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Be Happy Now

Hello there, How many times a day do you say no, silently, to your world, your life, to others?  How many times do you wish for something that isn't happening at the moment?  How often do you try to change what has already happened by going over it in your head and remembering it differently.  How many times do you try to get someone to be someone else, including yourself?  How do you think your world is affected when you deny, refuse, resist and consistently try to wish away what is?  Is life, your life, that unsatisfactory that wanting something other than what you have is more fun, more rewarding and overall more enjoyable?

Happiness is not something you shoot for.  Joy isn't a goal.  These are states we have always within us, totally accessible.  We spend so much time choosing to dislike what is that we never see the beauty in the moment.  We take for granted all that supports, loves and appreciates us because it isn't exactly what we want it to be or how we would like it to be.  The truth is we may never get where we want to go, we may not be around long enough.  Nothing is promised, certainly not an amount of time in this human experience, so, though planning for the future is important, being attached to it isn't.  The future has a mind of its own and it is better to bet on what is right now.

Learning to love this moment brings you to that state of being we call happiness.  Loving the moment doesn't stop you from wanting the moment to change or be something else.  It allows for you to spend less time efforting change.  When you are happy, when joy seeps from your pores the world is yours.  What you thought you had to force now flows easily in your direction.  What you thought was going to take forever and be a struggle is done with joy and realized sooner than you thought.  Most of all you forget to be miserable when you are busy being happy.  You forget to worry when you trust in the moment you are in.  When you give up resisting your life, your life stops resisting you.

Be expansive, be joyful, be love.

xo

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Lie To Me

Howdy! Most of us have two lives.  Our public and our private life.  We show the world one thing and we keep to ourselves, and sometimes from ourselves, what is really happening.  We spend a lot of our lives, if not all, denying truths, ignoring feelings, and creating stories to maintain the status quo.  If you are unhappy in any way about your life you must remember that you are the only one responsible for where you are right now (and always).  The same goes for anyone who is happy for where they are right now.

Think.  Take a quiet moment to sit with yourself.  Let everything come in.  Try it.  Brace yourself, what you may feel and find could be difficult.  The thing is, the truth has been close to the surface for most of us.  We do a lot of things to take our minds off of it.  We overeat, we get into relationships that take all of our energy, we do drugs, we create drama, we blame others, we sabotage ourselves.  Mainly we refuse to take a long look at how we do things and why.  We don't question our motivations, our choices, our beliefs.  We go along trying to live as pain-free as possible.  If the truth hurts then what lies are keeping you comfy?

It isn't about judging yourself or putting yourself down.  It is about knowing what is actually going on for you so that you can make some other things happen, things you want to go on for yourself.  When you keep yourself in the dark about who you actually are you cannot get out from under your own shadow.  It is hard to be directed toward something when you don't actually know where you are starting from.

When you admit what you feel, when you get in touch with all that you think, and when you embrace all of who you are your life changes dramatically.  We must let go of what we want to be to become who we are first.  We must stop running away from ourselves; it is hurtful, it is denial, it is stunting.  By letting go of all of the ways in which we numb ourselves we allow life in.  We allow the possibility for our public life and private life to be in harmony.  We are able to walk the walk instead of talking the talk.

Much love on your journey.

xo

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Fun - Part I

Howdy!!! "People are always good company when they are doing something they really enjoy."  Samuel Butler

There are so many people who HATE their job.  Seriously, they are miserable.  You might be one of those people, I dunno.  Yet, they stay for years sometimes.  They refuse to give up on a dream that turned into a nightmare all the while sucking the very marrow out of their now swiss cheesed bones.  It is an unfortunate situation that always amazes me.  I believe that people think the money they have grown accustomed to acquiring in those life draining jobs is somehow worth every ounce of their being.  Or maybe they just get conditioned to being unhappy.

Actually, when you hate your job so much at some point 'fun' becomes a distant memory.  Fun becomes a word that seems wrong when you spell it correctly, (as if you ever use the word when you hate your job).  Fun becomes a chore, something on your 'to do' check list.  You begin to schedule fun.  Yep, even fun becomes depressing when you hate what you do most of the time.

This is serious.  Seriously serious.  It needs addressing and redressing and maybe even a dress, if it makes it fun.

I have been thinking about the whole fun and job thing for a while.  I have always, for the most part, done what I have loved.  When I found myself at a job that ended up taking more than it gave I somehow found my way out… a few times I was ejected and other times I ran for the hills.  Either way, if it ain't fun, it ain't gettin' done.  I have always understood that joy was the purpose.  Giving and getting.  Drudgery isn't living, it is imprisonment.  That isn't something that I have any desire to experience.  Blech!

I wanted to share a fantastic email by a professional cat sitter after he stopped by to pick up something he left while she wasn't home.  Yes, he makes a living watching people's kitties (too many jokes, seriously) isn't that fantastic.  He also keeps things awesome by sending the pet owners emails like the one below.  Enjoy and you may want to adapt his preparedness attitude, he makes a strong case for it.  Enjoy!

Hi KC

They barely had water scraping the bottom of the water bowl. I filled the usual water bowl, and set out another across from the fridge. I hope that it is not a bowl that you do not mind being touched by kitty tongues.

I put out enough water for my cats to last a few days in case something happens - death, madness, overwhelming sadness, earthquake, the near total breakdown of our society, indigestion - that might keep me from home for two or three days. Just in case.

Duane

Now I am pretty sure Duane is not crazy, ok, not sure but am assuming.  He is just having fun.  Prior to this email he called her to ask about stopping by.  When she told him it was ok he asked her if he could also bake oatmeal cookies!

When you put fun as a driver in your world you may have the where-with-all to actually be funny, to send random emails, to laugh uncontrollably, to skip instead of walk, to sing when a song comes on instead of silently listening to it.  You could quite possibly become a very happy person indeed.

xo

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