What's Good

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

My Juicer. My Vitamix. Etta running in circles. Sweat. My New Timbuk2 Computer, Backpack, Shoulder Bag situation.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

I have heard people say things like, "you don't want their head to get too big" or "you don't want to spoil them." These statements are made in response to someone complimenting someone else's abilities, beauty, energy. The person that is being complimented can be of any age, the threat is still what it is: the possibility that someone would believe the great things being said about them and they would, in turn, become undesirable in some way due to the feelings of awesomeness that would ensue. Another aspect of that fear is that the person being complimented would become lazy, complacent, full of him or herself (whatever that means), cocky, arrogant, awful, and downright negative due to the idea that others thought that they were great and their belief of those opinions. Honestly, there is so much f*cked with this whole idea of not giving love because of the damage it would cause that it is a difficult task to figure out where to begin. So I guess I will start with the beginning.

We are love. We are creation. We are everything. You can't be any greater than that. Reminding someone of this isn't where damage is done. The damage is done when you try to make someone believe anything else than this. When you believe you need to not let someone know the love you see in them because you are an ass (which is why you are doing it), or, to be a little more gentle, because you think you are doing good by tempering someone else. When you feel the need to temper someone else remember that you are projecting your own baggage, your own feelings of self worth (or lack thereof) on them. When you decide someone is full of themselves maybe you need to fill your cup up a bit more to see if that is possible. People aren't assholes because they are full, they are assholes because they are empty.

Try this, give it out… love, that is. Give it freely in this new year. Let's see how many arrogant asses we make by being sweet, generous with our compliments, abundant with our praise. Let's see how many awful children become awful adults because they believe that they are wonderful. When you know your greatness you don't want to put others down; when you know you are awesome, really know you aren't trying to stand on others to raise yourself up. That isn't what feeling great looks like. Feeling great creates energy and joy and more greatness. See how your building someone up can actually create a world that is stronger, more vibrant, less painful inside and out.

So love freely, live fully and, if at all possible, stop being a dick.  HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!!!

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xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Hot Chocolate. Vegan Marshmallows. Lentil Soup. Surprises (the good kind). Cold Filtered Water.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

On the eve of a big holiday there are a lot of things to do. You may be running around trying to find last minute gifts, heading into the office getting work done without interruption, writing blogs, taking classes, or chilling with your loved ones. Whatever you are doing you are choosing it, you are making it what it is on purpose whether you own that you are or not. You are in charge of all of it and the more you let that sink in and then spill out the healthier, happier and more stable you become overall.

So this is how you have a merrier xmas and life overall:

1. Stop blaming period. You are where you are because you put your ass there. You are feeling how you are feeling because you are choosing to see whatever it is in the way that makes you feel how you do. (Did you get that?) Each moment we breathe we choose what we see, what we do, how we feel and how we react. When you take FULL responsibility, the people in your life will be so grateful. Remind yourself that you are not a victim and the world will continue to treat you like the boss you are. 2. Begin owning who you are, really. Not the version of you that you would like to be the case, but the real deal. For example, I am not into sharing my food. Nope, I don't want family style sh*t, thanks. I don't care what that looks like to others because it pisses me off to share my food. :) So I don't. Done. When you can actually be all of you, you feel true freedom. It is amazing! 3. Do what you want! Seriously. If you don't want to go to a party, don't go. If you don't want to go to a job because you hate it, STOP GOING!!! Honestly, you will figure your shizznit out if you allow yourself to begin doing what you want. Life is an adventure, not something to be accomplished. Just live, love, and stay curious. 4. Recognize that you are a gift, you are precious. When you recognize your divinity and honor it the world improves. You make a difference by being your most favorite person. Love yourself first, fill yourself up… let that love then spill out, pour out, it will never run out when you continue to feed the source!

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holidaycrystal

Merry Holly Happy Jolly!

xo a

What's Good???

Good Afternoon!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Oneness. Heat. Training. Lip Gloss. Being a Grown Up.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

I have learned, over the years, that life isn't about what will be. We can spend all day everyday wanting what hasn't happened and judging ourselves on the amount of time it is taking us to get to this imagined and imaginary place. When we do this slow torture method of living we end up suffering on every level we exist on. We are anxious, we are moody, we are insecure, we are angry, we feel victimized, we are confused, we feel like we aren't good enough and never will be. When we spend all of our time wanting to be somewhere or someone that we are not we cause an avalanche of sh*t to cascade down on and around us… literally an emotional, physical and energetic/spiritual sh*t storm.

I am all for getting better; hell, I have an entire business built on the premise that excellence is where we are all going. I know that it can be confusing for most people who desire change, growth, knowledge, peace and rightness. Most people who are on the path truly want to be at the end of their journey. They want to know how to get there quickly and without making any mistakes. They want to be on the right path, doing the right thing. People end up being so concerned about tomorrow that they struggle with knowing whether or not they are in the daylight or if the sun has set. We skip over the point to get to an idea of the point. We use our past against ourselves to scare us into doing better for our future. What we fail to see is that we had good reasons for being and doing what we were being in doing back in the day. Today isn't judging yesterday, you are.

