risk

Risk, The Fertilizer For Life

Aloha! "And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."  ~Anais Nin

Sometimes the very thing that you want to do is the scariest thing of all.  That is how you know it is necessary.  If you feel trepidation, if you feel like you could fall flat, if you feel like your heart could be broken it is worth doing.  If you feel like you might not get another shot, if you feel like you have something to lose, if you feel like you need a drink to get it done, you need to do it (not drink, but the thing that scares you :)  We tend toward what we know way too often.  We repeat what is comfortable every single day.  How often do you push past your limits?  How often do you jump before calculating how high, far and fast you must go?  When was the last time you did something for the first time?  When was the last time you leapt before you looked?

I am no thrill seeker.  I don't jump out of airplanes or do X-Game type things, but I will push myself beyond what is comfortable on a regular basis, yet, there are still those things that get me all jittery and nervous.  I am still shy in certain situations and afraid of what I don't want happening, happening.  I am human.  However, that feeling of not wanting to put myself out there is the information I need to put myself out there.  As a fitness instructor I spend a lot of time putting myself out there.  However, it is a comfortable spot to be in when I teach the formats that I know.  It is a rare day where I am teaching and I am not prepared.  The last time this occurred was over a year ago when I was asked to teach Kick Boxing.  Not only am I not a Kick Boxing instructor, I don't have any routines memorized.  Choreography isn't my strong suit.  So I said, "Yes."  I prepared as best I could.  I went in, taught one of the technically worst Kick Boxing classes that existed, but I had fun and I put my all into it.  After it was done I felt so relieved and pumped.  I had done it and it had scared the hell out of me.  And I survived.

"If you don't risk anything, you risk even more."  ~Erica Jong

I believe that we need to go after something that isn't a sure thing.  I believe we need to it with heart, chutzpa, and our eyes open.  I believe we can all learn how to receive so much more life if we live it instead of planning for it to be over.  We get to the end before we actually have read past the beginning.  We decide something isn't worth the risk because we are afraid of pain and joy.  We are afraid of being let down.  We are afraid of failure.  No one failed when they risked it all.  They gain so much, so very much.

"If you are not willing to risk the unusual, you will have to settle for the ordinary."  ~Jim Rohn

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Don't Stop, Get It, Get It

Howdy, Whatever it is that you are doing in order to reach some goal or another you will need one thing: discipline.  You will need to keep doing whatever it is that you are doing and not stop when you feel like the results aren't coming.  My favorite line from anyone is, "I have tried everything."  I want to complete the sentence with, "and stuck with nothing."  How can you wonder why you haven't gotten where you wanted when you give up on everything?

Getting somewhere you haven't been isn't some glamorous event.  At the end of your journey, when you have reached your goal, others may see it as some overnight transformation.  You are the only one that really knows (besides your partner, therapist and maybe a friend or two) what you went through to get to where you are, starting from where you were.  Reaching your dreams is a lot of work, a lot of struggle, a lot of letting go and a whole lot of holding on.

People ask me on a regular basis if I get sleep.  I do get sleep, but it comes around my getting my dreams accomplished.  I know what I want and where I am going and sleep sometimes gets in the way if it is hours long.  So two hours here, 3 or 4 there sprinkled with the 20-45 minute snoozes I do while waiting to do something else.  I get my rest, just not in the way most do.  I have a goal, several, and that requires me to do things differently than others may want me to do… or understand.  My goals aren't about others so why would how I reach them be about anyone else's idea either?  I also have to remind myself that I set this goal and why (especially when I am exhausted).  Discipline.  Doing it.  Making it happen.  Even when I don't want to.  In all honesty, I always want to do what works for my goals.  Do I always?  No.  But 98% of the time I am working in a way that will and is fostering my reaching my goals.

What goals are you currently wanting to reach?  How have you sabotaged, if at all, your goals?  What scares you about reaching your dreams?  How long have  you had them and how many times have you given up on your dreams?  Sticking with something is hard when you don't know the outcome.  Well, you never know the outcome of anything, save for life.  Death is always the outcome.  So what we do between the birth and the death is always the unknown.  You aren't actually sure of anything and risk things on a daily basis regardless.  So what exactly is the issue with doing something and not letting it go just because your goals haven't been reached in a month.  You will need to take steps.  We are, all of us, trying to be somewhere we aren't instead of embracing where we are and looking forward to the inevitable change that we are heading towards.  So maybe the first step is small and seemingly insignificant.  Do it anyway.  Who cares what and how you judge it, just do it.  Then do it again.  Then again.  Until it is just what you do, you see change, and then it will be off to the next dream.

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Jump

Yo! Wherever you are wanting to go.  Whatever you are wanting to do.  Whatever you are wanting to become.  Go. Be. Do.

You are the only thing that is holding you back.  Your ideas about what can or cannot be true are holding you back, not the reality.  What you can or cannot do is based on what you believe you can or cannot do.  Who you are and can be is limitless.  Where would you go if you could go anywhere?  Guess what, you can.  All of your ideas around what is holding you back are false.  Where there is an idea there is a reality.  What you can perceive you most certainly can achieve.

Try to see yourself, uninhibited.  See yourself free of concern, worry.  See yourself doing what you want despite fear.  See the options that are infinite.  Risk dreaming without the judgement that you live your life with, under, around, within.  Have fun.

I see a shift happening where we begin to see our lives as opportunities to experience what we are drawn to and not what we should do.  I see us shining.  I see us happy.  Smiling.  Loving.  Living.  Living.  Living.

Go on, jump.

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What's Good???

Good morning! It is Tuesday!!  :) This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

Being Naked (in every way).

Cleansing.

Clean Rugs.

Kelley Carnwath.

Amy Morgan.  

