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Why Jealousy?

Holler! Jealousy, ahhh, good god, what is it good for?  Absolutely nuthin', say it again!!

Man, I have been jealous before… and every time there was good reason.  It was a loud signal to get the heck out of the relationship.  When I have felt jealous there were a lot of other things that weren't working in the relationship, and, for me, jealousy was a great way to sound the alarm.  The only issue is I learned all of these truths for myself because I stayed in the relationships until they imploded sometime later.

Jealousy is defined as an emotion that refers to negative thoughts, feelings of insecurity, fear and anxiety over the anticipated loss of something that someone values… usually in reference to a human connection.  Inadequacy, anger, resentment and helplessness often accompany jealousy!! Oooh, sounds so yummy, doesn't it?  Thought this description is rather unappealing to me, I have heard many people say that jealousy is actually pretty healthy, or "I kinda like when my partner is jealous."  WTF???  Ok, I get you want to be desired, but to have someone in your life that feels anger, inadequacy, resentment?  Really?  I would have to say I would rather see what was behind door number 2 than have a jealous partner.  Maybe I will win a new car…

In my past relationships where jealousy came up the trust was destroyed in my relationship(s).  Jealously, for me, was a sign that I hadn't been nurtured in the relationship the way that I wanted to be, first by myself and then by my partner.  Jealousy destroys bonds, it doesn't preserve them, and jealousy can give rise to relationship violence (Psychology Today).  When you feel less than, when you perceive a loss, that loss is now truth.  When I was married I was jealous of everyone around my spouse.  Turns out everyone around my spouse (the few close friends that were in her life) would have preferred to be in my position.  I was later cheated on and left for one of those folks that I had felt concern around.

It has taken me some time to recognize that jealousy is information and a bit longer to recognize that the information I get may not be the information someone else will get when they have their own feelings of jealousy.  We are all different so we need to interpret our emotions individually.  For someone else jealousy could signal memories of abandonment.  For another it could be a way to self-sabotage.  Either way, jealousy isn't something that signals 'all is well' on the home-front.  What it is telling you is that something needs your attention and usually, 99.9% of the time, that something is you.

When was the last time you were jealous?  What was it surrounding?  How did you handle it (or did it handle you???)?

xo

a

You, All Of You

Howdy! How much do you hide in order to be loved?  What about yourself are you ashamed of and would prefer to never see the light of day?  When did you recognize this thing that you so revile was a part of you?  Do you claim it or do you try to ignore it away?  Have you ever been with anyone that has something similar to that thing you have that you try to deny?  How did they handle it?  We are very sensitive souls and we are very afraid little beings in so many ways.  We all at least one thing that we do, have done, would do, that we would prefer no one know about (maybe you have done your work and have gotten through it, but we can all relate).  There are lengths that one goes to in order to get rid of something that they are ashamed of and those lengths are never long enough, never deep enough to hide who we are and push away what we need to accept.

Love, we all want it.  We all crave it.  We all go in search of it.  Some of us have found it, others are on the hunt.  We do things specifically to get it.  Much of the time what we do lacks in authenticity and is covered in judgement.  We show others the parts of ourselves that we have decided are lovable.  We withhold the areas we would prefer to not have from the one we would like to have.  We try our damnedest to be all that we want to be instead of embracing who we actually are.  We don't share with others the parts that we think they would judge as harshly as we have.  Still, we want to be loved fully.  How is it possible for anyone to love us fully if we don't actually do the same.  You are  telling someone that you don't love yourself but you would like it if they could love you.  That is telling someone that you don't want to be yelled at and yelling at everyone else around you.  It is hypocritical.  You are not doing it, you aren't loving yourself.  You are hating on something you are or a behavior that you display and yet you want to be loved fully.  If you don't see how all of you is worthy how will anyone else?