Acceptance is the doorway to not only happiness but enlightenment. When you can accept that what has occurred had a purpose (whether or not you agree, understand or like that purpose is neither here nor there) you can begin to let go of the present being other than what it is. You begin to respect the now, not just live in it. Respecting the present moment is the deeper part of growing into your highest self. When you show reverence for the abundance of each moment you are better able to let go of any attachment to some planned out idea of some imaginary future you've concocted. The acceptance of your past, the allowing yourself to be fully who you have been brings you peace in this moment if you let it. Instead of trying to bully yourself into change by using what you have or haven't done before as motivation, ask yourself what kept you doing what you did to be where you are. Find out your motivations and your reasonings… you have them, and then accept them without judgment.

I have learned, over the years that life also isn't about what was. None of it matters if you don't put a ton of weight on it. It is how you see this moment you are in that carries all of the weight you feel. When you make the decision to be where you are supposed to be at all times and then accept that this is always the case, the sh*t storm clears up, the knowledge flows, your anxiety ends and you can begin each moment how you would like it, again, and again, and again and again.

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moment

xo a

What's Good???

Good Afternoon!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

No snow. Dreaming. Holiday Lights. Strength. Options.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

What are you doing to get what you want? What do you do everyday, without fail, to reach your goals? Everybody wishes for things, it is easy-ish to do for most. There are those whose lives have been so darkened that they have a hard time dreaming, but for the majority, wanting is a serious hobby. The issue is that most people don't do more than want. They want to have a better relationship with their families, to have a stronger and more fulfilling connection with their lover, to feel like they aren't always searching for happiness. People want people to be nice, to stop doing awful things, to treat one another with compassion. Wanting has taken over and most don't know how to get what they want at all.

We like or dislike, want or don't want, but there are no action buttons on our social media platforms. In order for the wanting to end the doing must begin. You will need to start giving yourself the things you expect, desire, want the world to give to you. You want your lover to be more communicative then be more communicative and hold space for them to be as well. You want your friends to be healthier, be healthier and your friends will change. You want to be successful in your chosen field, then you will have to believe that you can be, you cannot just want it; you don't sleep, party or procrastinate your way to success. You want something you have to go for it despite any and all resistance to the contrary (as long as you aren't forcing someone or something to bend to you desires).

Want if you want… it won't get you where you want to be. Decision making, risk taking, and awakening all bring you to results. You are going to be where you are until you take some steps to be somewhere else. You cannot look for magic to happen passively. Magic takes effort, magic is the result of work. When you are feeling stuck ask yourself, "what am I doing to get what I want?" Then get moving.

Trouble with wishing
Trouble with wishing

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Pushing Myself In Every Way. Lunch Dates with Awesome People. Cooking. Incense. Books.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

This is the week of Thanksgiving! For many this means a day off of work and family joy and/or drama. For me it means that I teach on the holiday (which I always request) and cook up some yummy food to share with lovely people or just by myself, depending on the year. It also means that I spend a lot of time thinking about gratitude, writing about gratitude and coaching around gratitude. It is a time where people are in the appreciation mood and, for that, I am grateful. So instead of writing about gratitude, which I do on a regular basis… I will list things that I appreciate and am thankful for:

My soul and its unrelenting quest to get sh*t done. My mother for birthing me, loving me with all of herself, teaching me everything she could and being fully human. My father for being unapologetically who he is, which was never that present, but he owned it. My cat Hobbes for being a tyrant, a friend and companion to Pumpkin, my other little kitty. Both are gone now. My desire for perfection with a lot of humor and discipline thrown in. I have known that I wasn't cut out for mediocrity for as long as I can remember and now, I understand that it because it is a way for people to give up before they reached their full potential (which takes a sh*t ton of work). My sister for reflecting me back to me and reminding me of my true gifts. She loves me and I love her. My ex's, of which there are many. They all are a part of my writing, my work. Thank you for being the challenges, blessings and loves that you were. My ability to stay in the moment. I am very present. My calling which is to wake people up to love. My Jackson Smackson cat. He is a big cat with an aural fixation (he bites). My Etta for coming into my life and changing how I am more consistently than any other thing ever has. My home, I love this place and look forward to being in it more and more as I improve on things here and there. My readers, without you I would be sending this to my 8 other emails. Thank you for being open and sharing a bit of yourselves by allowing me into your lives.

To create a life full of thanksgiving and love take whatever the feelings you get from appreciating your life and share those with the world. Remember you are the one that can change the world. You can start with refusing to allow your lower self to be in charge. You can live a life that is an inspiration to yourself. You can create the space for others to do the same.

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dreaming_gratitude

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Maui. Tattoos. Vegan Treats. Tea. Being Single.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

You may find yourself going through some big shifts right now. It is that time for many of us where we begin to wake up, to see what has been hidden from our sight because we weren't seeing it within. When you start to get clean, to truly get real with yourself the world changes shape. When you start to recognize the patterns in your life as creations of your beliefs, your excuses, your choices, you can start to change them. Now is the time to begin to grow up, finally.

