Howdy! Recently I made a choice that was just for me. For my life and no one else's. I took into consideration the pros and the cons as I see them and decided to move forward with my choice. I didn't stop to think about how others might perceive it, exactly. I have learned over the years that living for anyone and anything besides what your soul tells you to do is going against truth. I know that doing things just to please others will get you into trouble once you feel so oppressed that you rebel by swinging the opposite direction pretty aggressively. One can only fake it for so long before they have to live in integrity. So with my decision made, I went on my way.
Sure, we affect one another. We do, this is truth. I may walk by you and remind you of something you needed to do because I resemble someone you work with that is expecting this thing. I may be talking with you and relay a story about my childhood that brings up memories that were suppressed. Now, I am not going to not be myself because you would prefer not to remember something that I remind you of. We are all connected so what we do matters in so much as we decide to let it. This type of influence isn't something that we were meant to try to control. People are living their lives so that you can better see yours. You can see your preferences, your struggles, your judgments, your areas of work. So when I make a decision for my life, I am the one who needs to be consulted. You and anyone else, will get out of it whatever you were meant to, that isn't up to me to worry about or try to force. My life is an example in whatever way you decide it is for you, that is personal…
Now I am never interested in your opinion of my life if you want to tell me I am living wrong. What you think of me, in that way, is none of my business. If you feel that my life is not the life you would live, then don't live it. I make every decision with a knowing that is greater than any ego driven, emotionally charged response to it. I am certain about where I am being exactly where I am supposed to be. My conviction to myself and my SELF is unwavering. What is important to know is that whatever charge you get out of me living my life is for YOU and you alone.
It takes hard work to know yourself. It takes dedication to live with integrity. Integrity is being true to your self, not to others opinions. I wish for you all to find out what you really want, what you truly feel and to be and feel that. I know that we will be able to accept that we can only do what make sense to us and not make others live our way. Open your mind, live your life and love each other. Let it go, let love in, and get on with living.
So, to get back to that decision I made: when I decide to wear my melon pants with a striped shirt and teal jacket with purple knee socks, that choice was and always is mine to make, to live with and to enjoy! Have a GREAT Friday!!!!