Hello, We are responsible for each other in a way that may not seem obvious. I don't mean as mother and child, husband and wife, brother and sister. I don't mean in the way of volunteering by handing out food and clothing to the disenfranchised. I don't mean by taking care of an elderly neighbor's lawn in the summertime or helping someone across the street. All of these things are wonderful and natural ways we show love to one another but there is a responsibility that I feel we have failed miserably in meeting. We don't allow others to be who they are. We don't give people the space to become who they are and support needed to blossom into their ideal selves.
What we do is quickly give humans the rules to what is right and what is wrong. Humans get bullied from very early on. Before we ever find out what someone wants we tell them what is and isn't ok to want. We set up a system (in every culture) that is based on things we were told, that were based on things that the ones who told us were told, etc. without giving that much thought to whether or not most people are ok with the system or whether the system actually works. When someone doesn't fit into the structure that was set up before they existed they are either crazy, evil, an abomination, wrong or a misfit. There isn't a lot of room to be accepted when you don't fit the norm in most societies. When we create right we create wrong. You cannot say something is good without deciding that there are things that are bad. When you create an extreme you create it's opposite; is this what being responsible for one another means? To determine who is bad and who is good. What do we base it on? What the majority are doing or not doing (that they will admit to)? What some religious document says? What happens to those who are wrong in our society? What happens to the misfits?
I truly believe that we are responsible for those who feel left out, bullied by a society that never gave them a chance; told that they were wrong for feeling, thinking, saying something that went against what society has determined as ok to say, think or feel. When we set up a system that automatically rules out certain types of people as worthy in a systematic way (the way that we do in this country) we have neglected our responsibility to love each other as ourselves because we are connected. We have forgotten that we cannot exist separate from one another. We are all necessary and important and responsible for each other in a deep way that never touches on aiding with groceries to someone's car… though that is important and it does matter. However, we are responsible to each other in the way to not cause harm, to not destroy, to not judge. When we decide that someone is less than we tear a part of them away. We build up rage that at some point will have to come out. We create dangerous situations and hazardous environments when we push others down for being who they are.
I believe we need to allow what is. We need to allow everyone to communicate who they feel they are, what their desires are and how they see the world. We need to learn boundaries at a young age so we can become aware of where I begin and you end. We need to help others love who they are and find their own voice. We need to discuss what it means to be aware. We need to be very careful with each other's hearts. We need to take ownership of our feelings and not blame others for the things that don't belong to them (like our feelings). We need to understand when we judge others we are judging ourselves. We need to understand that we cannot always be comfortable and things aren't always going to be the way we would prefer them to be, nor are people. We need to understand that it isn't our responsibility to put one another down or to marginalize each other, but to uplift and propel each other forward. I believe we need to first do this for ourselves, once we are no longer in the direct care of others. Once we have given ourselves permission to feel what we feel and be who we are without the judgement, we can decide if it is what we want to keep or not. Acceptance is power; the power to change, the power to heal; the power to move on. Our responsibility, in my opinion, is to accept each other. Embrace each other. To love.