Adulthood chronologically is somewhere between 18 and 21 in our society. Emotionally it varies from person to person and truly is connected to our energetic intelligence/growth. When we are emotionally intelligent we are able to be energetically clear, or rather, have energetic integrity. Emotional intelligence at its core is understanding that you are only responsible for you and only you, no one is at fault or to blame for who you are and what you do. When you take full responsibility for yourself your energy doesn't push or pull unless you make it do so. When you grow up emotionally/energetically you aren't asking for saving or being a savior; you aren't playing the victim or being the bully; you aren't trying to get others to bend at your will just to satisfy your own desires… you aren't manipulating for reasons that simply benefit self. When you begin to own your ability to run your life with grace and with spiritual intelligence the world you live in begins to behave differently, not just look different.

The shift from bratty child, innocent victim, and ignorant passerby to grown ass adult who is an expert on themselves can be harrowing. It is a bumpy, scary, exhausting and wild ride. You may find yourself in situations you wouldn't have believed you could even be a part of let alone create. You will begin to have to face yourself and in that way you will see the world, more of it, and begin to heal all in the process… the world, after all is a reflection of our inner state (the inner state of all who share in this illusion, this dream we call home). Keep on moving forward, no matter how rough the road you are on seems. Keep on pushing your way through the brush of doubt, fear and shame. Keep on keeping on, the beginning is right around the corner.

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Emotional-Intelligence-2

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Ginger Candy. Gemma. A Clean Home. Electricity. Etta & Jackson.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

We spend a lot of time looking forward to this or that. We think about future conversations, lovers, jobs, homes, vacations, financial situations. When you look around it is hard to find anyone who is absolutely pleased with their "now." We spend our lives living for things that aren't here yet and it is making us miserable. If you were to ask someone to just be and then feel what that was like, they would have a hard time. Try it. Sit still and take in 60 seconds of now. What did it feel like? Were you able to do it? Did your mind jump to what you had to do next or to some past point in your life?

For those who know or follow my teaching/philosophy, you know that I am all about manifesting your world. To do so you have to see it before it is. You have to believe that it can be what you want… the difference is that dreamers dream, manifesters manifest. You live and feel as if your dreams are happening. When you manifest you spend more time in the moment, seeing the blessings, understanding the opportunities and appreciating what is. When you dreaming you, for the most part, are trying to get the hell out of wherever you are. So much is missed and you are left with the wanting… you are left with the lack.

There are a couple of weeks until Thanksgiving; that is plenty of time to see what gratitude brings us. See what happens with this experiment: Imagine that no one owes you anything. Husbands and wives, mothers and daughters, fathers and sons, brothers and sisters, etc. You are all doing what you are doing for someone else because you want to (so stop doing sh*t out of obligation) and everyone is doing for you because they want to. When you recognize that everyone is acting on desire and that they don't have to do anything, how does that make you feel? Are you feeling lucky? I hope so. You are. Now if you recognize that nothing you have is promised forever, no one in your world HAS to stay in it and everything can shift at a moment's notice (and will especially when taken for granted), how do you go on in the world? Gratitude is more than just a weekly exercise. It is a way of creating the life, sustaining the life, and being in the life you love.

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attitudegratitude

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Love. Sex. Friends. Vision. Work.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

You are a powerful thing. You are an amazing creature. You are without limits, without stops. Whatever you decide will be. Look at your life, look at what you have put in place. Own all of it. See it as your doing, whether it is disease, love, wealth or poverty. When you own it you can control it. When you take responsibility you can decide how you will manage it. You are not a victim. You have the power to make something stay or go. Your life is yours to mold.

I have told you and others this many times and some of it may sink in and yet you are still struggling to believe it. I understand. It is really triggering for those who have serious illness to own being the reason for it. The idea alone, for some, is blasphemous. How dare I say that someone deserves AIDS or Cancer or brought it upon themselves. Well I want to stir something in you, so if that is you being pissed, it worked. You ask for all the shit and all the delicious to be in your life. Your thoughts, your actions your beliefs open up doors. Some doors are filled with love and light and others are filled with muck and yuck. I have opened many of both in my day and understand all too well how absolutely detailed and disciplined one must be in order to truly keep the crap at bay; not to mention what you must to to make the crap dissipate entirely. Just take this for the truth in this moment… you are the reason for your world looking, feeling, tasting, smelling and being what it is. Now, what will you do about it?

