Howdy, When you stop growing you die. Life ends when movement ceases. Many of us search for stillness, for a reprieve from growth. We use all sorts of things to basically numb, slow down, shut out, or to simply stop movement in any direction. We look for security, stability, predictability. We look for people to be enable us and call them 'kind' or 'loving' when they do. I don't consider helping someone stay in an addictive behavior as being kind or loving. Anyone who comes into my world will be challenged in the exact way they need to be.
"We find comfort among those who agree with us-growth among those who don't." ~Frank A. Clark
I am challenged every day. I am challenged to do what I know to be the thing that I must do at any given moment. I live purposefully and passionately. I grow moment by moment. I feel differences on a regular basis and I appreciate the 'struggle' that brings me to new territory within myself. It is work, growth. It is constant effort that can be attributed to growth. Growth isn't about being still. It is about movement. It is about life. Think about how we are created. It isn't through holding of a hand or a touching on a shoulder. There is movement that brings about life and movement that keeps it going. Movement is key to life.
"All growth depends upon activity. There is no development physically or intellectually without effort, and effort means work." ~Calvin Coolidge
I challenge people (and myself) to own their present situation. To look at their habitual behaviors and discern whether or not those behaviors are actually helping them reach their goals. I challenge people to actually look at themselves without the niceties of "being nice" and "being soft" in order to not hurt feelings. Sometimes feelings need to be hurt in order for growth to be sparked. Besides, when someone get's hurt it is information. So often where there is pain there is truth.
Look into yourself, be honest. See the places where you are 'stuck' or repeating patterns. Watch yourself play the same tapes over and over in your head. Do you want to remain here… this place or do you want to grow, move, live?
"I will grow I will become something new and grand, but no grander than I now am. Just as the sky will be different in a few hours, its present perfection and completeness is not deficient, so am I presently perfect and not deficient because I will be different tomorrow. I will grow and I am not deficient." ~Wayne Dyer