happiness

Fun - Part I

Howdy!!! "People are always good company when they are doing something they really enjoy."  Samuel Butler

There are so many people who HATE their job.  Seriously, they are miserable.  You might be one of those people, I dunno.  Yet, they stay for years sometimes.  They refuse to give up on a dream that turned into a nightmare all the while sucking the very marrow out of their now swiss cheesed bones.  It is an unfortunate situation that always amazes me.  I believe that people think the money they have grown accustomed to acquiring in those life draining jobs is somehow worth every ounce of their being.  Or maybe they just get conditioned to being unhappy.

Actually, when you hate your job so much at some point 'fun' becomes a distant memory.  Fun becomes a word that seems wrong when you spell it correctly, (as if you ever use the word when you hate your job).  Fun becomes a chore, something on your 'to do' check list.  You begin to schedule fun.  Yep, even fun becomes depressing when you hate what you do most of the time.

This is serious.  Seriously serious.  It needs addressing and redressing and maybe even a dress, if it makes it fun.

I have been thinking about the whole fun and job thing for a while.  I have always, for the most part, done what I have loved.  When I found myself at a job that ended up taking more than it gave I somehow found my way out… a few times I was ejected and other times I ran for the hills.  Either way, if it ain't fun, it ain't gettin' done.  I have always understood that joy was the purpose.  Giving and getting.  Drudgery isn't living, it is imprisonment.  That isn't something that I have any desire to experience.  Blech!

I wanted to share a fantastic email by a professional cat sitter after he stopped by to pick up something he left while she wasn't home.  Yes, he makes a living watching people's kitties (too many jokes, seriously) isn't that fantastic.  He also keeps things awesome by sending the pet owners emails like the one below.  Enjoy and you may want to adapt his preparedness attitude, he makes a strong case for it.  Enjoy!

Hi KC

They barely had water scraping the bottom of the water bowl. I filled the usual water bowl, and set out another across from the fridge. I hope that it is not a bowl that you do not mind being touched by kitty tongues.

I put out enough water for my cats to last a few days in case something happens - death, madness, overwhelming sadness, earthquake, the near total breakdown of our society, indigestion - that might keep me from home for two or three days. Just in case.

Duane

Now I am pretty sure Duane is not crazy, ok, not sure but am assuming.  He is just having fun.  Prior to this email he called her to ask about stopping by.  When she told him it was ok he asked her if he could also bake oatmeal cookies!

When you put fun as a driver in your world you may have the where-with-all to actually be funny, to send random emails, to laugh uncontrollably, to skip instead of walk, to sing when a song comes on instead of silently listening to it.  You could quite possibly become a very happy person indeed.

xo

a

Security

"Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing." ~Helen Keller Happy Weekend! I am sitting in my living room watching a fantastic movie called 'Death of a Superhero' that is unbelievably fantastic. I will let you google and find out the details, but I highly recommend it. For anyone who will experience life or death the movie is a beautiful tribute to both. :) I found the movie after I sat down to write. I often don't know what I will write about until I sit down and am open to receiving inspiration from wherever it wants to come. Tonight it was in the form of this movie that ended up taking 100 minutes of my time (hence the late blog entry) and I am all the better for it.

Today the topic of death came up a few times in conversation. I honestly wish we spoke about death more. Death and sex: the two things that bookend life, yet we just don't want to discuss them. More on sex another time :) Back to life and death; I was thinking about how most of us are so caught up in being responsible and secure and so forth and so on that we refuse to live the life we want to. We want stability and security. The one thing I know for sure is the life is the thing that is the most insecure. We could go at any time! Seriously! Instead of encouraging each other to LIVE and celebrate this amazing gift and experience we put people in boxes and make them stare at screens all day to move things from here to there and there to here and give them two days to have fun, YAY! Really? Is this what we consider life… and if this is how our lives can be secure, is security something to strive for then? Security seems more like a way to stave off the fear we have of looking at the temporary state of all things.

Ok, ok, I can almost hear the questions about money and how does one support oneself??? "I hear you want us to "live" but how the heck will we do that if we are on the streets because we quit our jobs?!" I know, you "have" to work to make money to take care of the kids and the house and the dog and the cat and the blah and the blech." Let's go back to some other things we have 'talked' about, like the idea that you create your world. If you don't want to live a life that is all about "security" yet you would like to have all of the things you want to have (which by the way isn't about security at all, it is about having stuff so that you can use it while you are alive) then create that life! Seriously, get to work creating the life you actually want! Security won't matter when you are living your dream. Dreams are bigger and smarter than false senses of anything. True security comes when you embrace the fact that all things come and go, or rather, that there is no such thing as security.

"Uncertainty is the only certainty there is, and knowing how to live with insecurity is the only security." ~John Allen Paulos

"Only the insecure strive for security." ~Wayne Dyer

Enjoy your moments! a