Howdy, Whatever it is that you are doing in order to reach some goal or another you will need one thing: discipline. You will need to keep doing whatever it is that you are doing and not stop when you feel like the results aren't coming. My favorite line from anyone is, "I have tried everything." I want to complete the sentence with, "and stuck with nothing." How can you wonder why you haven't gotten where you wanted when you give up on everything?
Getting somewhere you haven't been isn't some glamorous event. At the end of your journey, when you have reached your goal, others may see it as some overnight transformation. You are the only one that really knows (besides your partner, therapist and maybe a friend or two) what you went through to get to where you are, starting from where you were. Reaching your dreams is a lot of work, a lot of struggle, a lot of letting go and a whole lot of holding on.
People ask me on a regular basis if I get sleep. I do get sleep, but it comes around my getting my dreams accomplished. I know what I want and where I am going and sleep sometimes gets in the way if it is hours long. So two hours here, 3 or 4 there sprinkled with the 20-45 minute snoozes I do while waiting to do something else. I get my rest, just not in the way most do. I have a goal, several, and that requires me to do things differently than others may want me to do… or understand. My goals aren't about others so why would how I reach them be about anyone else's idea either? I also have to remind myself that I set this goal and why (especially when I am exhausted). Discipline. Doing it. Making it happen. Even when I don't want to. In all honesty, I always want to do what works for my goals. Do I always? No. But 98% of the time I am working in a way that will and is fostering my reaching my goals.
What goals are you currently wanting to reach? How have you sabotaged, if at all, your goals? What scares you about reaching your dreams? How long have you had them and how many times have you given up on your dreams? Sticking with something is hard when you don't know the outcome. Well, you never know the outcome of anything, save for life. Death is always the outcome. So what we do between the birth and the death is always the unknown. You aren't actually sure of anything and risk things on a daily basis regardless. So what exactly is the issue with doing something and not letting it go just because your goals haven't been reached in a month. You will need to take steps. We are, all of us, trying to be somewhere we aren't instead of embracing where we are and looking forward to the inevitable change that we are heading towards. So maybe the first step is small and seemingly insignificant. Do it anyway. Who cares what and how you judge it, just do it. Then do it again. Then again. Until it is just what you do, you see change, and then it will be off to the next dream.