Howdy, Aloha, Good Morning, Moods, we all have them. Some say Gemini's have a lot of them! Ha. Whatever. The truth is feelings are information. So how do we begin to get the information that we are being given. Feelings aren't exactly what they seem to be. It is like looking at a painting close up. You have to get some distance in order to really take it all in. Perspective. Feelings are also a code to which we have the incorrect key more often than not. The key we have is the paradigm of victim.
The victim paradigm looks like this:
Things happen to you.
You have no say over how you feel.
People owe you.
"Should" is a word that exists
Right and Wrong are used regularly
You wonder 'why me'
You have unspoken expectations or you expect others to know what you want and to do it
You believe your happiness is the responsibility of someone else
You don't do your own work
You 'don't know what to do' on a regular basis or you say it regularly
You believe others have more control or know better than you
When you live in this paradigm you expect the government to fix the economy. You expect others to not cut you off when driving and you feel angry when they do. You believe that your perfect mate is out there waiting and all you have to do is look pretty (or not) and they will show up and your life will make sense. You believe that God created all things yet many of those things are wrong. You look at what is and say it shouldn't happen. You believe that if only x would do y everything would be ok. You don't know why your life turned out how it did. You throw your hands up and wonder 'why me???' You get angry that someone didn't do something you never explicitly asked them to do. You believe that you deserve something from someone and that them not doing it means that they aren't right.
Do you know anyone who lives under this paradigm? Do you? Sometimes?
The paradigm of the person who sees feelings as a code to the secrets of the universe lives under the paradigm of the curious one. The curious one looks at everything from the standpoint of "what am I experiencing this for, if anything. When you are curious you are not judging. You are asking, you are open, you are ready for what is. You aren't trying to push things away and you aren't judging.
The curious one paradigm looks a little like this:
You are open
You want to know why but aren't attached to any answer
You do your work, you want to learn about you
You want to learn about others
You feel that things happen for a reason
You don't expect, you wonder
You know perspective is key
You see many sides because of perspective
You relate to others, you see yourself in their place
You see things as they are, from your perspective and you wonder how they would be if you weren't you
You ask questions
You take responsibility for your feelings
The 'Curious One' looks at the world from the place of awareness. The CO is looking for the lessons of this existence. We aren't here to condemn, blame, fall victim to or lament over life. We are here to learn, love and grow. Think about a baby. What do they need? Love, learning and growth. That is really all we continue to need. When you become that CO you begin to look at people as helpers. They give you information about you. You learn how you feel about things, what you want or don't want, like or don't like, need or don't need. You get a chance to look at how you relate to the world through how others relate to you. You also get a chance to see the world from other eyes when you are curious. You ask questions, you listen to the answers and you believe that by changing your perspective most anything could make sense to you. As the curious one, you do not deny, you accept.
How curious are you on a regular basis? How can you bring some curiosity to your life? Would you want to?
"Anything that annoys you is for teaching you patience.
Anyone who abandons you is for teaching you how to stand up on your own two feet.
Anything that angers you is for teaching you forgiveness and compassion.
Anything that has power over you is for teaching you how to take your power back.
Anything you hate is for teaching you unconditional love.
Anything you fear is for teaching you courage to overcome your fear.
Anything you can’t control is for teaching you how to let go and trust the Universe."