"We must learn how to explode! Any disease is healthier than the one provoked by hoarded rage." ~Emil Cioran Some of us like to keep our true feelings to ourselves. We fear judgement, we fear being discovered of being less than perfect. We are sometimes so afraid that the areas that we feel are unpleasant stay inside and fester.
When we vent we are allowing the areas of our world that seem unpleasant in the moment to become less big. When you let it out through venting you are letting the energy around it disperse. You are creating a space for there to be less charge around it.
The need for venting or ventilation doesn't just apply to HVAC systems. Venting is an amazing way to keep things moving and not getting stuck, to keep things circulating. Venting helps circulate energy that builds up within us and allows it to dissipate. This movement of emotions, thoughts, energy is a component of a healthy, happy life. Holding upset, disappointment, anger, fear, etc. inside gives those things a breeding ground to create dis-ease in your body. Energy has to go somewhere after all.
Letting things out, talking to someone you trust, speaking your frustration is a healthy way to move beyond it. When you learn to release and allow those feelings to flow you open up opportunities for healing around whatever issue you have attached yourself to. When you speak your pains you have an opportunity to also hear your pains. Sometimes that reflection is just what you need to see what role you play in the drama of your life. When you hear yourself saying the same things over and over and nothing changes, it becomes way more obvious than if you kept those issues to yourself. Not only does the venting need to happen for the person frustrated, the person listening is being allowed to hear, support, be a mirror and feel safe to do the same.
Share yourself, all of yourself, we are much more interesting when we are who we are and much, much happier.