Hello!! Best laid plans... So often we want something to happen, we hope something will happen, we expect something will happen… and then something else happens. Disappointment ensues. Sadness follows and, depending on the gravity of the disappointment, an alteration happens within us. It may be small at first, but as it get compounded by more and more disappointment we begin to expect the disappointment. Before expecting it, or sometimes after, we then start to paint the things that we were focused on being what we wanted them to be as inherently disappointing. Or as a disappointment waiting to happen. We will find ways to avoid the potential disappointment by saying we don't want what we want (which is not true and doesn't work), we stop having expectations (outwardly) or that hope is a waste of time and a little foolish.
The thing is disappointment is information (like everything else). It tells you that you had an expectation, hope, want, desire that wasn't met. Maybe you didn't communicate what you needed clearly enough to be heard by whomever didn't do what you wanted, desired, expected etc. Maybe they don't want to give you what you want, need, expect etc. Or maybe it isn't a person that you are expecting, needing or desiring anything from. The bottom line is you are being given insight into yourself when you are disappointed. You are being shown things that are deep, you may even regress a bit when you become disappointed. If you are regressing then you really want to pay attention to and acknowledge your feelings.
Once you notice where you go when you are disappointed (ages 3-9 usually) you can communicate effectively around the issue or area that triggered the disappointment. I know that I rarely am disappointed but when I am it is hard to come out of. I feel like the whole world has conspired against me and that everyone and everything should have known what I wanted, needed, and felt. Then, I grow up. This happens whenever I grow backwards. The truth is you have to own your disappointment and know that you are in charge of your happiness, your wants, your needs. It is your job to get those needs met. It is your job to make sure people who you expect things from are aware of what you want so that they don't suffer the ridiculousness of not knowing what you want but being held responsible for it.
So, say what you mean, mean what you say. Know what you want and make sure you communicate it to the people, the universe, anything or anyone else that can possibly help you get it.