There may be things in your life, history, behavior that you would prefer to change, this is the case for all human beings.  We are always working on progress.  Hating it won't actually make it disappear.  If you want something to change you will need to actually look at it, find out what, why, when and where.  You may find that you don't want that behavior gone or the history erased.  It actually makes up who you are and in some way has a purpose.  We are here and we are deliberate.  We are not mistakes.  When this is a reality in your world it is easier to look at all of you and allow the various parts to be acknowledged and even given space to exist in a way that allows them to show up when you want them to, not on accident.  The very thing you have been trying to hide usually bites you in the ass at some point, so you might as well make friends with it so that you can be its master instead of the other way around.

You may also want to show this to the one you would have love you.  If you aren't showing someone who you are, really, how will they have the opportunity to love who you are, really?  When you decide for someone else what they would or wouldn't like you don't give them the opportunity to decide for themselves.  You may have failed relationships (intimate or otherwise) that have more to do with your inauthenticity than anything else.  Be yourself, be brave, be fearless and you will be loved.

xo

a

Love Not Fear

Happy Friday! The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure." ~Sven Goran Eriksson

Fear is unbelievably powerful.  Fear motivates us to change what we do, how we treat others, how we treat ourselves.  Fear will get us to give up our freedoms.  Fear will get us to hurt others.  Fear basically will kick our ass.  Fear also makes certain that love is lost.  With fear being present there is no space for love.  You are not allowed to live immersed in both.  Yet so many people will fall into love with someone based on the fear that there aren't any better options, that they should, that they need to be partnered at a certain point or age in life.  Fear will keep someone in an abusive relationship with someone else and/or with themselves.

Often we are afraid to be who we are, fully.  We show only the parts that are shiny and nice.  We hold onto and hide the parts that we have deemed unlovable.  We have taken the parts that we feel would push someone away and shown them piecemeal, after we feel secure that the person loves "us."  Well, what "us" are they loving if they don't have all the information?  What you have you given them the opportunity to fall for.  How would they stay with you when they don't know who you are?  What do we expect when we don't give someone the opportunity to know all of what they are getting into.  It is like we want to get someone attached and then show them the stuff that they would run from otherwise but won't now because they are obligated through promises made when ignorant of the truth.  Think about it.  Is that what you want?

Why would you enter into anything not being your authentic self?  What do you have to gain?  Well, it isn't always that black and white.  Most of the time we don't know we aren't being authentic, we just aren't accepting of who we are.  We haven't actually spent time loving up on the parts that we hide.  Yet, we hope that someone will love us enough to have to deal with the shit they never knew existed when they first fell in love.  We get into relationships and wonder why they don't work.  We leave or get left, we fear abandonment and aren't understood.  The truth of the matter is that the fear of being left is realized when we don't show up for ourselves.  When we abandon all of ourselves we don't allow others to stick it through with us.  We show others that we aren't worth staying.  When we deny the truth of who we are, others don't want to live that lie.  When we base our lives on who we want to be and not who we are we end up feeling lonely and lacking.  You must be the person you want to be with in the world.

What do you want?  How do you want to be loved?  Do you want someone who knows you, all of you and loves you because of it? Do you want to hide yourself and live a life pretending to be other than who you are?  Are you willing to accept the parts of you that aren't what you want to sing and dance about?  Do you feel worth putting yourself out there so that the one who will love you for all of it can actually find you?  When you hold back on who you actually are you don't give someone the opportunity to love all of who you are.  We are way to caught up with catching someone than being caught.  We are way to afraid to be who we are and have faith that we are worthy of love, deserving of unconditional love, destined for true love.  You are enough.  You are exactly right for someone.  You, all of you just need to come out of the dark, let go of the fear, walk towards yourself with open arms, then show yourself in all of your glory to the world and let your love find you.

"Fear is faith that it won't work out."  ~Anon

xo

a

That Old Feeling

Howdy, "Wisdom is nothing more than healed pain."  ~Robert Gray Lee

We all get hurt.  Nothing that freaks us out, hurts our feelings or brings up a feeling of being overwhelmed stems from this moment.  We are all replaying and reusing old pain when new pain arises.  You may feel abandoned by a friend at some point, regardless of whether or not the friend actually abandoned you.  What that fried may have done is helped you recall the feeling of abandonment.   You feelings of abandonment are not rooted in the present moment.  Something somewhere happened and you are now vigilant about  finding the things that you have been hurt by in the past, in order to not feel them in the future.   You can always tell when the feeling is from the past.  You tell this because you recognize it.  It is familiar.