See, you need to get off of your ass. You need to stop looking for the other to direct you. You have to remember that each day is brand new with no blueprint that HAS to be followed. We choose each moment of each moment. Just because we where the same damn thing day after day doesn't mean our wardrobe is limited. It just means we are insane. I want to get you from crazy to coherent; from asleep to awake. It may or may not be jarring, freaky, disappointing (at first), empowering and daunting. It is, however, the only way we will finally realize our potential. You cannot expect someone else to be all YOU can be. You cannot expect the world to change when you create it the same way day in and day out. You cannot expect to be well when your thoughts are so sick. You will have to deal with this truth at some point… it may or may not be today, but the day will come. At least, in this moment, it is a choice… at some point you will have to deal with the reality of your power whether you are willing or kicking and screaming. We are infinite and divine and hardheaded as all get out. It makes us crazy and beautiful. It also holds us back. I want to see you leap forward, towards yourself, towards love.

infinitelove
infinitelove

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Honesty. My Lululemon Peeps. Awesome Flight Deals. My Teammate Amy Morgan. New Ventures.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

How are you limiting yourself? The truth is you have no real idea until you are given a bit of perspective. If you have judgments around various occupations, people, ideas, places, behaviors, etc, then you are limiting yourself. When you decide you could never do something you are saying that you could never do something… which is a limit, period. Have you ever said you would never do something only to do the exact same thing you described as horrible? Of course you have, hypocrisy is as common as people are. Bottom line, limits have a way of being torn down in either direction… towards the yummy and towards the crummy. Just as you are capable of doing what you least desire you are also capable of rising higher and higher. The trick is to stop thinking you are limited and choose which direction you wish to expand.

Anything is possible. Anything. You just have to decide you will create it. So why does that idea make most people uncomfortable or question its validity? It may have something to do with personal responsibility. Knowing that you can have it all means figuring out how to get it, deciding you really don't care about receiving it (if you opt out of doing the work) and not blaming others for not being where you want to be. When you recognize your power it can also leave you feeling like you have the weight of the world on your shoulders. Well, the weight of your world is on your shoulders and it always has been. You can decide whether the weight pushes you down or has wings and lifts you up. You have to take the possibility of all things that have, haven't or will be and do what you will with it. If you limit yourself you will find that happiness is fleeting, life is short and work is never ending.

Dream. Dream BIG! Imagine yourself in every situation you encounter and embrace the possibility of living in those different ways on purpose. Imagine being healthy for life. Imagine living on the moon. Imagine creating a new work week where we spend more time with family and friends and less time in a cubicle. See yourself doing what you love for as long as you live. Imagine having a magic wand and creating a life you have never seen before. Don't repeat what has been done, forge new territory with your dreams. See beyond what is to what will be. Stretch your mind, your heart and your eyes. Growth happens when you do more than you have done before. This is the secret to life, continue to create without looking backwards and repeating how it was done. Move forward instead of treading water. In a limitless universe there are no excuses, no reasons why something cannot be; in a limitless universe we have all we need, you & me.

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pretty fractal

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Tea. Dreaming BIG. Big Dreams Coming True. Fall Days. Working From Home.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

It is a rare day where someone tells me to work harder, do more or simply just tell me that it is awesome that I don't sleep very much because I am following my calling. More often than not I am told, in so many words, to be mediocre. My focused attention to doing what I am passionate about, what calls to me, at the level that I am happy with (heading towards perfection) tends to bring up for others how they would or wouldn't do what I do. If someone needs sleep and they see that I don't get it, they tell me that I need it. If someone doesn't have passion for their work, they let me know that I need to work less. It is so not the norm to set and reach goals that don't have immediate gratification. Vision is rarely encouraged until people have proof, or the vision is now a thing in the world.

Generally people don't understand what it takes to dream big and realize those dreams. Everything in the world that we use, that we take for granted, was a dream, was created and didn't exist at some point. Usually, dreams aren't nurtured in most; honestly, dreams are discouraged and belittled more than they are encouraged. We tell children to slow down, be careful, don't risk. We ask our peers to do less, chill out, have fun! Because people compare themselves to one another so aggressively there is a lot of holding back of each other so as to not feel left behind, whether consciously or unconsciously. It comes up with my clients all of the time when they embark on a journey to lose weight and get healthy after years of being overweight and oftentimes miserable. As soon as they begin to change in the direction of their goals they are asked or warned by their family and friends to not "overdo" it. When someone suffers a heart attack after years of food and drug (smoking, alcohol, etc) abuse few, if anyone, tell them that it was because they overdid it in the negative. Mediocrity, unhealthy, and abusive behaviors are fostered in so many ways that most don't want to acknowledge because they would, in turn, have to change themselves.

It may be a good idea to take a look at how you support your family and friends. Pay attention to what you say and how you judge the drive of others. What scares you about someone being obsessive about their dreams? What does it bring up for you? The real lesson is in your paying attention to how you feel about someone doing the extraordinary… what comes up for you when someone leaps towards something that isn't practical or normal? When we can allow ourselves, and others, to go after the biggest, scariest and most difficult thing without criticism, we may begin to see some immediate improvement in all of our lives. Let people be great with your support instead of succeeding despite not getting it.

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your-dreams-are-counting-on-it

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Friends. Body Camp. Sweating Daily. My Couch. Socks.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Patience is such a beautiful thing. It is one of the major elements to a happy life. With patience all things are possible… same with love. Those two things pretty much make everything shiny, sparkly and new. Patience requires big shifts for most people; shifting the idea that things are supposed to happen immediately and that taking time is wasting time. We rush to get well by taking pills that are supposed to heal us or make us feel better, quickly; we rush to get to and fro because we are over scheduled and pushed to our limits time-wise. Basically we feel like everything is an emergency, we have forgotten what it is like to let things come when they are ready. We are always looking for the fastest way to something or away from something else.

