8 or 9 hours straight working for someone, typing on the computer, watching TV or talking to friends/family; yet spending the same amount of time practicing how to make what we believe in a reality is "too hard." The reality of being intentional about our thoughts, shaping them around our ideals and not letting them go despite the appearance of things on the outside is not something that most people are waking up at 7am to do. When we were young we saw what we wanted to see and our worlds conformed for us. I am always amazed at the saying of "God takes care of fools and babies." I think I understand that the fools and the babies have magical thinking in common… they believe that the world is their to support them and so it does. I don't see anything foolish about that.

What if you spent a period of time daily where you were intentional with your thoughts. See what it is like to be relentless in your discipline around only allowing thoughts that supported your ideals about everything. For example, I have what some say is 'parking karma.' This means that I always get the best, or nearly the best, parking spot when I am out and about. I see the world in this way (around this subject): There is a spot for me when I need it. It is the only thought I allow in when it comes to parking.

"Every appearance in the visible world tends to produce a corresponding form in the mind which observes it, and this can only be prevented by holding the thought of TRUTH."  (Truth being what you would prefer to be such as parking spots, health, abundance). ~Wallace Wattles

Have fun playing with your own personal magic!!!

xo

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