judgement

What's Good???

Good morning! It is Tuesday!!  :) This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

Alternative Radio.

Goal Setting.

Pretty Things.

Animal Friends.

Movement.  

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

What do you value?  What do you feel is important in your life?  Put energy into it.  Make it your focus.  If you want it you will work for it, you will strive for it, you will achieve it.  We all have things that we want and love.  Let go of the judgement and go for it!     

"What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value."   ~Thomas Paine

xo

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Catching Feelings

Hello there! I have very strong feelings about most things.  I write every day about how I feel about one thing or another.  I enjoy feeling good, fit, strong, happy, etc.  I even enjoy feeling pissed, angry and sometimes sad.  I embrace it all, no judgements.  I work on being conscious of my feelings every step of the way.  I question them all of the time and have, at this point, learned how to interpret my feelings pretty well.  Feelings are a language that most of us have not mastered in the least.  Many of us treat our feelings as the ultimate truth whether we actually would classify them as valid, honest or would be in agreement with them if we spent some time looking at them objectively.

I teach indoor cycling, spinning is what most people call it.  My classes have been described as 'hard' and I would have to say that they are designed to be challenging.  During these classes I know that participants can sometimes become desperate.  They express emotions that resemble fear and have told me that they literally thought they were going to die.  Now, they aren't about to die, they are simply just pushed to what they feel is their max.  They feel their heart race, they feel out of breath, they feel like they don't have enough energy, strength, chutzpa, to continue.  Their feelings are not the truth.  They are fine, they do have more, they won't die (in that moment).  However, when they have these feelings it determines how they react to the work that is before them.  Many back off, some stop, others keep pushing but feel like they may not be able to for long.  We take our feelings at face value without thinking critically.  We put the judgements of right & wrong or good & bad on them, when feelings, honestly, are just information.

Feelings are great when we learn how to use them, when we are able to discern the ones that are giving information to move forward on and ones that are simply getting in the way.  Feelings can help you reach a goal or keep you from it.    Feelings can bring you to love or take you away from it.  Feelings can get you up in the morning to complete a workout or give you a reason to stay in bed.  Basically, feelings aren't to be trusted at face value.  They are, instead, to be questioned.  Ask yourself if you actually want what they are implying.  Ask yourself if you would agree with the feeling's accompanying thoughts.  Do the feelings you are having actually make sense?  Maybe you are feeling anxious because someone isn't behaving how you expected.  Does your feeling anxiety actually mean that something is wrong?  If not, what do your feelings mean?

Awareness that feelings are to be interpreted and not just taken at face value can be helpful, if you take the concept in.  Recognizing feelings as information doesn't mean you don't cry, don't get angry or sad.  On the contrary, that awareness gives you space to do what your feelings urge you to if you choose that direction to go.  Being aware of feelings as information gives you an opportunity to detach from behaviors that don't align with your highest goals/potential.  Because you are not reacting to your feelings without awareness you are able to choose your actions clearer.  You are able to make decisions that support who you want to be instead of repeating who you have been.  When you become an observer of your feelings instead of the victim, you are able to decide how your feelings can actually help lift you instead of bring you down.

"The best way of forgetting how you think you feel is to concentrate on what you know you know."  ~Mary Stewart

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What You See Is What You Can Be

Hello there!! How much time do you spend worrying about other people and what they do, don't do, think, don't think, should be doing or thinking or not be doing or thinking?  Basically, how much time do you spend distracting yourself from yourself? Not that looking at others and how they live their lives isn't important for various reasons.  After all it provides entertainment, self-reflection (it can) and distraction (which can be exactly what we need sometimes).  It is just that we can do it more than we realize and in turn stay disconnected from what is happening inside our own universe.  So how much time do you spend thinking about the lives of others while your life is left high & dry, swaying in the breeze?

What if you took that time directly after a critique of someone to see where can relate.  For example, when you think someone is being harsh or rude ask yourself why you would be harsh or rude.  Have you snapped at anyone ever?  Why?  What was happening in your world that led you to that behavior?  Would you want to do it again?  Will you?  Maybe you are feeling sensitive in this moment.  Maybe you are actually projecting because you don't feel good about yourself right now and anything anyone says may come off as harsh or rude if you are feeling deserving of that behavior.  Harsh and rude are subject to opinion after all… so maybe, maybe things aren't always exactly what you feel them to be in the moment of judgement.

When we look at someone else, their behavior & their actions, we are given the chance to see ourselves in that person without having to be that person.  There is always a 'reason' or 'story' that leads someone to the place they are.  When we give each person credit for their journey we give ourselves the same credit and permission to be where we are.  When we give ourselves permission and we begin to be present in our world we are able to create it how we would most desire.  No matter where you go, there you are.  We will never be able to get away from ourselves regardless of the effort put into looking at others.  If we see it in someone else then we embody it in ourselves.   Focus on the fact that what you can see is what you can be.

Happy Growing,

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