Not only do we want the world to operate on a level of immediacy we want each individual to change and grow on our schedule. We have taken away the gestation period and replaced it with impatience and a lack of compassion. Not only do we have no patience for the outside world to move at the pace that is natural and necessary, we have no patience for ourselves to go through our life without trying to numb, speed up or deny our reality. We lose out on the lessons that patience has packed full for us to learn and grow from. Many times experiences are repeated because we refuse to see in them their point. We race past the experiences that we don't enjoy and try to hold onto the ones we do. Knowing that all things come in time and all things pass with time takes a lot of stress away and opens you up to growth.

Knowing that it is all on schedule, including the birth of a baby after a due date that was made up by a person who couldn't possibly know when the baby was done cooking, takes away the urgency for what isn't happening to happen. When you have faith, the key to patience, that you will get what you have worked for, you will receive the blessings due to you and that you will be ok, you can spend time enjoying all of your moments. You stop worrying, you quit stressing and you begin to see the processes, all of which you were once trying to skip over, as cherished time to get. During the time you now see as a blessing you get to other thoughts, ideas and are able to get different things done in the meantime. Instead of pushing things to completion, you recognize the journey is the gift and patience is it's guide.

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patience

xo a

What's Good???

Good Afternoon!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

New York Visits. Airplanes. Tea. Seattle. Love.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

I was visiting family this past week in NYC and am always reminded at how much I love my relatives. I see, as I age, how much I am loved as well but that I also need boundaries around those who have yet to have them for themselves. I also must remember, which is easy for me to do, that we only treat others how we treat ourselves. We all want love, we all need love. We all want support, we all need support. No matter where you are, what you are doing, these things are always the case. You are not an island and you cannot do it all on your own. Even if it is just interacting with others, we need that connection and it is always more fun when the interaction is one where we feel love and respect. So why do we have so many issues being kind to one another? What is so hard about respecting and being generous with each other? Well, if you have a hard time doing that for yourself then you most certainly will be short and impatient with those around you.

We forget, when people have been in our lives for a long time, how to be careful with them, how to show them kindness and reverence. We forget because we lose sight of who and what we all are, we aren't supported around our divinity and in all honesty, we are told that we aren't divine, but sinful and worthless in so many ways. So it is no wonder that we start to treat each other with spite and disrespect. We don't truly know how we are just putting on others what we feel for ourselves. The thing is, it isn't that difficult to come back to where we started if you just begin practicing a few things to wake yourself up.

You can start to ask yourself questions before you open your mouth to speak or send energy out to anyone. Is what I am doing/saying moving me in the direction of love or not? It is never too much to think before you say or do. Acknowledge whether what your words are helpful or hurtful to the relationship you are engaged in. Know why you are doing what you are doing, be clear and honest with yourself. Then remember what you want is what everyone else wants too; love, respect, attention, stability. We really are one and the same when you drill down deep enough. When you ask yourself if you are coming from a place of love and support before you communicate the whole world opens up in a way that is hard to comprehend until you do it. What do you have to lose? Better question, what do you have to gain?

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divine

xo a

What's Good???

Good Afternoon!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Psychic Ability. Home Cooked Food. Fall Weather. Possibility. Support.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

You will do what you are doing until you don't want to do it anymore. That is how it works, always. So many people want to know why they keep doing what they are doing, why they won't stop. Well, think about it, what have you stopped doing in the past? Was it eating potato chips (my past issue) or snorting cocaine (again, my issue… kidding). Either way when you want to be done you will be done. Think about how you feel when you know that you don't want something. It is clearer than a newly washed window or a summer sky in Seattle. There is no doubt, when you are through, that you are through.

This idea may ruffle some feathers with people who feel like some are addicted and have no choice and blah blah blah… I get it. I really do. When you take the position that everything you do is a choice you don't allow any part of a victim mentality to come into play you are left to take full responsibility of every aspect of your experience on this plane. This is rarely what we want to do. A good old blame card in the back pocket gives one a great sense of security. You can decide that it is the fault of nature or your upbringing or your bad luck that is to blame for your personal situation. You can spill coffee on your lap and sue the company that sold it to you for not letting you know it was hot. We are almost always looking for a way to not be in charge so we can sit on our asses and not take responsibility.

The time is ripe for all of us to stand up. We have deferred, numbed, ignored, run away and denied our power for way too long. Your mother isn't the reason, your father isn't the reason, your history doesn't have to be the reason anymore. You, reading this, now have a choice to see where you have refused to accept that you can change the next steps and ultimately the outcome. What do you want to move away from in your world? What would you like to eliminate from your bag of tricks? What emotional, physical or spiritual skill would you like to attain? When you decide you want something different than what you have, you will go after it… until then own that you want to be where you are. Own that some part of you is being served by your powerlessness or has been and now just may be the right time to grow up.

