Howdy!!! During a time when family comes together we are sometimes reminded of why they spend time apart. When you are close to people they know you. They know you so well in some ways… especially the parts of you that you don't enjoy and they seem to have a knack for bringing those parts to the surface. We may not want to have times with our families that are stressful, especially when the focus is giving thanks. However, it isn't by accident that we are triggered by our loved ones. It is because of the closeness, the connection, that we are shown the things that we must work on within ourselves if we so choose. Being around your family is a gift, even if it doesn't come with a bow tied around it.
It is more the case than not judgement will be made when families come together. Either you will be judged or you will judge. It might seem innocent, you may feel like you are helping or giving an answer to some question or another. But, as I told a friend earlier today, if you are giving information to your family and it isn't about sharing then you may be guided by ego. You may be telling them what to do without actually getting permission to do so. For some reason we believe that we have the right to say whatever we want to our families. Everyone feels judgement and everyone (healthy) resists it. So be careful, know why you are saying what you are saying. Operate out of love, curiosity and a desire to give. Your family won't feel so resistant to you if so. Additionally, know that everyone is doing their best… it may not be what you want, but it is where they are and it is their best in that moment."
Know that you are where you are also. Give thanks for you being you, knowing that without them you wouldn't be who you are. Who you are is precious, beautiful, deliberate. Since this is true for you, this is true for your family too. Remember how hard it is to change yourself… not imagining trying to change someone else. Use your holiday time as a time for healing, for crossing over the stream of life and learning what things you never ever leave behind. You just cross it at different grades on the ascent to wisdom. Life is a never-ending, ever-changing, momentary thing. Take the time you have with the ones you love and love them. Love the parts you don't enjoy and love the parts you love even more.
Happy Thanks Be Given :)