We don't mean to tell someone that they did something.  We just don't ever get the tools to really say what is happening for us.  In some ways we may actually feel like the person is actually doing something to us because of how attached our response is to their behavior.  What hurts us the most is what we tend to look for the most.  We put energy into it and feel justified on doing so when we tend to find what hurt us everywhere we look.  We believe we find it because it is there.  The truth is that it is there because we look for it.

Taking the blame out of your pain is a big deal.  Knowing that  what pains you stems from past experiences can, if you are able to in the moment, de-escalate the interaction by taking ownership of your issue… by knowing the root as well.  You don't have to know where it cam from to know that it didn't start today.  No one is experiencing trauma (regardless of the kind) for the first time at the age of 30.  You are in the middle of being triggered by a situation that reminds you of previous times.  This can be frustrating at times and unpleasant for the one who does the triggering… but it doesn't have to be all for naught.

When you are in a relationship/friendship or what-have-you, you are working towards a deeper understanding of yourself.  Through others you will see yourself.  All you need to do is look.  Being triggered allows you to face some past hurts that have yet to be resolved.  In actuality being triggered is a blessing if your goals are to know who you are and where you came from.  Being triggered allows you to put some closure on the past.  If it isn't happening right now then you are ok and when it is happening right now you are managing it because that is what we all do.  We are fine, we are strong, we are able even when we are not.

"Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding."  ~Khalil Gibran

xo

a

Go!

Hey! What drives you wild?  What gets you excited, nervous, a bit afraid?  When was the last time you had butterflies in your stomach?  How often do you step outside of your comfort zone?  How often do you try something that isn't a sure thing?

When we do more than we have previously, we often resist.  We resist the possibility of failure.  We also resist the possibility of success more often than we know.  You know you are doing more than you have before because you get nervous, you may feel anxiety, you might not be able to think about much else until you have done "it"  whatever "it" is.  Whatever is in your mind as the thing you are afraid to do must be done.

Jump, dive, run towards the things that make you feel.  We have become comfortably numb and most of us are not aware of this.  We have learned how to navigate the world based on what we know, not where we want to go.  Do we even know what we want, where we want to go, how to get there?  A great place to start is by asking ourselves what we are afraid of.  Maybe it is rejection.  Maybe it is love.  Maybe it is being organized.  Maybe it is looking incompetent.  Whatever it is may just be what you need to wake up, feel again and move forward.  Safe isn't living.  Safe is false, death, failure.  Safe is nowhere for a living breathing thing.  Life, in and of itself, is a risk.  When we decided to incarnate we decided to be risky.  To resist the gift of excitement, nervousness or feelings of anxiety/anticipation is to decide to stay exactly where you are and miss out on where you could be.

Go on, feel the nervousness, get the butterflies and feel the freak-outedness.  No excuses, no regrets.

xo

a

Jump

Yo! Wherever you are wanting to go.  Whatever you are wanting to do.  Whatever you are wanting to become.  Go. Be. Do.

You are the only thing that is holding you back.  Your ideas about what can or cannot be true are holding you back, not the reality.  What you can or cannot do is based on what you believe you can or cannot do.  Who you are and can be is limitless.  Where would you go if you could go anywhere?  Guess what, you can.  All of your ideas around what is holding you back are false.  Where there is an idea there is a reality.  What you can perceive you most certainly can achieve.

Try to see yourself, uninhibited.  See yourself free of concern, worry.  See yourself doing what you want despite fear.  See the options that are infinite.  Risk dreaming without the judgement that you live your life with, under, around, within.  Have fun.

I see a shift happening where we begin to see our lives as opportunities to experience what we are drawn to and not what we should do.  I see us shining.  I see us happy.  Smiling.  Loving.  Living.  Living.  Living.

