Never Lonely

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Themed cycle classes. My lovely friends. Sleeping in. Fit, Strong, Sexy Bodies. New Fitness Equipment.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

I don't get lonely. I really enjoy being on my own and I really enjoy being with others. No matter the situation I am in I am pretty content with being me and living my life. This is not something that is usual for most. Loneliness is a plague it seems. Many people will do most anything to get away from that feeling of being lonely. The paradox is that no one can fill up that feeling; no one, no thing, no place, no activity. Loneliness is a symptom, a sign, that you have left you. You have deserted yourself. The feeling of loneliness is a sign that the relationship that matters most as far as health, happiness and wellbeing, hasn't been nurtured. When you recognize that you could be your best friend, most amazing confidante and supporter, and you put energy into that relationship, loneliness will not have space to take root.

When you aren't lonely you find that the people in your life change. They are not looking for you to fill a space; they aren't looking for you to complete them in any way. When you fill yourself up, you are able to find others who have done the same. With the neediness removed from connection you are left to learn about yourself through your relationships, you are ready to grow and move forward in ways you couldn't have when you used others to numb yourself out. When you stop abusing others the way we do food, sex, drugs, etc. you will find happiness that is unyielding, unwavering, constant and more comforting than any other love you have known. When you are in love with you, when you are happy being you, when you stop leaving you, you will never be alone.

Be alone, be lonely, be afraid, be sad. Go through the feelings that you are sinking, falling and no one is there… then remember that you are. You could show up. You can bring your light to the surface, it is a choice. It is. We love to play victim and we love to stay confused. Stop using not knowing how to do something as an excuse. Read, google, write, ask, etc. Make a move, take action! You need to be where you are to get to where you are going, stop running from yourself. Stop leaving yourself. You are not alone, you never were and you don't ever have to be again.

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