Fear of Flying

Hi! When you let go of the idea that you will be safe if you have a relationship with someone who understands you, who gets you; when you stop worrying about things that are not happening right now; when you remember that all of this is temporary fear pops up and then bounces away. It is the exact opposite of what happens for those who believe that a relationship will fulfill them, "knowing" will calm them or that what they hold onto will last forever; for those people, fear consumes them. The notion that there is safety, security and fulfillment in all the things that truly are temporary, whether you consciously get it or not, would bring up fear because there is no truth to it. We grab onto one another hoping that in the other we will find ground and stop the fall. What we don't understand is that the one we are holding onto is falling also and couldn't stop your internal struggle no matter how much they wanted to. You are the one who can catch you, make you feel secure and loved fully. You are your savior.

We live in a world where most things are unknown yet we try our best to control all. We put rules on everything in order to gain some semblance of being the boss of all. Then life happens, people leave, die, things end, begin, magic happens. We are so set in believing that we KNOW things that we call anything that goes outside of what we have arbitrarily decided could happen, unexplainable, not true, made up, fantasy, conspiracy or some other such definition that usually has a negative connotation. We actually chastise people who refuse to think like the rest of the society we are in. It is understandable then that deep down we are struggling within this box that we are in. Boxes are cramped and somewhere in our soul we see the expansiveness of existence. We know that the world is bigger than the box but because we don't know what lies outside of it, we freak the f*ck out and basically refuse to leave the 'safety' of it. The box says that if you do certain things then certain things will happen. Well, there may be a possibility that those things are going to happen but there is a possibility that other things would happen too. The world is mysterious, exciting and surprising.

Letting go of our illusion of security is a process for most. You can practice it by doing things that challenge you in various ways. You can do it by changing your language around love, relationships, and the world. You can let go of the idea of security by recognizing that the only control that you have is over you and how you respond to your world… Or you can learn through the fact that the world will stop at nothing to get you to see it. The world, universe, will take things away, bring things in, create chaos and then bring order whether you want it or not. The universe will give you opportunity after opportunity to learn how to let go of our attachments. What you call falling I call flying. When you open up to possibility, to understanding that it is the moment that is precious, not the imagined future, you can stop the drop and begin to enjoy the journey. It is your choice to bury your head or spread your wings.


xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!!  How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day?  This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back…  put it out there!  Let the world feel your appreciation!  Let's make a difference.    

This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

Growing Up.

Being My Own Priority.

Rock Documentaries.


Coach Aina Body Camp - 

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought: 

I want everyone to take care of themselves, in that way I will be more than supported.  Not that I want everyone to live on an island without contact.  On the contrary, I want lots of contact.  I would simply prefer to have everyone feel whole on their own and at the same time understand the fact that separation is an illusion.  We are more connected than most of understand and our believing the illusion of separateness is the cause of most of our issues.  Our feelings of loneliness are directly related to our trying to connect to what we are not actually separate from.  It is like we are constantly trying to find our sunglasses by looking all over the house and the car when they were on our head all along.  

When we all take care of ourselves we notice that the glasses were on us the whole time.  We become aware of our connection to others through our awareness of our connection to ourselves.  It is like finally seeing for the first time or hearing or smelling or breathing.  We begin to notice that we are all a reflection or an aspect of the whole.  All uniquely separate in the illusion but in actuality just different viewpoints of life.  When we believe that we aren't connected we behave less than ideal because oneness or wholeness is what we long for.  We don't understand that we don't have to hold onto each other for dear life, stay in a shitty relationship, keep a crappy job, deal with less than yummy friends.  We believe that we need to hold on and never let go lest we be alone.  You are never alone.  You are always connected.  

If you could take time to be with you, learn and be curious about yourself; be honest about your motivations and expectations and then see how you are like me or your neighbor or the person on the corner.  Stop believing you aren't everyone else and that you couldn't relate to someone just because they aren't behaving the way you would prefer.  We are so duped that we don't understand that we are examples, inspiration and motivation for one another.  If you look out from your eyes with the idea that you are seeing yourself in various iterations you won't feel so alone; you won't buy into the trick of this human experience; you won't need to stay where it isn't serving you, do what doesn't resonate and live with such uneasiness.  

When you get the hang of truly taking care of you and begin to feel connected you will feel the love that abounds.  When you feel the love that abounds you will vibrate at a level that is magical.  You will shine, you'll glisten; your energy will take on a high gloss.  You will be full and overflowing.  Self-care is universal care and the big secret to changing everything.

My love is you.