Go on, jump.

xo

a

Beauty In the Breakdown

Good Day! Sometimes we see our life as a fortress, we build it with sturdy walls that will protect us and forever keep us safe.  We try to protect it, we try to keep it from being exposed to the elements.  We try to hide ourselves.  We create neat and tidy walls, brick by brick.  We feel safe, we feel secure.  Then life happens, something big enough to shake our foundation, and our walls start to crumble and our world opens up and we are not pleased.

I believe that we resist the 'bad' stuff so much that we miss all the good stuff that is in it.  We are so busy building the wall that we forget to live the life that we are protecting.  There is something amazingly beautiful about the tragedy of life.  I know this may not sit well with you now, or maybe it does… but the rawness that we feel when we are reminded of life being messy, unpredictable, relentless, fragile, and difficult to bear, that rawness is a gift.  Being reminded of the uncertainty of the world is important; we are better able to appreciate the world when we see how short a time we are able to be in it.  Being placed in a position where our composure is tested gives us information about how far we have come and that there is always room to grow towards acceptance of what is (in the world and in ourselves).

When we decide to panic, freak out, worry, focus on the things that could go wrong, or simply shut down, we are choosing to ignore the wealth of information that the experience is sharing with us.  Not that all of the above responses aren't information, of course they are and if you respond that way, well, that is where you are and that is ok.  I believe, however, that you can choose to be open to what is under the fear.  When the fear stops life begins.  You are able to see the journey as this starlit path with miraculous events happening every step of the way.  When you let go of what you think you know, what you believe 'should' happen and are open to what is actually going on, you are better able to calmly and powerfully change your world to move in the direction of understanding, calm awareness and ultimately love.

Try to remain grounded during the next 'tragic' moment in your life.  Assess what is possible for you to do to help the situation and figure out what you have no control over.  Be honest.  Let go of your false ability to help what isn't in your realm of control and do what you actually can.  The help isn't always in the way you think.  Helping may look like you doing a lot of self-care.  When you take care of your soul/spirit/energy you take care of those around you.  Help may be doing something directly or indirectly around the situation.  Help may also be letting go.  Breaking down, in so many ways, is the beginning of building up and for every brick that falls, thought it may take a while to see, there is your beautiful life steadily being freed.

xo

a

For Shame

"I gave up shame a long time ago."  ~John Lithgow Howdy :)

Shame is a shameful thing.  It can keep you from moving forward, getting help and being happy.  Where there is shame there is darkness, struggle an ultimately stagnation.  There are many things we find to feel shame for, many things we choose to allow to bring us down for various reasons… many of which have been forced ideas from religion, parents, society.  We have shame around things we have said, done, what we don't have, do have, want or don't want.  The punishment that we endure for things that are fully, wholly human things, things we all do, will do, want to do… in some way or another, is amazing.

I remember growing up in projects on welfare and learning to feel shame for it.  I remember learning to feel shame around having a low credit score.  I remember being left by my ex and being told that I was a bad person because of my bad credit (that is the worst thing to say to someone who is shamed by their lack of financial power).  I remember being sick and tired of being ashamed of crap that is crap.  So I stopped.  I gave it up.  I am not an awful person because I grew up one way instead of another, or because I have had struggles financially, or because I have lied, or cheated or any other thing that I or anyone else has decided to throw out judgements against.

Life is short, confusing and filled with a myriad of experiences.  I am over feeling bad for having the opportunity to live it.  Every single thing in my life has gotten me to where I am right now and that is a most fantastic place.  Living your life and then regretting it is wasteful, in my opinion (yep, that is totally a judgement).  When we feel shame we allow that thing to have power over us.  I think the only thing that is shameful may just be shame itself.  Though, it is information;  it tells you the area you need to expose in yourself, love in others, and let go of ultimately.  Instead of shaming yourself, own yourself and your experiences.  Look at the choices you have made or, in some cases, the situations you have been placed in by birth, and get out of them all that they have to offer.  Our lives are our lessons.  When we refuse to look at them fully we refuse to learn.