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achievement-cropped

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Sydnee. Staying Up. Sleeping In. My Guitar. Tuesdays.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

I may be chronologically 39 but in reality I am ageless. I enjoy my life and everything in it. This acceptance and ability to go with the flow keeps me bouncing around the same way I did when I was 30 years younger. I enjoy the unknown (it is like christmas morning to me) and love surprises. I look forward to playing and am never bored. Life is best lived in the moment and our moments are so abundant that it is like winning the lottery on a daily basis to me, this life. So much to see, learn and do. So many people to love and to love you back. Growing up is fantastic if you never let go of love and curiosity. The thing is, many people believe that growing up means leaving the parts of life that were fun, silly, experimental, wondrous and curious behind. I believe that aging, in part, is due to the cutting off of the vital energetic flow. We prepare for and accelerate our demise with the present day belief of what growing up is.

If you are someone who spends most of their time unimpressed with the things around them you might be suffering from "grownupitis" and there is a way out; it doesn't have to be terminal. You can find your way back to love, joy and fun no matter how far down the path to stagnation you have run. The first thing you will need to recognize is that love, joy and fun are never far from you… they are residents inside of you. You may have neglected them but they won't leave, they just need to be nurtured, watered as it were. One of the best ways to nurture love, joy and fun is to do something that you deem immature or childish… or that you may believe is for kids only, like hopscotch, swings, jump rope, trampoline, thumb wrestling, making faces, juggling, playing with putty, coloring or simply dancing around your house. Do something that takes away any sign of appropriateness away, like a whoopie cushion in a board meeting! Let go of trying to control an outcome and just do some stuff for fun. See how it feels to be free.

The second thing that can help you live your moments with reckless abandon is to own your feelings and let others own theirs too. When you release the need to control others you have more time to have fun. Seriously. When you stop trying to get everything to work out in some way or another you have more time to do the things you love. We make things so complicated and we resist the abundance of ease that actually exists. When you love something love it, when you don't, don't. We put up so many walls to love, joy, fun and wonder based on beliefs that are absolutely arbitrary. Create the reality you would like to live in and then live in it! This is your journey, your path, your universe… explore it, love it!

happiness_boy
happiness_boy

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Amy Morgan and her magic. Breaker's Kids. A Day of Play. My Amazing Life. Rainy Days.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Stop asking your partner to feel differently. We are individuals, even if we are married. If your partner is unhappy, feels angry, sad, happy etc. that is their RIGHT. You asking them to not feel the way that they do is selfish, not loving and actually inappropriate. You cannot blame them for your response to their feelings. Let me repeat, you CAN NOT blame them for how you respond to how they feel (and be healthy). Stop being a baby. Stop looking for someone else to figure out what it is your job to figure out. You are going to have to figure this out sooner or later… the world doesn't revolve around you. You decide how you feel based on your life and your feelings support your philosophies on the world. Change what you believe and your change how you respond. Yes, it is as easy as that.

Your feelings are YOURS and your partner's feelings are theirs. That is pretty simple to get, no? Ok then get it! What they feel never did, nor does it now, have ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU. If they say it does, they are mistaken and tell them so. If they say it doesn't, then YAY, they just may be a keeper. If you are confused about what is yours and what is their's then read slowly: If you are thinking it, saying it, feeling it and seeing it then IT IS YOURS. Is that clear? Yes, this is true. Please ask any and all questions you have about this as I know it is tricky for you folks.

Just because you are married or partnered in some way does not, I repeat DOES NOT mean that your partner will be able to comfort, understand, know, hear, listen, and support you in the way you need it when you need it. Being partnered does not make someone perfect, healthy, loving, understanding, happy, brilliant, a miracle worker, magic, fantastic, and immune to being human. Stop expecting what you won't give to yourself from someone else. This is the most important point… Are you taking care of yourself??? How in the hell is someone else going to do it if you aren't? How is someone going to respect boundaries when you don't set any? How is someone supposed to give you the love you have always wanted when you are JUST figuring it out??? Please, please, please think before you speak, reflect before you blame (and then just DON'T blame, it is no one's fault but your own as to why you are where you are) and forgive yourself for not being where you weren't.

You will be fine.

forestgirl
forestgirl

xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Readings by David Zarza www.davidzarza.com Resting When Needed. Intimacy. My Gifts. My Ridiculous Cat and Dog.

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Most people believe in mistakes. I am not most people. I believe that everything is as it was destined to be. Yes, destined. There is the fact that I believe destiny is infinite possibility, all of which are either more of what you want or less of what you want. When you receive less of what you want as a result of a decision you made you consider it a mistake. When you get more of what you want out of a decision you call it "the right choice." I get it, most folks would consider not getting what you want a mistake, as if what you wanted was destined, or supposed to happen. Sometimes the things we want the least are exactly the things we need for parts of our world that don't exist yet. There are a lot of inventions that have come about due to mistakes; some examples are the slinky, penicillin, chocolate chip cookies, potato chips, the pacemaker, silly putty, post-it notes, x-rays, just to name several. Maybe mistakes have taken a bad rap, maybe what is supposed to happen is what actually happens, not what we want to happen.

