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What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!!  How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day?  This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back…  put it out there!  Let the world feel your appreciation!  Let's make a difference.

 This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

Support.

Learning.

Acceptance.

Sunshine.

Being Great.  

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Being seen is the most amazing thing.  Not in the sense of someone not hitting you as you cross the street… though that is pretty great as well.  Being seen for who you are and how you approach your world (life, work, relationships, etc.).  Being seen is something that is a rare occurrence, so when it happens it can be breathtaking.  You always know when it happens, you always know when it doesn't as well.  

Most of us see ourselves in others without realizing it.  We use others as a mirror for the things we dislike, haven't accepted or don't understand in ourselves.  We projectile vomit our issues all over one another and judge and blame and alienate.  We spend a lot of time not seeing others.  It is no wonder why there are so many lonely people in the world.  When you aren't being seen, when you are being ignored (which, by the way, we do to ourselves as well) you are alone.  You feel like others don't get you, truly, and that if they did they might not like you.  It is a lonely world when you aren't seen and when you don't show up to be seen anyway.  

Then, there are these moments when you meet someone, when you encounter a person who knows you.  They see what you do, how you do it and they just get it.  There is nothing more rewarding than showing up and being seen.  Doing your work, loving your love, living your life and having someone reflect back to you your intention, your drive  and your reason for being who you are.  These are moments of ecstasy, these are moments of love.

You can see someone, you can show up for someone, you can bring love to someone.  You can start with yourself (doesn't everything start there).  You can start by showing up with yourself, not numbing out.  Turn off the TV, put down the beer or cocktail, get off of the couch, put down the weed, stop bingeing on sugary snacks, stop blaming anyone else for your life at this moment.  Show up and love what you see, who you are, and what you do.  At some point you will be seen and you will see.  You won't have eyes to see until you have opened them up and cleared off the glaze.  

See how what you see in others changes when you begin to see yourself, your true nature and live in that place of manifestation.  See and be seen.  See.

xo

a

Patterns and Reflections

Howdy, Pay attention.  What are you missing?  What is happening in your life over and over?  What are the feelings that you cannot seem to shake?  What are the situations you cannot seem to stop repeating?  What do you think about these things, these patterns?  What would you say to the movie screen if your life was being played out in a condensed way with all of the things that have "happened" to you as the storyline?  What would you say to a friend that was living the life you have lived or are living?  How would you counsel them?  

We often cannot see our own lives due to the fact that our perspective is distorted.  It is like trying to see a shooting star by sitting on it.  We fare better when we can see ourselves from the perspective of another.  This is the beauty of relationship and the difficulty as well.  We need one another to see ourselves clearer.  We use one another to gain perspective about ourselves.  Without the reflection of our behavior in another we would remain pretty blind to a large part of ourselves.  The challenge is understanding how to interpret the information that we get, from everyone around us, about us.  What do we take in, what do we discard, what do we keep or hold onto in order to bring about change?  

First and foremost, we are all working toward figuring things out.  The path for another may not be what you would consider righteous or healthy or preferable, but it is a path nonetheless.  Think about your life and how each step brought you to where you are now, to what you are learning now, to where you are going.  Know that each moment is a necessary part of the whole of your life.  Once you have drilled this into your noggin you can begin to look at your life, and others' lives, as information and not something to be judged or belittled.  When you don't recognize your moments as gifts and/or tidbits of information, you miss the very useful information that the moment is storing and trying to share.  It is hard to see a pattern in things when you are denying these things on a regular basis.

If you can, which I know you have the potential to, truly pay attention to your life and how you have operated it thus far, or ask someone you trust or admire to give you a rundown on what they think you have to work on.  If something irritates or resonates you have found an 'area of interest.'  Once you have noted various patterns in your life you have the choice to consciously repeat or delete them.  This is the blessing of awareness.  I know that the saying ignorance is bliss has some validity but knowledge truly is power.  You may feel stuck because of repeated behaviors you exhibit, you may feel stuck because of recurring thoughts in your head when you reach a certain level of success.  Whatever the reason for feeling unsettled or frustrated, you are in charge of settling yourself and learning how to find a place of ease.  

It is all possible, really.  Open your mind and heart to the possibility of not struggling through something.  Open your heart to ease.  See what comes.

xo

a