If you are feeling shame around something, or many things, speak it out loud… maybe softly at first.  Hear it, see it, become roommates with it.  Say it over and over until it stops being shocking.  Google it, see that it isn't uncommon, see that you aren't alone.  At some point you will be able to yell it out loud.  You won't care who hears… you will let it go.

xo

a

"As soon as you forbid something, you make it extraordinarily appealing.  You also bring shame in as a phenomenon."  ~Jock Sturges

What Do You Want To Do?

"Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life."  ~Wayne Dyer What do you love to do?  What is the thing that, when you are doing it, brings a smile to your face?  When do you feel the most fulfilled?  Is this the work that you are doing in the world?  Why not?  So many of us feel that the work that we do to make money cannot necessarily be the work that makes us the happiest.  Where did this notion come from?  Who said we wouldn't be able to make a living doing what we loved?  Why have we kept this story going so strong as to make it the 'truth' for so many?

I don't believe anyone wants to be living a life where they are waiting for happiness.  When we wait for something to happen we miss all of the good stuff that is happening right now.  When we put off doing what we love, we put off love and I am not sure how that is ever something we want to do.  What if you told yourself a different story.  What if you told yourself that you didn't have to be starving to be an artist.  What if you told yourself that there aren't too many yoga instructors, photographers, doulas.  What if you didn't worry about the market being saturated with something that you too wanted to produce?  What if you didn't judge what you want to do before you even said it out loud.  What if you believed that there was and always will be enough room for each of us to do what we love and be supported in doing it.  How would that change things?  Who are they who make us believe these things?  Why do we go along and support so many ideas that oppress us?  It is like an animal going into a cage and closing the door behind him. What is the point of being locked into an idea that doesn't feel yummy?

We are afraid to leave the comfortable place of knowing what we are supposed to do.  What we are capable of has been decided by generations before us so we don't have to do the work to make it up as we go along.  When you take away the road map to the perfectly normal and expected life you take away your supposed safety net.  The funny thing is, though you may be living this normal life of obligation and responsibility there is nothing perfect about it.  You may struggle with motivating to do the work you have given up you joy to do.  You may live for the things that job can buy you, but still feel a bit empty.  You may be holding onto the idea that there will be a big pay-off in the end.  Yep, there will be and it might be death.  Just sayin'.  I don't mind breaking it to you, nothing is promised and no one is getting out of this whole life thing alive. Why would you ever think it was ok to live a life that isn't full of life?

The risk associated with doing what you love pales in comparison to the joy you get from doing what you love.  I understand that you may not want to walk into your job tomorrow and throw down you two-week resignation… but, if you know what you really want to do or have any idea what that is, then you are obligated to yourself to go toward that which is most healing and loving.  When you love yourself and share that with the world, the world is filled with that love.  Just as it is filled with the pain of so many people doing what they loathe.  Think about it.

"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life.  Don't be trapped by dogma--which is living with the results of other people's thinking.  Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice.  And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.  They somehow already know what you truly want to become.  Everything else is secondary."  ~Steve Jobs

xo

a

"You should exercise unrelenting discipline over your thought patterns.  Cultivate only productive attitudes… You are the product of everything you put into your body and mind."

~I Ching no. 27

Oh Me Oh My!

"Worry is a misuse of imagination." ~Dan Zadra Yellow!

I know a lot of people who worry.  They worry about what they are going to eat, what they are going to say, what they are going to wear, what they will do with their life, when they will eat, when they will talk, when they will wear what they have picked out and so forth and so on.  Basically I know that many people feel very, very unsure of how to navigate the waters of life because the worst case scenario is the most likely one for them.

