Hello, There is no getting around doing the work. There is no magic pill that creates the life you want. There is no running away from what you don't enjoy about yourself. There is no ignoring what you would like to forget. There is no dodging you as your responsibility… not forever anyway. You will be faced with what you turned your back on before. You will have to deal with what you have kept out of focus. What you resist persists. Now it is time to pony up.
So much of our time is spent doing. We go to school, we get a job we do our job, we find a mate, we do the whole mating thing and partnering thing. We keep on doing this or doing that, rarely stopping to check in with ourselves unless tragedy strikes. Even then we focus on the loss and not our life, our journey. Much of our lives are spent being distracted from our internal world. We have been taught to put more stock in what we see on the outside not understanding that our external world is a reflection of our internal universe. Of course, this understanding is tricky because our outside world can seem awesome when really it is masking what is really happening.
We work so hard to look like our world is all good. We run around dressing sharp, talking a big game, and working hard. We have read all of the self-help books and have our spiritual language down. Then our world starts to get deep. Things stop happening for us the way we intend for them to. Our deep work begins to call for attention. When this happens it is like all hell breaking loose. This is what looks like a breakdown for most people when truly it is the beginning of a break through. It is full of change, pain, heartache and growth.
The only way out of this is through. The only way to stop the flow of tears is to do the work. The only thing left to do is you. You have done family, jobs, partners, stuff. Now, it is time for you to give yourself the attention you deserve. You must stop putting yourself last. You must begin to see your value, you must begin to see your worth. You have a lot to do but you will be ok. Take it one day, sometimes one moment at a time and before you know it you will be through the hard stuff.
Sending love, support and strength,