Howdy! Tis the season to get stuff right. Oh, I know most of you would say 'to give' but let's be honest… you want some things too. We have this funny way of trying to be altruistic when it is a big ol' lie. Seriously. You weren't put here to not want something. We want lots of things and there isn't anything wrong with it. I mean, if you are being selfless and giving to others, who are the others and wouldn't they be trying to do the same thing if wanting things were so bad? I believe that one of the reasons we 'get' things is because we are open to receiving them, and, if you look around, how much do you get? I am sure you get a lot of things, which tells me that on various levels you feel deserving, you feel worth receiving. Make the fact that you do want things something that you own instead keeping your wanting hidden in your subconscious (like a dirty secret). When you bring it to the surface you are able to direct it a bit more, you can be more specific about getting your desires met. Getting isn't a sin, wanting isn't a sin, asking isn't a sin. When you want (which is all of the time in so many different ways) you are giving someone the chance to please you… and you, the altruistic one, knows how giving someone something they want or need feels. It feels amazing. We not only want to be loved, we desire to give it as well, in its various forms.
I believe that a life of service doesn't mean a life of struggle. We have decided that those who want to help others shouldn't want to help themselves as well. They should be selfless, oftentimes poor, in only a bit better spot to those they are helping. How would anyone be an example of success by not being successful? How is it wrong to have abundance and be of service. Wouldn't you believe the person who has figured out how to have what they need would be able to tell you a thing or two about getting somewhere that you are not, like a place of abundance? It is like asking someone who doesn't love themselves to love everyone else. When you have done your work, figured out how to meet your needs or ask for help, serving is done in a much purer way. It isn't being used to squash the very real fact that you don't feel deserving on some level; it isn't covering up a deep feeling of guilt. In any case, that isn't really giving, in my opinion. It is being selfish in a deep and unconscious way.
Own your wants. Ask for what it is that makes your heart sing without judgement. No one is served by denying who they are. Speak your truth. If all else fails, and you don't believe that it is ok to want, look at it like this. The world isn't lacking in anything. We have more people, more stuff, more food (regardless if it is getting to everyone or not, the capacity to feed is infinite), more ideas, more than ever before. Scarcity is a lie. When you have something it takes nothing away from me. It is the argument of gay marriage somehow hurting heterosexual marriages. One doesn't take away from the other. There is enough marriage to go around and enough love to sustain the relationships that want sustenance. My wanting stuff, experiences, my way, doesn't mean you cannot have your stuff, experiences or way. We can all be in a place of abundance if we just wanted it, openly, without judgement.