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Being open, naked, takes courage.  In so many ways I learned to hide as I grew up.  I am done with hiding.  Here I am.

"With each passage of human growth we must shed a protective structure (like a hardy crustacean).  We are left exposed and vulnerable - but also yeasty and embryonic again, capable of stretching in ways we hadn't known before."  ~Gail Sheehy

I look forward to opening more and more and more… I will hold space for you to do so also.

"There can be no vulnerability without risk; there can be no community without vulnerability; there can be no peace, and ultimately no life, without community."  ~M. Scott Peck

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All That We Want...

Howdy! I love challenging people to be GREAT, feel GREAT and do GREAT!  I mean, why the heck not???  If you shoot for the moon you may not hit it but you will be with the stars as opposed to shooting for a mountain and ending up on a hill.  If you can dream (which you can)  DREAM BIG!

"Plant the seed of desire in your mind, and it forms a nucleus with power to attract to itself everything needed for its fulfillment."  ~ Robert Collier

What stops you from being GREAT?  What stops you from dreaming BIG ARSE DREAMS?  What are you afraid of?  Ask yourself this question, "what stops me from being GREAT?"  What is the deal???  Seriously.  The shackles we put on our mind are far more effective than any glass ceiling or form of discrimination that can be "inflicted upon us" from some outside source.  What do you STOP yourself from doing because of these shackles?

"Here's to the crazy ones.  The misfits.  The rebels.  The troublemakers.  The round heads in the square holes.  The ones who see things differently.  They're not fond of rules, and they have no respect for the status quo.  You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify, or vilify them.  But the only thing you can't do is ignore them.  Because they change things.  They push the human race forward.  And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius.  Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world are the ones who do."  -Think Different Advertisement, Apple Computers

So think different, do what scares you, DREAM HUGE, I mean like super gigantic ginormous HUGE!!!

"The starting point of all achievement is desire.  Keep this constantly in mind.  Weak desires bring weak results, just as a small amount of fire makes a small amount of heat."  ~Napoleon Hill

Later!

xoxoxo

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(originally published 4/15/12)

Keep Your Compassionate Projection To Yourself :)

"I would like to explain the meaning of compassion, which is often misunderstood.  Genuine compassion is based not on our own projections and expectations, but rather on the rights of the other:  irrespective of whether another person is a close friend."  ~Dalai Lama Most of us believe that in order to be compassionate we have to know how the other person feels and relate to it.  In order to feel for someone we need to get into their space and feel what they feel.  Many times this leads us to forgetting that we aren't them and will never be…  Listening and asking questions is the best way to show compassion, as well as respecting that person's right to do what they decide.  Too often we have no idea that we aren't feeling for someone, we are merely projecting how we might feel in the same situation.  We believe we are 'helping' when we tell someone why something is or is not good for them.  We would do well to heed our own advice since we are actually giving it to ourselves, using the other as a screen to project what is happening for us.

"Projection: The unconscious transfer of one's own desires or emotions to another person: we protect the self by a number of defense mechanisms, including repression and projection."

Just recently a family member asked for positive support around a possible move for her and her immediate family.  What she received in return was a good number of supportive replies and a couple of comments that basically told her she was too old to change.  That change would be detrimental, not only to her, but to her family as well.  It is funny to me that even after asking directly for support she received comments that told her she was making a mistake.  What I learned about the person who replied with warnings was that they, themselves, felt they were too old, too saddled, and too stuck to do anything other that what they are doing at this moment.  The idea of change is scary for them and they would prefer it if others behaved with similar fears so as to not stir their own issues up.  It is always best to never take someone's judgement around how you live your life too seriously.  Listen to them, if you choose.  Understand that they are telling you about themselves and love them for sharing.

When someone is doing something that isn't what is expected, how do you feel?  Are you supportive or are you threatened?  Do you feel like they should be following the 'rules' or do you have a twinge of excitement and inspiration with them forging their own way, doing what dare not be done?

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(No) Limits

"I could be bounded in a nutshell and count myself a king of infinite space." ~William Shakespeare I took my first Hot Yoga class today and nearly passed out. It was awesome. There was a point where I said to myself, "just go for it! So what you pass out, someone will take care of you. Yogis are generally helpful, right?" At any rate, it got me thinking about limits and how many of us are afraid to even tempt them. What is stopping you?

What is the worst that could happen if you hit a limitation? What is the fear? Failure? Death? Dishonor? Self discovery? Whatever the "reasons" for not pushing yourself I am certain that the benefit far outweighs the risk. If you don't believe me, try it. Try going beyond the point of where you think you can. Instead of turning and running, push longer, try for more, open yourself to the unknown. Then do it again. There is a wealth of information to be given and received when you are working through your own perceived limitations.

Pushing past perceived physical limits advances you in more areas than physical ability alone. When you are at the point where you don't know if your body will actually continue your mind expands and you learn about what makes you tick. You begin to see habits that keep you from moving forward in other areas of your life. You may notice that you decide you aren't able before you try. Or you may be given a glimpse of possibility (which really is all there is). Possibility is rather amazing, especially when you see that possibility in yourself. That experience of having faith enough to risk doesn't only apply to physical experiences, it applies to just about everything else as well.

Physical training can be a safe and effective way to gain discipline, courage, and strength in all the areas of life that call for you to be disciplined, courageous, and strong. So what will you do to prove that limitations are what you make them, so make them a thing of the past. Instead maybe you can approach a difficult thing with, "Let's do this!" or "It will be what it is." Or "I am about to make this yoga class my b*tch! Woohoo!!! Or any other approach that encourages you to go for more. :)

"Then the time came when the risk it took to remain tight in a bud was more painful that the risk it took to blossom." ~Anais Nin

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