What's Good???

Good morning! It is Tuesday!!  :) This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

The Spartan Race & Events Like It.

Live Music, oh so good.

Old Friends.

Emotional Intelligence.

My Sister's Gift From Miles.  

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Conflict is a part of life.  We all have to have difficult conversations.  How do you manage to keep it healthy?  What ways do you engage or avoid that make it de-escalate or escalate?  Here are some guidelines for listening that we could all use, I believe.

If you are sharing an issue:

Be aware of what you are feeling in your body.

Be aware of when you feel you need to protect yourself, or deflect attention away from the process.

To speak about your fears or feelings, the good ones as well as the hard ones.

To speak about yourself from an "I" space.

Not to talk about your partner or other people, not to label, invalidate, attempt to control or discuss any one else's behavior.  When talking about someone else, you can say, "When this happened, I felt this way." 

~From Dina Bachelor Evan's Book, Breakup or Breakthrough

When you talk about things from your perspective, using "I" you keep your feelings as the focus. 

"Learn to become empty to know the truth.  It is found between the words, between the breaths, and between actions."  ~DBE