Howdy, For over 20 years I have helped people gain control of their nutrition and weight management. When my clients follow my protocol they get results 100% of the time… and in more ways than they thought they would. I work on 3 levels, the mind, body and spirit… so no stone is left unturned. If they are committed to doing the work, the work will be done. Some of the work is standard and no surprise at all, like conscious eating… then there are the things that are surprising like the fact that some people aren't going to support your weight loss and will try to sabotage you at some point on you journey… and one of those people is sometimes you.
When you decide you want to get fit after years of being out of shape, overweight or both you will be faced with a lot of resistance. The resistance is fear. Fear permeates us when we are unhealthy. Fear vibrations are lower than love vibrations. Eating processed items, sitting for long periods of time for years on end, thinking things that aren't supportive and doing very little self-love work will cause your vibrations to register low on an energetic scale. When your vibrations are low, you aren't motivated to make many, if any, changes. When you do get the gumption to do something different you are up against your brain chemistry that has conditioned responses to what you have been doing, and will resist change if it was up to it; you are up against your regularly scheduled programming, so getting a new routine is daunting. You are also afraid of judgment, so joining a gym or getting a trainer is big and scary. Just getting to the point where you can tell people who you are working with someone or doing something is a big hurdle emotionally.
It is no wonder, then why so many people fail at truly finding the solution to their fitness and weight loss goals. Not to mention society and the media. I am all for acceptance, I teach it, preach it, live it. However, acceptance does not mean no work needed. Acceptance is where you start to begin changing that which needs improving. The idea that things don't need improvement is ridiculous. People go to church to become better people (so they say), people go to therapy to become better equipped to handle their lives, people clean themselves to get clean or improve upon the moment. Improvement is the nature of life. We have children and want them to be better off than we were… but as soon as we discuss weight everyone is a-ok and doesn't need to do anything?? We do more damage lying about not wanting to change our bodies than we do changing our bodies. We oppress more people by saying that it doesn't matter what you look like than we do allowing people to care openly. Acceptance is the starting point for change… not the end point for life. When you accept that you are where you are and you want to be where you aren't you can begin the steps needed to make it happen… including getting healthy.
So stop telling people they are big-boned. No one is big-boned. Yes, once you have carried excess weight for years and years your femur grows wider to compensate for the force they are under, but no one is born with abnormally big ass bones and then becomes fat. Stop telling people not to get "too skinny." Instead tell them that the cheese danish is poison that will end up killing them in the end. Let them know that the cheeseburger has no nourishment. Tell them that they look puffy and unhealthy instead of saying that they shouldn't go overboard with working out. Encourage them to work out, this is what their body needs… this is what their soul needs, this is what will bring them to change, improvement and empowerment.
You have been given a gift, this body that sits reading this… you are the caretaker of a great vessel. When you take excellent care of this vessel you are able to do amazing and wondrous things with it. It is your servant. When you neglect it, you become imprisoned by the very thing that is here for you to experience the world with. Your body becomes the master and you the slave. Pay attention to the orders that are being shouted out to you from that vessel. Who is in charge? Are you afraid to stop eating something because of how it tastes or are you thinking about how you need to be fueled to bring the vibrational levels of this great vessel up? Where is your focus? What is your purpose?
When you decide to make a change know that it may not always be easy, some people may not be helpful, and you may feel like you have been backsliding a little bit. Just keep on keeping on, you will get to where you dream of eventually.