Hiya, We don't always realize how the little things matter so much more than the bigger things. There are so many more little things that, when put altogether, add up to waaaaay more than the big things combined. Like insects. If all the insects jumped off the earth at once the earth would possibly fall off its axis. There are way more bugs taking up way more space and weighing way more than other living things combined. Though I don't enjoy bugs, I appreciate them for, holding it down, so to speak. I also appreciate the reminder that they play an important role in the function of this planet.
The same holds true for the little things you say to yourself all day every day. When you wake up to when you go to bed, what are the dominating thoughts? If you wonder and cannot recall or are not aware of the dominating words, ideas or language you can simply look at your life and you will have your answer. Do you love you life? Every aspect of it. Work, is it fulfilling and are you living your dream? Love, do you have it in your life and if so is it you ideal? Your body, are you happy with your body, is your body happy with you? Health, are you healthy, do you feel great everyday? Friends, are they supportive and who you want to be around? If any of those things aren't where you want them to be what are the thoughts about them that come up for you right now? What do you say to yourself when it comes to the various aspects of your life?
One of the easiest ways to begin this awareness journey is to pay attention to what you say to yourself first thing in the morning upon waking. What are the thoughts that come into your mind when you open you eyes? What is the general feeling in the morning each morning? What is your normal response to making a "mistake"? How many times do you go over what already happened to criticize yourself for doing 'a' instead of 'b'? How often are you called stupid in your own mind? Do you use the word 'should' on a daily basis?
Once you begin paying attention you will begin to see how your inner dialogue shapes your external reality. If you think you aren't very good at something, chances are you won't succeed at it in reality… partly because you may not even attempt various things you have berated yourself out of trying. Once you awaken to you inner dialogue and hear all that you have said, moment by moment, you may become appalled by the level of abuse you inflict on yourself. Now imagine yourself as a little girl/boy and you are telling her/him what you tell yourself all day everyday. This is what we do. We are, everyday, raising up the inner child. We have a chance, every day, to raise them up with love or fear. How do you want to shape her/his world?
The small things, in reality, are all there is. We are but molecules all bunched together to create the illusion of solidity. We are energy and we feed on love and are minimized by fear. If you are each day, in every way, telling yourself that you matter, the bigger picture is going to be made up of those sweet loving thoughts. If you, every day in every way are doing the opposite, the opposite is true.
I am not saying to sweat the small stuff, but, instead, put effort into it. It matters and so do you.