Howdy, When you do a good job on something that is good for you the thanks come in the form of improvement. You don't actually get external praise for taking care of yourself. I do think it is only natural to want to get some love for a job well done. We all like positive reinforcement. We all want love. The thing is, at this point a job well done is a job that truly is just getting the basics done. Most people aren't even touching the surface of going beyond what is necessary to just exist and feel great. Feeling great is actually an accomplishment these days… and one that isn't reached very often. We live in a world where people are sick and exhausted, unhappy and unmotivated, malnourished and obese, and believe that this is just living… So when someone doesn't feel crappy, doesn't eat crappy, doesn't think crappy praise is sometimes desired. I believe you need to praise yourself and move forward and not expect it from anyone else.
Your work is you. You and only you, not even your kids. In other words, the only person who you can be attached to an outcome with is yourself. Your body, your mind, your heart and your soul are all yours to take care of at the very minimum. We have gotten so far away from our selves that we think we aren't even our responsibility. By the time we get around to recognizing that we have to take care of ourselves we are in a state of disarray. Our bodies are hurting, our minds are slow, our emotions are stunted. It often takes a big even to even alert us to the fact that we are gifted with this body, this heart and this mind and it may be able to take a lot of abuse but we do break at some point. What if you didn't wait until you broke to keep everything running smoothly? What if you didn't think it was a big deal to do the bare minimum to stay great? Imagine that world where we are all running around feeling, looking and thinking our best. What if breaking was a rare situation, the exception instead of the norm?
We praise father's for not leaving. We praise people for losing weight. We praise people for getting good grades. We have really low expectations it seems. We have made doing the bare minimum as a person an exceptional feat. At this point the ones that are doing their work steadily and succeeding are the exception and nothing to write home about. I do believe in positive reinforcement, but with self-care, that is the by-product, end result, the point, everything. When you take care of yourself you are taken care of. You don't need to be told that you are awesome, doing a great job or coddled by anyone, though it is always nice, it isn't necessary or needed. Your own self-confidence (another result of self-care) is plenty. Your own sense of well-being is the reward for being great to you. When you live your life as if it was the miracle it is and treated it with the utmost of care we would live in a different world.
How can you stop taking yourself for granted and making excuses? How can you stop comparing yourself to the broken ones around you and begin to look skyward with confidence? How can you imagine something bigger something more for yourself and believe that not only is it a possibility but it is your destiny? The only limits are those your mind can dream up, the only obstacle is you. What will you do to get beyond yourself so you can fully rise to becoming your Self?