mistakes

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Readings by David Zarza www.davidzarza.com Resting When Needed. Intimacy. My Gifts. My Ridiculous Cat and Dog.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Most people believe in mistakes. I am not most people. I believe that everything is as it was destined to be. Yes, destined. There is the fact that I believe destiny is infinite possibility, all of which are either more of what you want or less of what you want. When you receive less of what you want as a result of a decision you made you consider it a mistake. When you get more of what you want out of a decision you call it "the right choice." I get it, most folks would consider not getting what you want a mistake, as if what you wanted was destined, or supposed to happen. Sometimes the things we want the least are exactly the things we need for parts of our world that don't exist yet. There are a lot of inventions that have come about due to mistakes; some examples are the slinky, penicillin, chocolate chip cookies, potato chips, the pacemaker, silly putty, post-it notes, x-rays, just to name several. Maybe mistakes have taken a bad rap, maybe what is supposed to happen is what actually happens, not what we want to happen.

What if everything was as it should be? What if there was NOTHING wrong? What if you couldn't make a mistake? Well, you can't unless you want to. You have to make a decision about whether something is a mistake or not. Whatever the outcome of your decisions, actions, etc. is all happening for your souls benefit. Most often we don't think on the level of what our soul would want (and honestly most don't think about their being levels of themselves), let alone make sure we see our "errors" as possible necessities for growth. Look back on your life and find five "mistakes." What came, or is still coming from those experiences. When you accept that decisions don't always mean you are going to be happy with the result, and that is less about you getting what you want and more about you allowing in what you need, you are less likely to make mistakes.

I, personally, don't make mistakes. All the peaks and valleys in my life have been so key to who I am today. My life wouldn't be mine without every single detail that I have lived… and I LOVE my life. I give appreciation to the challenges and the joys, the successes and the woes. Life is colorful and unpredictable. When you are faced with something that you would rather not be faced with, that you want to run and hide from, that you might begin to feel shame around or judge, stop. Stop and shift your perspective. Ask yourself what you would do with this moment if it had been what you wanted? Ask yourself what you need to glean from this experience as it stands? When you can fully open yourself and allow fluidity where there was rigidity, joy and happiness become your baseline.

Mistakes are for those who don't accept the true beauty of life. Let the worn out idea of things being wrong go and begin to see all that is right in the world and your life.

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xo a

Reason This

Hello there, Everything happens for a reason.  I have said this to you before.  If you are close to me in proximity, you have heard these words fall from my lips and know that everything, not some things, everything is what I truly mean.  There is nothing that is for naught… nothing that is without a purpose.  You can do no meaningless things.  The secret isn't to find the meaning it is to uncover it.  When you begin to see the world as an ordered thing, something that has a language, information, desires, set ups and outcomes, as a living breathing intelligent thing, you can begin to let go of judgment and be open to wonder.

When you miss an appointment you may not, in the moment, feel that great about it.  You might go over the fact that you have been swamped and unorganized.  You may even tell yourself things like, "you always do this, what is wrong with me!"  You may beat yourself up more or less than that as well.  You may take hours or longer to figure out how you are simply a fuck up in so many other areas of your life and this appointment fiasco is just highlighting it for you.  How often have you spent time reinforcing your "failures?"  

Now imagine you understood that everything is moving along as it should.  How would that change your reaction to a perceived mistake?  How could it change your reaction?  You could stop, breathe and ask, "why did I need to miss that appointment?  What am I supposed to take from this?"  When you begin to ask questions around a situation that is less than ideal, you begin to get out of it some of what it has to offer you.  When you recognize the intelligence of the universe as greater than your own you don't become passive, you become receptive.  You are then able to move about the world without judging yourself or others and instead, get to the root… get to the reason.  Maybe your missing the appointment was because you needed time to do something else or you needed to be motivated to organize your work and calendar, or maybe it was because you needed to feel shitty so you could get annoyed with feeling shitty and then read this blog and make a shift in your thinking.  When you begin to look for the reasons, the reasons become clear. 

Now, what if you approached your life with receptivity, wonder and awe?   What kind of world would yours look like?  Love is abundant when you do this, life flows with little resistance, and everyone is a teacher and a lover.  You are calmer, more peaceful. It doesn't mean you won't be annoyed about this or that… you are human and that sometimes goes with the territory and is needed and necessary… but you don't have to spend time putting yourself down when you can spend that same time supporting your own personal growth and forward movement.  Get out-of-the-way, you are a part of the orchestra and though you don't conduct the entire thing, you can determine if the sound is pretty or off-key.  The sound of judgment is the sound of discord, it is the language of abuse.  Let go of the judgment, let in the harmony and grace of life and keep on wondering and uncovering.  

xo

a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!!  How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day?  This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back…  put it out there!  Let the world feel your appreciation!  Let's make a difference.  