I sometimes think about how I don't worry and how that came to be.  In all honesty it is a long story that I will totally abbreviate, for now.  For one, I didn't have a parent that worried outwardly.  My mother is very stoic and as such kept things to herself.  She was basically a force that seemed unshakeable.  I have seen her cry twice, maybe.  Either way, I didn't grow up in a household that was tense with concern for what may or may not happen.  Though we were poor, we believed that things would work out.  I truly don't know how much my mother stressed, and for that (and much more) I am thankful.  I truly grew up believing that things would work themselves out and that there was ALWAYS a solution.  This is true, if you believe it to be.  I also had experiences where I worried, only to see hours of my life be sucked dry and the very thing that I worried about either happened or didn't.  Basically, I realized the time it took to worry was better spent having a good time.  I found that enjoying my moments made whatever the outcome less intense.  I learned to stay grounded.

The issue for so many is that they don't believe there is a solution to the woes of the world.  Additionally, being grounded is not a state that they are in consistently.  A worrier lives in a state of insecurity.  They have a really, really hard time believing things will be ok.  Usually they have gone over the worst case scenario in such detail that it plays out the way they feared the most.  Even when they believe they have played out the positive and think things are going to be ok there is a strong undercurrent of doubt.  If their fears are realized they feel that they are 1) are justified in their worry, 2) are now more convinced than ever that things turn out poorly for them no matter what, and 3) feel powerless over what concerns them.  Often those who worry have a hard time working on their own behalf with the same tenacity that they work against themselves.

When you spend your mental energy on the very things you don't want you will get those things, tenfold.  When you do the same amount of work on putting out what you love, what you get is the love back, tenfold.  It is as easy as that and as difficult.  I know that many of you may find yourself in a whirlwind of concern, worry, fear.  Decide now that you are open to moving towards love, curiosity, breathing and letting go.  See what shifts for you.

xo

a

"Troubles are a lot like people, they grow bigger if you nurse them." ~Author Unknown

Drama

Evenin' Have you ever had a moment where you literally feel like your world is crumbling?  You fall into a state of despair and you look for some way to feel different, to feel anything but what you currently feel.  It is like you are falling into a deep dark hole and you aren't sure how to get out of it or if anything besides 'it' exists.  Have you felt like you aren't worth the thoughts in your own head?  Like you are not only being rejected by something outside yourself but you are rejecting yourself as well?

I have.  I live by a motto:  "Suck It Up!"  I believe in it and use it daily.  Because I practice this, among other things, I am able to come out of moments of dramatic emotion quickly. These moments of dramatic despair, though they can be intense, last only seconds for me, usually.  They are few and far between, but they do exist.  I enjoy them when they show up because they remind me that my work isn't finished… that I have become attached to the approval or acceptance of another.  These moments remind me that I am not feeding myself in ways that keep me grounded and that my ego has been leading the journey in some ways that aren't appropriate for my ideal world.  I appreciate my feelings of rejection and despair because they give me an opportunity to speak to my 15-year-old self (the age I usually regress to) and calm her down.  I am able to help her to be ok with what is.  I am able to talk to her about how things always happen for a reason, though that reason may not be known at the moment, it will reveal itself in time.  I love the discomfort of these moments because I know that these are the moments where I am growing, stretching myself to become bigger, stronger, more of my ideal me.  These moments teach me how to love all of me.  These moments are gifts that I will continue to cherish.

After I fall into this state, for a moment or so, I come out of it and realize how dramatic I can be.  I also remember that not everyone can find their way out so easily.  The tools are available for all to use.  Some people choose to ignore their existence and some simply don't know they exist.  Sometimes we are so caught up in the drama that we believe it is all there is, that it is the TRUTH.  If we choose to believe so, then it is so.

How are you keeping the drama alive or are you gaining perspective?

xo

a

Excuses

Why hello there! "Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anyone else expects of you.  Never excuse yourself."  ~Henry Ward Beecher

How many times have you said any or all of the following:

I can't because I am tired.

I don't have any time.

I am too busy.

I am not thin enough.

I am not strong enough.

I don't have enough money.

I don't have enough friends.

I don't feel like it.

I can't.

That is impossible.

There isn't enough _______.

