Hello there, When I was younger I dreamt of things like children do. I saw myself in the home of my dreams, with the love of my life, with the career that I wanted. At no point, as a child, did I ever decide that I was asking for too much or believe that my dreams were too grandiose. I wanted these things and I thought about them as if they would happen. Life was exciting when I was a child (and luckily for me it still is) and part of that excitement was dreaming, the possibility. As I grew up and learned the 'truth' about various things in life (money being scarce (ha!) and true love being rare) my dreams changed to fit what I now knew. I stopped thinking about owning a home as a given, I changed what I wanted in a partner and I changed my mind about my career once or twice.
Still I grew older and things changed even more. Though I am an optimistic person and tend to dream and desire more than many more "realistic" or "pessimistic" folks, I became discouraged in various ways that I never would have as a child. I decided that relationships had to be 'work' and that jobs had to include parts that you possibly hated because you can't get everything, right? You had to take the good with the bad, right? Those were the 'Facts of Life' were they not? I mean, everywhere I looked people were compromising their dreams to live a life that didn't quite fit, but did the job. And for those who weren't compromising or settling, they were considered immature, needing to grow up. "You can't always get what you want" after all. We are trained to believe that settling is just growing up.
I question these ideas of grown-ups regularly. Why wear an ill fitted life? Why not hold out for your dreams? Why not work hard to realize what you always wanted. Why settle?
When you consciously choose your life you have to face the reality that some of what is currently happening in it may not work for you anymore. Recently I have chosen not to settle in any aspect of my life. From the time that this decision was made things fell away. Loss happened. I ended relationships and began new ones. I approached work differently and still do on a daily basis. At the same time, things began falling into my lap. Struggle became joy, life became love. Things weren't so 'hard.' The biggest thing is being honest every day with how I am where I am because I choose to be, and, if I want my life to be different than it is I can choose differently. I am remembering what I wanted as a child and not judging it as fantasy only. It is a goal, the foundation for reality. When you stop compromising your dreams you have to start living your life differently. You are responsible for making your dreams a reality.
If you knew that you could have it all, would you work for it? Would you open yourself to it? What if that meant closing yourself off to what you are currently doing, who you are currently with, how you presently view the world? What would you do to live the life of your dreams?
"All our dreams can come true, if we have the courage to pursue them." ~Walt Disney