This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

Patience.

Reiki.

Karma.

Familiarity.

Destiny & Love Cards.  

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Give yourself room to not be great.  I am not saying you want to imagine that you will suck, but I think it is important to go into whatever endeavor with curiosity and wonder as opposed to knowing that you will do fine.  The attachment to a particular way a journey should be can be the barrier between where we are and where we want to be.  Success doesn't always come in the outfit we picked out.  Success sometimes resembles failure and devastation.  Success often takes the road that is steep and full of potholes.  Success isn't always the smoothest way to a destination.  Success is striving despite the potholes, the blockades and the criticism.

Success is a journey.  You have to be ready for success.  You have to persevere to reach what you have aimed for and perseverance to hold onto it once you are there.  With perseverance comes doing more than you desire in the moment.  It comes with not always getting the feedback that makes you smile and inspires you to continue.  When you want something, want to be great at something you have to begin.  Often you are going to look like a novice because you are.  Before you master anything you have to be a beginner.  

So embrace the bumps, the skids, the stumbles.  All of these things that seem like mistakes are actually the tools you will need once you reach your goal.  They will allow you to relate to others later in a show of support, they allow you to learn about yourself and how you handle adversity.  Think of these "problems" as weights that are getting your learning muscles strong, ready to endure.  Even the sky is too close to aim.

xo

a

No Excuses, No Regrets

Howdy!! I have a lot of experience in a lot of areas.  I feel that I have really lived a life.  I am pretty protective of my life… and around judgment of it.  I don't care to hear what you think if you are thinking negatively about my life.  I know that I am doing what I am supposed to do… period.  I don't ever feel that I am living in error.  I also make it clear to everyone that I know that they are not allowed to put that energy into my world, that I am making mistakes.  There are no mistakes or missteps in my life.  None.  I see the beauty of every moment, every nuance.  It truly is spectacular.

Today as I was hanging out with a dear, dear friend, one of my favorites, and discussing the oft-times hilarious and other times tragic situations of my love life when she quickly pointed out that I needed to stop dating this or that type of person.  I immediately realized that I had basically had it up to my neck with any and everyone missing what I believe to be the point of life and my life in particular (since it was what was under discussion).  First, do I  feel like I need to stop doing something, because who gives two shits about someone else thinking I need to do something different?  I don't, that is who.  Second, am I wondering "why me" as a victim minded person would?  Ummm no.  I know why… always do.  Do I feel like I don't have a handle on it?  Or is it that she or anyone, for that matter, would like to see me do something different?  If that is the case, what anyone thinks about me is none of my business… unless you think I am awesome… then please, share away!

After I quickly communicated to her why I feel it important to honor my experiences and she, being the brilliant, loving person she is, quickly got it.  I have to hand it to her… and to all of my friends, I am very blunt and pull no punches most of the time… they are all an amazing lot.  I am blessed.

We have so many motivations for communicating that I could write a blog everyday for the rest of my life just on the reasons behind what we do.  It is infinite and infinitely interesting.  Nothing is ever what it seems.  The same goes for everything else in life.  I know why I have dated the lovely people I have dated.  I know why the universe has given me the opportunity to see myself through these folks.  I understand and am so appreciative.  I have no regrets, I want nothing other than what I have had because I am where I am because of what I have experienced….and I LOVE where I am. I understand so much more than many because I have risked a lot more than many.  I have jumped into situations without weighing the pros and cons.  I have weighed the pros and cons and held back.  And I have done a whole bunch in between.  I have some patterns but mostly I go with what I am supposed to do… from my inner knowing.  I have never stayed in a situation that wasn't beneficial to me in some way.  Actually, this is true for all of us.  We don't do anything that we are getting nothing from.

When you are living your life you are experiencing everything you need to in order to get out of it what is most important for your soul.  No one has authority over you in this way.  You have things you need to learn, experiences you need to have and people who you need to know.  Whatever the drama, joys, or encounters, they are yours to glean from them what you will… and you will have ample opportunity to learn, every day, in every way.

So live your life… it belongs to you!

xo

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