Go Forward, Move Ahead

Hello, What have you decided you can or cannot accomplish?  What or who do you use as your guide to move forward?  Are you looking back at what is for others or what can be for you?  What is the key, how do we create our reality?

Often when I ask someone about their health and fitness goals they will tell me that they want to lose weight and get toned.  That is the usual desire for most people.  I also hear that some feel that they are in a better place than the people that they know of the rest of the US.  People also say things akin to that about their job being ok and that they cannot expect to like all of it.  I hear people talk about their relationships being work and that you have to go through those hard times and stick with it.  People tend to take the worst situation or the most mediocre and compare their lives to it to feel good or accomplished.  I am asking you to take the highest ideal and look to that for guidance.

Why would you compare yourself to the majority of people who are very, very, very unhealthy?  Wouldn't it make sense to shoot for the moon and have an honest assessment of where you are in relation to where you want to go?  We are so often looking to not feel bad for neglecting ourselves that we look at those doing a worse job to say that we are better than they are.  Well, I have to say, it doesn't actually take much to be at a better spot than most Americans, health-wise.  That type of comparison doesn't actually get you somewhere new either.  You end up just surpassing the bottom rung and having a difficult time elevating much higher.  Get over where you are, accept it without comparing it to someone who has yet to get to your level and look forward at where you want to go.  If you tried to drive to Florida by looking at where you were before and not the road that would take you there, where would you end up?

This is true for relationships as well.  Why would you want to have to effort your way through?  Is love an effort or is it simply abundant.  Maybe you don't believe it is possible for love to simply flow from one person to another and back without effort.  I believe we have all experienced that type of love somewhere in our worlds.  It may be a friend we have where the love is just overflowing.  It may be a family member that we adore with our entire being.  Wherever you have memory of that effortless love, bring it up, to the surface.  Feel it as a reminder so you know when it is and is not there.  If you want to compare, use your highest desire as a directional tool, not the lowest memory you can find.

Work, ahh, work.  We really do believe that we cannot possibly love all of our work… that there will be parts that we simply dislike and that just is the way it is.  If you say so.  I know that you can love what you do just like you can love the sunset or the sunrise.  You can enjoy the details, the big picture and your part in it completely.  We are so afraid of having high expectations that we don't get met… we create a world where we do not get what we want and then we wonder why we don't get what we want.  It is amazing really.  If you believe that there isn't a possibility to love what you do 100% then you are correct.

First, dream.  Where do you want to go?  What is your big daring feeling for your future?  Second, feel the accomplishment of the dream.  What would it feel like to be where you want to be?  Third, dream some more.



Sweet Dreams

"All human beings are also dream beings.  Dreaming ties all mankind together."  ~Jack Kerouac Howdy!

I was recently asked to talk a bit about dreams.  One of my friends has been having recurring dreams and wanted to know what I thought about them.  I loved that she asked me to discuss it because I LOVE talking about dreams.

When I was a little girl I had a recurring dream/nightmare.  There was a monster that was built out of colored, translucent blocks.  I dreamt about this monster quite a bit and would talk with my mother about it.  I also had dreams (and sometimes still do) where I am walking along and the floor begins to open up, or rather, the strips of wood begin to fall away revealing an abyss.  I have to strategically walk along the parts of the floor that are left in order to not fall.  This is a dream that has morphed into stairs becoming too narrow to walk down safely and/or too steep.  I also have dreams that predict something (usually completely benign) or happy, fantastical dreams that are recurring.

One dream I have had over the years was about my ex-boyfriend, let's call him Doug.  Doug and I were college sweethearts, enemies and then post college sweethearts.  He was what I basically used as the standard for every relationship after we ended. Our relationship had been healthy: he did his thing, I did mine and then we had our shared life.  My relationship with him was the first time I knew I could be faithful.  Up until that point monogamy was just some idea that existed for others :)  He was the love of my young life at that point.

So after we finally called it dunzo for real I went on loving and losing and dreaming.  Yep, dreaming about a future that never existed and wouldn't.  Usually the dreams would come when I was in a relationship that wasn't going well.  After a while I began to see the dream as a death knoll for the relationship I was currently in.  I would sometimes have to be talked out of calling Doug after one of these dreams by a dear friend who gave me great advice.  She said,  "We always have one, the one that got away.  The one that affects you in a way that no one else will.  It is normal for you to long for those times, those feelings especially when you aren't feeling good things now."  (or something like that, you get the gist).  After he was married I really had to chill out on the desire to call and go over the dreams I had just had (usually we had fallen in love all over again and things were rosy and sunny, of course).

I know that my Doug dreams were information.  They gave me the feeling I wasn't getting in my waking world.  They helped me remember what it was like when I knew how I felt, instead of the feelings I was having in the current relationships where I was forcing feelings.  The dreams reminded me that I wasn't dead inside, which I would sometimes believe when I was in a relationship that wasn't passionate.  The dreams stirred in me a desire for things to change.  These dreams have always been gifts.

Dreams can be a place for growth and healing.  They can be a place where we work out something that we cannot in the waking/astral world.  Both places are reality, just different dimensions, but both are real.  The best thing about the astral or dream dimension is the rules.  There really aren't any!  You are able to fly, rewind, go into the future or the past, be different people (or simply you in different bodies), you can do anything.  Time doesn't exist the way it does here.  Things happen in an instant in the dream/astral world which is very different from the waking/material world.

Interpreting dreams is something that I don't feel is necessary, in other words, I don't read the books that say when you dream about birth someone is going to die, or when you dream about a crow someone will crap on your head.  I believe that you aren't going to actually recall enough of a dream to be able to interpret it clearly anyway.  I counsel people on going with their gut and their emotions when they wake.  How did the dream make you feel.  What were some of the first thoughts about your dream when you woke?  Recurring dreams however are different.  I believe there is something your subconscious/astral self is trying to get across to you.  It took me years to realize why I would dream about Doug.  Once I came to the aforementioned conclusion about those dreams I had an "a-ha" moment.  I think you will know what the recurring dreams are about when you are ready.  Truthfully, you may already know and probably do.  Be open to receiving the information you are seeking and it will come.

If you want some help remembering some of your dreams or working on getting better at manipulating things in the astral dimension there are a few great books out there.  One that I super is called, Dreaming Your Problems Away by Dr. Bruce Goldberg.

Until later, keep dreaming!  Please reply if you have more lucid dreams after reading this post :)



"I dreamed I was a butterfly, flitting around in the sky;  then I awoke.  Now I wonder:  Am I a man who dreamt of being a butterfly, or am I a butterfly dreaming that I am a man?"  ~Zhuangzi