What if everything was as it should be? What if there was NOTHING wrong? What if you couldn't make a mistake? Well, you can't unless you want to. You have to make a decision about whether something is a mistake or not. Whatever the outcome of your decisions, actions, etc. is all happening for your souls benefit. Most often we don't think on the level of what our soul would want (and honestly most don't think about their being levels of themselves), let alone make sure we see our "errors" as possible necessities for growth. Look back on your life and find five "mistakes." What came, or is still coming from those experiences. When you accept that decisions don't always mean you are going to be happy with the result, and that is less about you getting what you want and more about you allowing in what you need, you are less likely to make mistakes.

I, personally, don't make mistakes. All the peaks and valleys in my life have been so key to who I am today. My life wouldn't be mine without every single detail that I have lived… and I LOVE my life. I give appreciation to the challenges and the joys, the successes and the woes. Life is colorful and unpredictable. When you are faced with something that you would rather not be faced with, that you want to run and hide from, that you might begin to feel shame around or judge, stop. Stop and shift your perspective. Ask yourself what you would do with this moment if it had been what you wanted? Ask yourself what you need to glean from this experience as it stands? When you can fully open yourself and allow fluidity where there was rigidity, joy and happiness become your baseline.

Mistakes are for those who don't accept the true beauty of life. Let the worn out idea of things being wrong go and begin to see all that is right in the world and your life.

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xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!!  How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day?  This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back…  put it out there!  Let the world feel your appreciation!  Let's make a difference.    

This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

My Website www.coachaina.com. Soreness From Great Workouts. My Bed. Growth. Goals.

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Being cold, unfeeling, impenetrable and aloof may seem like signs of security, that someone doesn't need other's approval or attention, yet it is more a sign of insecurity.  When you don't feel loved, lovable or loving you aren't going to readily accept those things in your life.  You push them away, pretending that they don't really matter (if you are good at spinning things) or you are depressed and present as desperate for anyone to give you attention and love.  Those extremes are signs of imbalance.  When you find the person who is basically a monk or the one that can never sleep alone you are looking at two sides of the same coin.  Insecurity makes you feel uncomfortable, brings up feelings that you'd rather get away from and is deeply tied into self-worth, esteem and love.

When you try to manage around your insecurity instead of dealing with it head on, pain and suffering ensue; usually for you.  Your feelings become distorted, because you are suppressing or distorting them yourself.  Your relationships are usually not fulfilling; and not only with others, but with yourself. Insecurity is insidious and doesn't allow you to feel at ease at all. There is always some sort of lack, dissatisfaction or uneasiness in your world when insecurity is allowed to live within.  Often those who are insecure are also victims in their world.  They find that things happen to them, that they don't have a say over their journey; it is like they are on a rollercoaster and cannot get off.

Insecurity isn't a life sentence, not at all.  You are absolutely capable of moving beyond it and finding your center.  It takes work, vigilance and desire. Loving yourself is the cure.  Not wearing nice clothing, working out, eating right, or getting rid of the dead weight (people, jobs or places) in your life isn't what I am talking about, only.  Those things are key to self-love, by the way, but the deep stuff, the self talk, belief, understanding that you are here and meant to be here.  That you matter, that you are a gift, a miracle.  When you understand, not know, but understand and believe these truths insecurity is left without oxygen to breathe.  When you recognize your divinity, your awesomeness you are no longer bruised by life's ups and downs, the fickleness of a lover, the dissatisfaction at a job.  You take it as a learning moment and move on.

Keep on keeping on… your time is here and you are doing what you need to in order to reach your soul's goal in this world.  I am proud of you.

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xo a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Cool Temperatures at Night. My Pets. Time. My Life. Muscles. Coach Aina Body Camp - http://coachaina.com/body-camp/

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

Imagine that you only know one trillionth of the things that could be known… and most of what could be known conflicts with what you know. Imagine that you, your government, your clergy, your fellow-man is as clueless as a fly trying to get out of your house. Imagine that the universe doesn't center around any hypothesis we humans come up with. Imagine that you really don't know. If you do this, if you open up the truth of the matter, which is, we are always proven to be incorrect in regards to our theories on everything if enough time goes by, then you can start to truly take things in, learn, experience, and wonder. We get super caught up in believing that science isn't based on an arbitrary understanding of experience. We get super distracted by the idea that one way of knowing is better than another… that feelings are less real than a science experiment.

We imagine that it is impossible to travel at the speed of light because things would become too large as they picked up speed, according to Einstein's theory of relativity. We may need to find worm holes or warp speeds in order to make interstellar travel possible. What if traveling over large distances isn't done in the way that we think at the moment. It is akin to a cave man thinking that to talk to someone far away we would need to be able to speak really, really loud. How would a caveman think of a phone or text or email? We are these cavemen and it would serve us well to recognize that we are absolutely clueless… about most everything.

