"Safety always comes from inside-not outside of-you." ~Dina Bachelor Evan Howdy,
We spend a lot of time figuring out ways to feel safe and secure. We wear our seat belts, we read our exit row safety cards, we ask for people to make promises. The truth is the only way to feel safe, to be safe, is to know that you are always ok. You are always supported. Knowing that, even when life isn't as you would desire it to be, you are exactly where you need to be, doing and experiencing exactly what you need to experience to move you to the next place, phase, level of your existence is where you may need to start shifting your viewpoint. Your feeling of security and safety, when taken from the outside world, is always tentative. When you find that security and safety from within it is untouchable. You will be able to take on any sunny day or perfect storm feeling as ok as any other moment in your life. Safety isn't something you find, it is something you remember, recognize and reignite.
Feeling a strong sense of being ok doesn't mean you feel like no harm will ever come to you. On the contrary, you know that anything is possible in this human body and accept that no harm is coming to you right now. If harm did show up you would deal with it then an. Safety is being aware, conscious of the moment… knowing what you can control and knowing what you cannot, and accepting all of it. Boundaries aren't only what you create between you and the world around you, it is also how you deal with your internal world. How you manage your feelings, perceptions, emotions, expectations and thoughts. When you set a boundary that only allows an understanding that you are whole and supported living the life you were meant to, life becomes quite a bit easier. Shutting out fears around being safe will allow you to see how protected and cared for you actually are. After all, most of the time you are taken care of, right? You have been ok most of the time… when the thoughts we have don't support this fact we are slammed with anxiety, fear, dread. When we forget that we are rarely in danger we live as if it were a constant threat.
When we recognize that safety comes from inside and that we can nurture it, just like we do love, joy grows, safety grows, we become much more giving to others. Feeling safe gives us permission to be more of who we are, to heal the areas that we need healing, and it gives permission for others to do the same. Finding that ability to create safety within ourselves means that you are no longer looking for someone or something (which will always change and let you down) to do it for you. You aren't waiting on your White Knight to rescue you and protect you… instead you are your own savior, your own knight-in-shining armor (or sparkling amor for me).
One way to begin remembering that sense of self, safety, is to affirm it regularly. Another step is understanding that we are not our bodies, we are so much more, and that more is always ok.