"I attribute my success to this:  I never gave or took an excuse.  ~Florence Nightingale

We make excuses for ourselves because it is more comfortable than risking, than coming out of our safe little jacked up cocoon and actually seeing what we are capable of.  We say that we are too busy, too tired, not skilled, not rich etc. when the real situation is we have all the tools we need to do whatever we want.  First, we have to stop making excuses.  We have to stop allowing ourselves to get out of something because we may have to work at it.  When you allow yourself to be responsible for what you do and what you decide not to do you realize just how truly capable you are.

We choose to live where it is comfortable, even if we are unhappy.  The unhappy place may be safer than pushing the edges of the box you've constructive to live in.

What can you choose to own right now?  What will you stop making excuses around?

It is easier than you think.  When you hear yourself giving a reason around your behavior simply stop and do what your highest self would do.  Period.  No excuses.

xo

a

"Pessimism is an excuse for not trying and a guarantee for personal failure."  Bill Clinton

ps, I LOVE music, as you must know and I LOVE Alanis Morissette.  Here are the lyrics to a fantastic and appropriately titled (for this post) song.

EXCUSES BY ALANIS MORISSETTE

Why no one will help me 

I am too dumb I am too smart 

They'll not understand me 

I am lonely 

They'll hate me 

And there is not enough time 

It's too hard to help me 

And god wants me to work 

No resting no lazy 

 

These excuses how they served me so well 

They've kept me safe 

They've kept me stuck 

They've kept me locked in my own cell 

 

I'm too far from home 

It takes far too much energy 

And I cannot afford to 

No one will ever see me 

 

These excuses how they served me so well 

They've kept me safe 

They've kept me stuck

They've kept me locked in my own cell 

 

These excuses how they're so familiar 

They've kept me blocked 

They've kept me small 

They've kept me safe inside my shell 

 

Bringing this into the light 

Shakes their foundation 

And it clears my sight 

Now my imagination 

Is the only thing that limits 

The bar and its rise to the heights 

 

No one can have it all see 

I have to they want me to 

And I can't let them down 

I'll never be happy 

 

These excuses how they served me so well 

They've kept me safe 

They’ve kept me stuck

They’ve kept me locked in my own cell 

 

These excuses how they're so familiar 

They've kept me blocked

They've kept me small 

They've kept me safe inside my shell

 

(No) Limits

"I could be bounded in a nutshell and count myself a king of infinite space." ~William Shakespeare I took my first Hot Yoga class today and nearly passed out. It was awesome. There was a point where I said to myself, "just go for it! So what you pass out, someone will take care of you. Yogis are generally helpful, right?" At any rate, it got me thinking about limits and how many of us are afraid to even tempt them. What is stopping you?

What is the worst that could happen if you hit a limitation? What is the fear? Failure? Death? Dishonor? Self discovery? Whatever the "reasons" for not pushing yourself I am certain that the benefit far outweighs the risk. If you don't believe me, try it. Try going beyond the point of where you think you can. Instead of turning and running, push longer, try for more, open yourself to the unknown. Then do it again. There is a wealth of information to be given and received when you are working through your own perceived limitations.

Pushing past perceived physical limits advances you in more areas than physical ability alone. When you are at the point where you don't know if your body will actually continue your mind expands and you learn about what makes you tick. You begin to see habits that keep you from moving forward in other areas of your life. You may notice that you decide you aren't able before you try. Or you may be given a glimpse of possibility (which really is all there is). Possibility is rather amazing, especially when you see that possibility in yourself. That experience of having faith enough to risk doesn't only apply to physical experiences, it applies to just about everything else as well.

Physical training can be a safe and effective way to gain discipline, courage, and strength in all the areas of life that call for you to be disciplined, courageous, and strong. So what will you do to prove that limitations are what you make them, so make them a thing of the past. Instead maybe you can approach a difficult thing with, "Let's do this!" or "It will be what it is." Or "I am about to make this yoga class my b*tch! Woohoo!!! Or any other approach that encourages you to go for more. :)

"Then the time came when the risk it took to remain tight in a bud was more painful that the risk it took to blossom." ~Anais Nin

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