When you can look at your life and recognize that you really don't know anything, you are less judgmental, you are less concerned with having to know, and you are able to learn at a rate and about things that you would otherwise brush off as impossible (as if you would know what was or wasn't possible… when most people don't even know how a computer works, bees fly, or why we exist). Our egos, our need to be right and to control gets in our way much the same way our ego does when things are going well for us. We are small and new and revolve around something else. It isn't the other way around… we aren't the sun, though we reflect it and shine ourselves. We aren't the earth, though we are a part of it and call it home. We are a part of something big, way bigger than we can, at this moment, comprehend. It isn't for us to know exactly yet why and how… I believe we learn and come across all that we are supposed to when we are supposed to. Until then I believe we will keep exploring our world; both the small outer world we share and the infinite inner one as well.

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xo

a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!! How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day? This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back… put it out there! Let the world feel your appreciation! Let's make a difference.

This only takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer. So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself. Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well). What are you feeling gratitude around? Here are mine for this week:

Rearranging furniture. Dreams. My closet. Visits from friends. Woo. Coach Aina Body Camp - http://coachaina.com/body-camp/

There are no right or wrong answers. It is about what you are grateful for. It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights. You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

When you get tired of the drama it will end. When you decide you don't need the craziness in order to learn how, when, where, what and why you will be able to side-step the seemingly ridiculous that has been a part of your life up to that point. For most it takes the big stuff to pay attention to the small stuff. Someone has to die in order for us to appreciate those that are alive. Someone has to get sick in order for health to be at the forefront. Someone has to leave us for us to begin to understand how we leave ourselves. Someone has to feel love before they feel loved. We wait until a lightening bolt hits us to allow our hearts to beat. When we recognize the miracle, the amazing magic that is every moment we won't need the big stuff to remind us of what we already know.

You can actually walk around every day and recognize the greatness that exists. You can purposefully live your life and make choices that reflect that purpose. You can acknowledge what each moment in your life brings to you by changing your default to wonder, awe and reverence. When you walk under, around, and inside of those feelings you begin to see what you could not without fireworks going off in some way. When you default to love you can, in a detached non-dramatic way, see the why, learn the lesson and walk on by. You don't need to be hit over the head to recognize the lessons in every breath of life.

So, if you are tired of the drama, if you want to live a seemingly unexciting (in the scandalous way) life, stop inviting drama in. Pay attention to your truth, what is happening for you. Notice how you create your world by having perspective. Stop eating like shit, stop thinking like shit, stop living with shit you haven't addressed. Quit trying to hide behind old stories (you call them beliefs). Stop trying to seem like something you aren't and stop blaming. Ultimately, you must stop judging. When you judge something as bad or a thing you would never do the universe likes to prove you wrong, cue drama. When you see the connectedness of all things all things become yours to learn from and to love.

seychelle

xo

a

What's Good???

Good Morning!!! Tuesday Gratitude Practice is here!!!  How will you take what you are grateful for through the rest of your day?  This isn't just about writing it down and sending it back…  put it out there!  Let the world feel your appreciation!  Let's make a difference.    

This only  takes a few moments to do but gives to you for much, much longer.  So put down whatever you are doing and take a couple of minutes for yourself.  Every Tuesday morning I am going to ask you to write down 5 things that you are grateful for and email them to me (keep for yourself as well).  What are you feeling gratitude around?  Here are mine for this week:

Cool Breezes on Hot Days.

My Space.  

Woo With Amy.

Push-Ups at 2am.

Finding Lost Things.

Coach Aina Body Camp - http://coachaina.com/body-camp/ 

There are no right or wrong answers.  It is about what you are grateful for.   It is proven that doing this once a week for three months (actually just 9 weeks) makes you happier, healthier, exercise more and less sensitive to perceived slights.  You will sweat the small stuff less and focus on what really matters.

So… what are you waiting for???

Food for thought:

We take things way too seriously in my opinion.  We get so bent out of shape about the smallest things.  We stress and worry and stress and worry some more.  We think that things are supposed to be smooth and without hiccups when what we don't understand is that our definition of smooth and without hiccups is just an opinion, not a fact.  We have decided what it means for something to "go on without a problem."  Though there has never been a problem that was universally a problem.  Problems are perspectives not facts.

How would your life change if you recognized that your issues are perspectives?  Take for example relationship woes, who hasn't had those?  What if you saw the areas of difficulty as benefits.  What better environment to work on bettering yourself than with someone who wants to be with you?  When you see struggle as a partner to growth you can appreciate the times you didn't understand or know something as gifts.  If you were a teacher you wouldn't give calculus to a 6-year-old who didn't show the signs of being a math prodigy, correct?  Well, the universe isn't going to bring to you areas of development if you weren't ready to receive, make sense of and use them to move forward.

When you recognize that you are on the path you were meant to be, hiccups and all, you can let go of stressing and worrying about the way things are playing out.  You can begin to look at your life as perfectly designed for you to be all that you can be.  The work is in you taking each opportunity for what it is.  The best part is the universe never gives up on you; you will have more opportunities to figure your sh*t out, believe me.  I can't say the same for relationships, some of those will end if you choose to put off growing and developing in a timely manner (timely as defined by your partner).  So, instead of wasting time, because that is what lamentation, worry, stress, fear is, take what you need to get you to your becoming as it is handed to you every single day.

Remember, the force is always with you because you are the force.

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