Lift Off

Hey Hey! We have a lot of demands that are placed on us emotionally and mentally. Most of these demands begin with others and continue throughout our lives from various sources, ourselves included. We are not given, at a young age, many tools to sort through, filter and manage the demands that we are asked to handle either directly or indirectly. Despite not knowing how to, in a healthy way, to take care of what we feel we are supposed to, we make attempts to take care of the things around us that we feel responsible for. It takes most of us many years, if we ever do figure it out, and lots of heartache to discover that we may not be working on behalf of our best selves emotional and mental wellbeing. It may take a break of some sort for us to recognize that we might have taken on too much, not enough or the "wrong" stuff. Generally, something moves us to awareness, jolts us forward, and it is usually not rainbows and puppy dogs.

When you go through a situation in your life where you are pushed to ask questions about your life and why you are where you are, and not where you want to be, you will need to look at some big questions, the main ones. When you start to delve into who your beliefs, judgments, motivations, desires and how all of these relate to your relationship with yourself and your relationships with others you will begin to see where you will need to make shifts in your life. We have a lot of programming that says we are supposed to take on the pain of others as our own, we are to be responsible for our fellow man, we are to do things that don't feed us because that is a part of this life that you cannot get around. I know that these ideas, though seemingly big hearted and practical have been distorted beyond; because of these distortions, unhappiness on all levels, emotional, physical and spiritual, are at an all time high.

Knowing where you begin and end is a start to healing. Knowing that you are, at the same time an individual, everyone and everything, allows for your healing to move others forward on their path as well. Because we have become so accustomed to connecting in the external realms we are out of practice with our internal and astral universes. We believe that absorbing someone else's bullshit in this reality actually helps them out. It doesn't in any way actually. When you remember that you can heal yourself and in turn, due to our origin and our connection to the source of all, heal the whole, reaching out is the last thing you need to do. Reaching in is where the strength and the magic come from. Allowing others to see how they choose to use their gifts, powers and knowing is a much more helpful way to be for them and for yourself. When you begin to connect with yourself (and in turn others) spiritually/internally you stop taking on the false reality, that is this external world, of others. When you do that, also known as setting boundaries, you are allowed to feel the abundant energy of love that is available to all of us.

Take a month to work on your boundaries and see, after you have actually set and communicated them, how much space you have to feel, to do, to love. When you remove the weight of this imaginary world from your shoulders you are left with a weightlessness that allows for you to soar.

Great Gray Owl
Great Gray Owl

xo a

Fear of Flying

Hi! When you let go of the idea that you will be safe if you have a relationship with someone who understands you, who gets you; when you stop worrying about things that are not happening right now; when you remember that all of this is temporary fear pops up and then bounces away. It is the exact opposite of what happens for those who believe that a relationship will fulfill them, "knowing" will calm them or that what they hold onto will last forever; for those people, fear consumes them. The notion that there is safety, security and fulfillment in all the things that truly are temporary, whether you consciously get it or not, would bring up fear because there is no truth to it. We grab onto one another hoping that in the other we will find ground and stop the fall. What we don't understand is that the one we are holding onto is falling also and couldn't stop your internal struggle no matter how much they wanted to. You are the one who can catch you, make you feel secure and loved fully. You are your savior.

We live in a world where most things are unknown yet we try our best to control all. We put rules on everything in order to gain some semblance of being the boss of all. Then life happens, people leave, die, things end, begin, magic happens. We are so set in believing that we KNOW things that we call anything that goes outside of what we have arbitrarily decided could happen, unexplainable, not true, made up, fantasy, conspiracy or some other such definition that usually has a negative connotation. We actually chastise people who refuse to think like the rest of the society we are in. It is understandable then that deep down we are struggling within this box that we are in. Boxes are cramped and somewhere in our soul we see the expansiveness of existence. We know that the world is bigger than the box but because we don't know what lies outside of it, we freak the f*ck out and basically refuse to leave the 'safety' of it. The box says that if you do certain things then certain things will happen. Well, there may be a possibility that those things are going to happen but there is a possibility that other things would happen too. The world is mysterious, exciting and surprising.

Letting go of our illusion of security is a process for most. You can practice it by doing things that challenge you in various ways. You can do it by changing your language around love, relationships, and the world. You can let go of the idea of security by recognizing that the only control that you have is over you and how you respond to your world… Or you can learn through the fact that the world will stop at nothing to get you to see it. The world, universe, will take things away, bring things in, create chaos and then bring order whether you want it or not. The universe will give you opportunity after opportunity to learn how to let go of our attachments. What you call falling I call flying. When you open up to possibility, to understanding that it is the moment that is precious, not the imagined future, you can stop the drop and begin to enjoy the journey. It is your choice to bury your head or spread your wings.


xo a


Hi there, You will be ok.  If you push harder, sweat more, sleep less and go farther you will survive.  We have such a distorted idea of what we are capable of.  If you want to be successful, if you want to reach a goal you are going to need to suck it up and go for it.  Wake up.  WAKE UP!!!!  When things go wrong you figure out how to manage your life around trying to get them to go right… right?  What if you controlled what you could control… like movement, thoughts and behavior.  What if you created habits that supported a lifestyle that supports life?  What if you stopped doing things that sucked energy; things that don't feed your soul, healed your body and broadened your mind?  Do you know what is possible, do you know where your limit is?

I can tell you that you don't know your limits unless you have already figured out how to fly; to just elevate like a ghost.  If you haven't gotten to that point yet you are still at the "I have no f*ing idea what my potential is" point.  And… if you do know how to fly then you understand that we are limitless.  If you decide to work at something with drive, determination, unrelenting discipline you will master it.  You are not limited by who your mom or your dad is, what your bloodline says, or what anyone else in your family has or has not done.  You are only held back by your beliefs; your believing that you are limitless limits you.  Your believing that your family history determines your future is unbelievably damaging to your journey towards flight.  If you want to be a dancer, dance.  If you want to be a writer, write.  If you want to be an amazing lover, love, communicate, practice.  Whatever you see as amazing in someone else you can be too.  Seriously.

I want to be stronger, faster, fitter.  I work at it daily.  I want to be the best DJ that I have heard of.  I work at it daily.  I want to be a proficient, consistent and relevant writer.  I write everyday.  When you want something you need to go after it.  When you see someone living a dream that you wouldn't mind living, at least your version of it, work for it.  When you want to bring something into your world or take something out, make the decision.  That is the secret.  Deciding to do something different, something more, something daring and something you never dared to do will automatically make it a possibility.


Sometimes you just have to make a choice.  Make one that scares you, that takes you farther than you are presently, that challenges your very idea of who you are or ever could be.  Then watch the magic happen, while you sweat your ass off going after it.