Work And Wait For It

Hello, How long have you abused you?  How long have you taken drugs, eaten like sh*t, lived a sedentary (or close to it) life, thought jacked up thoughts about yourself and everyone else, judged everything, allowed others to take advantage or taken advantage of others?  Are your firm, muscular.  Do you have quick reflexes?  Are you alert?  Do you sweat daily?  Do you have any addictions?  If you can say yes to any of the above questions you have work to do.  The work isn't temporary; it will take some time to undo what you have done so well and so consistently.

I have to remind many of my clients that it took them many years to get where they are and it will take 'some' time to get to a place that they have possibly never been or haven't been to in a long time.  In all honesty, it is amazing how quick our bodies, hearts and minds are when it comes to recovery.  A smoker can smoke for 20 years and undo a huge portion of the damage by quitting for less than a year.  Our bodies want desperately to be healthy, feel great and carry us to and fro.  As soon as we show a sign of wanting to actually care for them (our bodies), they work overtime trying to rid themselves, you, of the mess that had been compounded for years.  Think about it like a neighborhood that just keeps getting dumped on.  After years of neglect all sorts of mayhem sets in.  Critter infestations, rot, mold, mildew.  To clean up a neighborhood would take a lot more time than a week, or two.  The manpower and patience alone would be intense.  Cranes may be needed, teams of folks might volunteer to assist.  All in all it would not be an overnight fix.  It could be months before the smell of old, mildewed materials is lifted.

Our bodies are the same way.  We need to give more than two weeks, one month, 6 months to heal the damage we have done.  We have to get it out of our heads that we should feel better after a few days of ridding our daily intake of allergy causing, inflammatory substances.  You have to understand that we are a very complex system.  Our bodies cannot always get rid of the "poison" we ingest in the form of 'food, medicine and libation.  It may be a long process to get ourselves back to a point before we began the slow and methodical destruction of our bodies.  So next time you want to see immediate results from a quickie cleanse/diet/exercise routine ask yourself those same questions I asked you.  How long have you abuse you?  How long?  How long?



Fun - Part I

Howdy!!! "People are always good company when they are doing something they really enjoy."  Samuel Butler

There are so many people who HATE their job.  Seriously, they are miserable.  You might be one of those people, I dunno.  Yet, they stay for years sometimes.  They refuse to give up on a dream that turned into a nightmare all the while sucking the very marrow out of their now swiss cheesed bones.  It is an unfortunate situation that always amazes me.  I believe that people think the money they have grown accustomed to acquiring in those life draining jobs is somehow worth every ounce of their being.  Or maybe they just get conditioned to being unhappy.

Actually, when you hate your job so much at some point 'fun' becomes a distant memory.  Fun becomes a word that seems wrong when you spell it correctly, (as if you ever use the word when you hate your job).  Fun becomes a chore, something on your 'to do' check list.  You begin to schedule fun.  Yep, even fun becomes depressing when you hate what you do most of the time.

This is serious.  Seriously serious.  It needs addressing and redressing and maybe even a dress, if it makes it fun.

I have been thinking about the whole fun and job thing for a while.  I have always, for the most part, done what I have loved.  When I found myself at a job that ended up taking more than it gave I somehow found my way out… a few times I was ejected and other times I ran for the hills.  Either way, if it ain't fun, it ain't gettin' done.  I have always understood that joy was the purpose.  Giving and getting.  Drudgery isn't living, it is imprisonment.  That isn't something that I have any desire to experience.  Blech!

I wanted to share a fantastic email by a professional cat sitter after he stopped by to pick up something he left while she wasn't home.  Yes, he makes a living watching people's kitties (too many jokes, seriously) isn't that fantastic.  He also keeps things awesome by sending the pet owners emails like the one below.  Enjoy and you may want to adapt his preparedness attitude, he makes a strong case for it.  Enjoy!


They barely had water scraping the bottom of the water bowl. I filled the usual water bowl, and set out another across from the fridge. I hope that it is not a bowl that you do not mind being touched by kitty tongues.

I put out enough water for my cats to last a few days in case something happens - death, madness, overwhelming sadness, earthquake, the near total breakdown of our society, indigestion - that might keep me from home for two or three days. Just in case.


