I get what I want. This is my mantra. It flows, feels great when I say it and is true. I say at any point where I feel a sensation of loss. It works for me because I know what it is that I want. Wanting is a loaded word and everyone has a feeling about wants when you ask them about it. Wanting brings up a lot of stuff for most everyone. You can feel vulnerable and exposed when communicating your wants. You can feel unworthy and unloved when you are faced with a decision to want something and go after it or let it go. Wanting can exemplify your feelings about yourself.
So many people tell me that they don't know what they want. To that I say, poppycock! You know when you aren't happy, right? Well, this is an example of you wanting something and not getting it. Go through your world, sift through your thoughts, check on your memories and see where you were disappointed. Wherever that feeling of "should have" comes from is an example of you having a want, a desire that wasn't satisfied. There is no woman or man on the earth without wants. You spend everyday each day wanting a sh*tload of things. Pay attention.
Most people try not to want (out loud) because they fear disappointment (which they experience anyway) and don't believe that they can get what they want. So they pretend to not want anything. They also don't believe they have the "right" to want what it is they want; especially if their want is up to another person to fulfill. There are a few things that are flawed about this whole situation… wanting doesn't mean getting. Wanting is an expression of your desire. Wanting means you have done the work to find out who you are, what you like and what you would like to have in your life. Wanting doesn't mean people are going to satisfy your desires… on the contrary. When you begin to find out what it is you want you will understand that the onus is on you. You are the only one that will be able to take care of your wants and needs, truthfully.
When you get to a point where you can want without feeling guilty and instead feeling deserving, you will be in a place of safety that comes from within. You will not expect from others in the same way and without permission, you will not limit yourself in the same way you have in the past and you will cease being disappointed on the level you end up at this point in your life.
Want something? Own that feeling, that desire. Don't know what you want?? Stop lying to yourself. Quit telling yourself those stories. You want a lot, now admit it and get on with getting it.