Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.
This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:
Trusting What Is.
There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.
So… what are you waiting for???
Food for thought:
We run as fast as we can from pain. It is smart really. If you can get away from what is hurting you then you can find safety, a place where you won't be hurt anymore. Animals in the wild do it all of the time. They sense danger or see it and they flee. They run until danger leaves and then they confidently go back to whatever it is they were doing before. They find a safe place to continue living. What if the place that scared them, that was causing injury, that they needed to run from was between their ears?
When you find yourself running from your past and you find your past years and years before, where are you running to, what from and where will you go. The abuse isn't happening now. You aren't the child that was hurt, the adult that was left, the person that was afraid. You are ok and yet you are still running. You found safety only to realize you never left the hurt behind. You relive it on some level all of the time. You find things to support that this is your new normal, that pain is around every corner. You stop trusting, you stop believing, you set up your world so that what happened can never ever happen again. What if what happened was a one off? What if it was only possible to happen when you were 5 years old and now that you are an adult you are not capable of being in the same situation? What if you have nothing to fear anymore?
We replay what has hurt us over in our heads, by the relationships we pick that will mirror parts of our past pain, by not letting go. We hold onto so many memories that don't serve us. We decide that remembering the things that hurt you will somehow keep you safe. What keeps you safe is remembering what things worked, where you were happy and loved and comfortable and repeating that. Pain is a part of the journey. Suffering for decades around that pain isn't. That is a choice.
What are some memories where everything was great? Where you were loved, supported, cared for and safe? What if you looked at your history as a gift for yourself and others? What if you changed your ideas around your history? What if you changed the way you saw what happened to you and the language around it? What happened to you could be what happened for you… for you to be who you are now, all the drama, all the joy, all the experiences are piling up to create the you that you are. And you are pretty great.