Now I am pretty sure Duane is not crazy, ok, not sure but am assuming.  He is just having fun.  Prior to this email he called her to ask about stopping by.  When she told him it was ok he asked her if he could also bake oatmeal cookies!

When you put fun as a driver in your world you may have the where-with-all to actually be funny, to send random emails, to laugh uncontrollably, to skip instead of walk, to sing when a song comes on instead of silently listening to it.  You could quite possibly become a very happy person indeed.



What Do You Want To Do?

"Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life."  ~Wayne Dyer What do you love to do?  What is the thing that, when you are doing it, brings a smile to your face?  When do you feel the most fulfilled?  Is this the work that you are doing in the world?  Why not?  So many of us feel that the work that we do to make money cannot necessarily be the work that makes us the happiest.  Where did this notion come from?  Who said we wouldn't be able to make a living doing what we loved?  Why have we kept this story going so strong as to make it the 'truth' for so many?

I don't believe anyone wants to be living a life where they are waiting for happiness.  When we wait for something to happen we miss all of the good stuff that is happening right now.  When we put off doing what we love, we put off love and I am not sure how that is ever something we want to do.  What if you told yourself a different story.  What if you told yourself that you didn't have to be starving to be an artist.  What if you told yourself that there aren't too many yoga instructors, photographers, doulas.  What if you didn't worry about the market being saturated with something that you too wanted to produce?  What if you didn't judge what you want to do before you even said it out loud.  What if you believed that there was and always will be enough room for each of us to do what we love and be supported in doing it.  How would that change things?  Who are they who make us believe these things?  Why do we go along and support so many ideas that oppress us?  It is like an animal going into a cage and closing the door behind him. What is the point of being locked into an idea that doesn't feel yummy?

We are afraid to leave the comfortable place of knowing what we are supposed to do.  What we are capable of has been decided by generations before us so we don't have to do the work to make it up as we go along.  When you take away the road map to the perfectly normal and expected life you take away your supposed safety net.  The funny thing is, though you may be living this normal life of obligation and responsibility there is nothing perfect about it.  You may struggle with motivating to do the work you have given up you joy to do.  You may live for the things that job can buy you, but still feel a bit empty.  You may be holding onto the idea that there will be a big pay-off in the end.  Yep, there will be and it might be death.  Just sayin'.  I don't mind breaking it to you, nothing is promised and no one is getting out of this whole life thing alive. Why would you ever think it was ok to live a life that isn't full of life?

The risk associated with doing what you love pales in comparison to the joy you get from doing what you love.  I understand that you may not want to walk into your job tomorrow and throw down you two-week resignation… but, if you know what you really want to do or have any idea what that is, then you are obligated to yourself to go toward that which is most healing and loving.  When you love yourself and share that with the world, the world is filled with that love.  Just as it is filled with the pain of so many people doing what they loathe.  Think about it.

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.  Don't be trapped by dogma--which is living with the results of other people's thinking.  Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice.  And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become.  Everything else is secondary."  ~Steve Jobs



"You should exercise unrelenting discipline over your thought patterns.  Cultivate only productive attitudes… You are the product of everything you put into your body and mind."

~I Ching no. 27

Parks & Recreation

Woohoo For Friday! I saw a Parks & Rec truck today and it got me thinking.  I remember when that kind of job would have been something I was open to.  The idea of driving a truck, being outside the whole day, talking to people and having someone you drive with usually, yep, that would have been appealing.  I also remember when that was the only job I thought I could actually wrangle, so there was a pang of an old desperate feeling that also crept up.  I then realized how all of those crazy ass, ridiculous jobs I have had, and in some ways hated, got me where I am today.  Seriously.  If I hadn't driven that FedEx Truck I wouldn't know that I would NEVER do that for any amount of $.  It was one of the most unfulfilling jobs I have had, except the driving training was a blast.  I LOVE driving big trucks and I love defensive driving courses.

I have worked at a store where I picked out people fruit and veggies because they were not allowed to touch them:

Customer:  I would like a bunch of bananas for this week, a pineapple for today, avocados for tomorrow, and lettuce.

Me:  Ok, Just one moment.

Then I would bag it all, ring 'em up and off they would go.

Full service produce.

The Middlesex Fruitery.

Seriously an AWFUL job.

If I were to list all of my jobs or attempted careers it would take too long and you would lose interest… so I will save it for a later blog post.  However, looking at that Parks & Rec truck today got me thinking that job, for those guys, may be a job they hate that will bring them to one they love.  A job that at some point they will be so done  with that they will refuse to ever settle again.  Maybe it is to them like the MIddlesex Fruitery job was to me, or maybe it is like my shoe shining job, exciting and fun.  You never know.

Remember that we are all where we are supposed to be.  You cannot save anyone but yourself.  I don't mean you don't offer things that are available or lend a hand if you have it to lend.  It means that there is no need to feel bad, sorry, or guilty over someone experiencing life.  You can, if you choose, put that pitying energy out there, or you can choose to put the energy out there that helps guide them to their life's purpose.  I know that all of the jobs I had have allowed me to NEVER want to be in a situation where I am not, in most ways, running my own show.  Or, at least, working in the industry that feeds my soul.

It takes most of us a long time to find our direction, only to change it repeatedly.  Sometimes it may seem like we are hitting a wall or even going in circles.  All of the set backs, switch backs and back tracks are moving you forward, whether you can see it or not.  Have faith, keep smiling and forge ahead, there is light there.



I'm Stuck & I Can't Get Out!!

Yo! Is there an area that you are feeling 'stuck' in at the moment.  A relationship, a situation, a job?  Do you feel like you don't have any good options for getting 'unstuck' so you must stay put?

You are never 'stuck' in a situation.  You may choose to stay somewhere, unpleasant or not.  When you deny that you are choosing where you are you miss out on being in charge of your life and owning the lessons that are designed specifically for you.  Whether it be work or love, being stuck is never true.  In reality we stay where we are because it serves us in some way or another.  When we are finished we are finished.  There is little that can be done when anyone has had enough.

I have had many jobs in my life and some I have loved and others I have loathed.  I have felt like I hadn't a choice, whether it was due to 'needing' the money or feeling responsible for my duties at the position.  I have spent long hours working for someone else's dream and resenting the lack of praise or support.  I have felt like I 'had' to do something and didn't have a choice.  I have been a victim in my own mind.  In reality, I was where I wanted to be.  As soon as I was done with a job that was no longer serving me the choice to leave came quickly and there was no wavering.  I was happy to move on without much care.  The same can be said for relationships for me.  Not that I don't care, but when I am no longer in a place where I am being nourished in some way survival instinct kicks in and the choice to leave becomes clear and doable.

Where are you feeling stuck?  Look at the situation/relationship and be honest about what you are getting out of it.  Maybe it is attention.  Maybe it is hope.  Maybe it is status.  Maybe it is money.  Regardless of what it is, knowing and owning it changes everything.  Once you admit that you are doing what you do on purpose you can, on purpose, do something else… when you are ready.



Love What You Do, Whatever You Do

"The only limits are, as always, those of vision."  ~James Broughton So I have been discussing work with various peeps… and realized it is a topic that comes up time and time again.  Work, what you spend most of your day doing, deserves to be looked at carefully.  Any place that you put your time is worth paying attention to.

We are what we think, say, do etc…  If you give something your time you are giving a part of yourself.  If it isn't something you enjoy what the heck are you doing?  No end is good enough to lose yourself over.  We tend to look at things such as money, status, etc. when considering a "job" instead of considering how much of your life that "job" will be taking.  And take it will if you aren't being fed by it.  It is no wonder we sometimes look around at our lives and wonder why we are unhappy.  If you are not happy with how you spend your moments in the work that you do, that work will become your hell instead of an expression of your dreams.

When you love what you do everything changes in you.  Love has a place to take hold and blossom.  Finding that thing to do that you love isn't always easy.  Sometimes you have to try various things and leave various things when they don't work.  It is always ok to go toward what works and leave what does not.  Think about the alternative, staying in something that steadily and most certainly will asphyxiate your dreams.

Your life is limitless, go live without the fear that keeps you from pushing toward what you really want.

"If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise."  ~Robert Fritz

Good luck in realizing your dreams :)